How Many Rounds? posted 1/31/2009 8:10:04 PM | 6 kudos what's this?     report abuse tagged: argument, blogs, questions

EquuisdancerDbndon

I’ve never read a blogger’s fight
And I never wish to read one.
But if there is a blogger’s fight,
I’d rather read it than be in one.

The words “get a room” come to mind on this topic. That is, MD needs a private argue room where the belligerent among us can go duke it out in private -- and leave the rest of us out of it. Or mayber we also need a “time out” room where those slinging nasty remarks can cool their heels for a couple days while in blog-land limbo.

Some arguments tend to remind me of junior-high school. First we get two people slinging insults in public. Then, some of us compound the problem by taking up sides and somewhat egging them on. Aren’t we supposed to be adults here?

I can still remember the sage words of my old grandfather when I was a kid: “Never argue with an idiot in public because it only takes a moment or two before the onlookers cannot tell which one is the idiot.” That is, we tend to quickly get dragged down to their level and actually start sounding like them.

Think not? Re-read some of the arguments without first reading how it all started and see for yourself. Then, remember that many of those who are not every-day bloggers on here do just that with almost every argument. We’ve sat here a few times and wondered how and why an argument started without being able to find the beginning. So, if that happens with us, I’m betting it happens with many others.

This means, of course, that often someone can be seen as whining away about someone or something without full explanation and so coming off greatly different than they expected. Sure, they could be exactly correct in what they are saying and have good cause to write those words. But, quite often that is not at all how it looks to the casual reader, because a casual reader probably does not know the complete story.

I think of this as being something like a party at someone’s home. Surely, everyone is not expected to act like best buddies with everyone attending and there will be differences of opinion from time to time. Generally speaking, however, everyone attending would be expected to act polite with everyone else attending, even if they do not talk with them unless necessary. Otherwise, it wouldn’t be much of a fun party.

Same thing here. I’ve read blogs that I didn’t agree with and/or didn’t even understand why someone would take the time to write such a thing. My fix is to move on to the next blog, rather than comment. The problem is self adjusting, actually. Those who spew uninteresting drivel will soon realize it because they will not get readers after a while.

We look at out favorites and friends lists first to see who has written lately. Then, we go to the blog list and scan it for interesting or amusing articles. Thankfully, those constantly writing argumentative and/or belligerent posts are not on our lists -- and shall not be.

We have nothing against friendly banter and many around here know just how true that is. However, we can joke around and still keep it polite and (hopefully) interesting and funny.

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