I have a friend ; My nick name for her is; DB. I really love her, alot; as a friend.
I have know DB, since I was 13......So, for a little while eh?. Sure there has been
periods, in which we would go months, and months without talking with one another,as we were both busy living our own lifes. However, when we did find time
to talk or visit, we would pick right back up where we left off. Friends for life, type of thing
DB, met a fine Man 12 years ago,and they married. They shared a loving union, durring this time,and I was very happy for her. Then one night; her husband, unexpectedly died in her arms of a heart attack. That was 3 years ago.
For past year and a half, DB and I have talked more frequent, and visited in the physical, when possible (no sex)We shared, as true friends do, the highs, and lows of everyday life,as well as the special events that may have happened on any
given day. The laughter, the honesty, and the security of this friendship, I came to really appreciate !
Then it happened !.........Three months ago, DB, says "hof" I'm in love with you!...... Since, I did'nt have these type of feelings for her; I honestly, did not know what to do. So that's what I did "nothing" No phone calls, No emails did I send, her way. I rationalized; because of her Husbands death; she may be experiencing some transference with me. So I felt I needed to give her some space, so she could reach her own realization. For two months I did this, and it
was hard, because; I missed my friend.....
Last week, I could wait no more. I called her....It was awkward for a bit.
Slowly we begain; to talk of ,our hearts, and our beliefs...........It was looking good,
and I slowly started to feel I have my special friend back!..............Then,
Her next words were, "'hof" I'm in love with you!!!....................................
I replied back to her, "DB, I don't know much, of feelings, and such, but I do
know, I should feel that special something that makes me want, to be inside of you, and I love you,........ as a friend
If only;" I'm in love with you," was enough
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scorpiogirl36
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Jan 9 @ 9:13PM
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Your blog blew me away.... 
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luneib
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Jan 9 @ 10:56PM
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Wow, it's hard for a lady to hear a guy just loves her as a friend, especially when her feelings are much stronger for you. I also have a friend like that whom I had fallen in love with, but...he only loved me as a friend. It happens. I hope she remains friends with you, good friendships are hard to come by. 
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DaisyMae420
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Jan 9 @ 11:01PM
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All I can say is...Oh Hof...I think sometimes it's hard to love someone and not understand why it's not romantic love if the people are opposite gender (or for that matter same if that's what floats their boat). Life is confusing...I hope you are able to get to a place again where the friendship continues to be. 
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WouldntItBeGr8To
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Jan 10 @ 12:10AM
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Wow.....and after 2 months and the long talk, she still felt the same?
I am sure losing someone that way can bring up so many emotions for her and you are a safe place for her to go...but in time she will see there are others.
I have so many women friends, women like to have male friends, we can be few and far between, but I have always done my best to keep dropping hints that this is best, to stay friends...one night in the sack can ruin everything.
But I have been alone so long now LOL, I am thinking...hmmmm, how many friends does one need  ...  ... 
 Just keep being you Hof
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misschoos
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Jan 10 @ 5:59AM
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~*~
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browneyedone
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Jan 10 @ 6:59PM
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Ya Never Know
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butterfly943
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Jan 10 @ 7:07PM
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Wow 
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hoftner
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Jul 27 @ 9:28PM
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update....
well, she and I are talking on ocassion . We're
friendly,but things are a little strained. She is dating
now. So, in time I am hoping we can get past this
and remain good friends
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