Yesterday was our first date. Ok, it wasn't "our" but it was my son's first date. And since 14 yr olds cant drive, I got to tag along.
All day, I am excited as though it would be my first date. He comes in from school, does a little homework, then is out the door to play basketball. If he was nervous or excited, I couldnt see it. I am getting ready to go, doing hair and makeup. I realized at the moment how easy it is for men to get ready for a date.
My "Little Prince", borrows my blowdry and I take this time to explain to him how he is to behave. "When we get there, go to the door, ring the doorbell, ask if "Bella" is ready. When we get to the resturant open the door for both of us." Little Prince said "you are kidding. This isnt the Eigthies!" Explaining that this is the way gentlemen act, no matter what year it is.
"Bella" is a beautiful girl. She was so nervous about eating in front of "Little Prince". It was so much fun watching them and seeing how nervous they are around each other.
Actually, it was a peace offering. Being a mom is tough, much less trying to raise a child with morals.
While at skating the previous weekend, Bella texted me from Little Prince's cell phone asking if he could go with them the next day. It was explained there was a birthday party. I asked all the traditional questions when, where, who, etc. I also told the mom I do not want the kids left alone.
My gut was telling me something wasnt right. I told the Little Prince, I would confirm the plans with the "Guardian". Oh yes, the detail I omitted. Bella's mom doesnt have custody of her children. Prince texted his girlfriend and told her I would be confirming the details of the next day. She returned the text saying "nevermind, cya Monday". He was crushed and furious with me.
I am not one that checks my voice mail often, but after date night I did, and found a voice mail from the mom, wanting to clear up any misunderstanding, that the kids just wanted to watch a movie together.
I have real issues with parents that try to be their childrens bestfriend, to the point that they will set them up for failure. You do NOT leave 14 yr old bf/gf home alone. Have you lost your mind? You do not have the right to interfer with the way I am raising my son.
Now, I have another problem. I have a parent I know I cant trust my son with. She lied to me about their plans. It is hard enough for kids now, without a person that is suppose to be an adult going against the beliefs of another adult. I am trying to raise a Christian child, with morals. This line should have never been crossed with me!
I do have time to be a parent, I can be his friend when he is grown
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missliss78
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Jan 16 @ 9:38PM
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 Right on, bama!
It's seen all too often nowadays.....the "best friend" syndrome.
Don't get too uptight about it....I recall my nephew, when he was around the same age as your son saying he wasn't "normal" because his parents wouldn't take him to the mall & drop him off & leave him for the evening! Now that he is in his early 30s with a child of his own, he seems to have a perfect understanding. 
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Jacksonboy
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Jan 16 @ 9:39PM
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Well at least now you know. Parents that watch and check can sometimes prevent teenage pregnancy. Keep your eyes on all teenagers as best you can.
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ttomtarr
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Jan 17 @ 12:21AM
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Be his best friend after he turns 30. Until then hold steady on your pressent course.
Sounds to me like you are doing well. He is lucky to have you, but may not realize it for a few years. The fact they tried a ruse means he already knows you won't go for any foolishsness.
Good blog, and great parenting.
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daisy315
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Jan 17 @ 1:51AM
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Stay on track Bama !.. at times, he might not like ya and your rules.. but he will ALWAYS love ya..
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