Someone once said that when “life” around you seems to be changing, but you are not changing with it, it’s probably because you are getting old. I think they are full if it. But then, I probably don’t get a vote because I’m already “older.”
A while back, a nephew came over with a fancy new camera. The thing cost many hundreds of bucks. Of course, he is also a graduate of this area’s best photography school and opened a small studio downtown. So, why does he display some of the photos I took with an old 35 mm film camera and my little 5 mega-pixel Kodak? Simple: As we used to say about cameras, they are just the film holder, it’s the eye of the nut behind them that “frames” both the content and the subject of the photo.
I was pleasantly surprised to notice that Dancer has a good eye for that stuff, but she doesn’t fully realize it yet and I haven’t mentioned it (until she reads this).
Those forty-something folks often watch us when we’re out and about, wondering why two “seniors” are walking around looking so friendly and a bit affectionate. Nope, we’re not out of control about it, either; it’s just a closeness that can be seen by others.
But, you know, I wonder about them, too. That is, if you are a couple, should you act like you are afraid to stand close to -- and even touch – the other once in a while? I mean, what the hell, you’ve already traded germs & stuff many times before, so what’s the problem? I always thought that stuff was common courtesy as well as affection, but I guess things have changed.
The last few times Dancer and I have been out shopping, I have not noticed even one couple acting like they might really care about each other. Not even one! No one else holding hands, standing close to talk or anything. Shame on them!
And whatever happened to “please” and “thank you” when dealing with the folks operating stores and restaurants? I hear grunts, and the occasional “have a good day,” but little of the politeness usually associated with easy-going discourse. Hell, even a casual “take it easy” would be better than the way many people act. “Good,” and/or “okay,” is not a very polite answer to most questions nor a proper response to service rendered. “I’m out of here” is even worse.
Of course, a lot of that seems to go right along with today’s dress code. There isn’t any, it seems. I’ve seen people shopping at busy stores with all sorts of different body parts exposed and some looking like they are better dressed for sunbathing in the back yard.
Yeah, I know, I’m probably not supposed to be looking -- even though some of that is interesting to watch. Because, you know how it goes if an older guy like me just “glances” as a semi-dressed young chick for anything longer then a half-second. . . . .
Sometimes it’s better to be older. We’re polite and dress properly, therefore get served faster and often get out of stores quicker. Well . . . one of us likes to meander a little and look at stuff, but that’s a whole other story for another day.
Of course, I can’t say too darn much about that stuff because if you get me to the electronics section, I may be there a while.
Life is comfortable for us here in our little section of Michigan. Being “older” means that we do not have to conform to the mores and actions of some others. We’ll continue right on living our lives our way. “Doing your own thing” some called that when we were younger. It’s working well for us.
Now we call it “being retired.”
~ DbnDon
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1frantastic
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Feb 20 @ 9:43PM
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yeaaaaaaaa retirement it is.....don't punch a clock! matter of fact...what time is it?nevermind...time is of no rush to me....if I do it ok..if not? so what? I put in my 50 yrs and I am going to do NOTHING just because I CAN! lol...     
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summerbreeze916
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Feb 20 @ 11:02PM
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I rarely see couples touching either. It seems they don't have the spark for anything anymore. Pretty sad, really. I think walking hand in hand is one of the most awesome things! 
Great blog............ 
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Herodotus
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Feb 21 @ 2:11AM
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I think those who will take the lead are destined to follow. Your blogs continue to shape a path for others. We claim to have become more liberated as a society yet we wrap ourselves in stereotypes. Touching and displaying affection, for me, has nothing to do with a potential audience but has everything to do with how I feel in a paticular moment.
True love occurs on my levels of experience Don't let others rob you of the rights you are still discovering. Let them follow when they are able to catch up.
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EquuisdancerDbndon
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Feb 21 @ 3:33AM
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I rarely see couples touching either. It seems they don't have the spark for anything anymore.
I’m a natural people watcher. One very interesting thing to me is that how some people notice how we are with each other. For instance, while walking through a large parking lot late one night for Christmas shopping, a couple almost our age noticed us, hand in hand, going to the store. She poked him and he looked, and then took her hand. Well . . . yeah . . . it was very icy out there -- besides, that was a nice thing to do, I thought. . . .
We present ourselves as joking, kidding and even arguing with each other at lot, and I notice that quite a few people key in on that and enjoy watching. Everyone seems to realize it’s all in fun, so that works well. Even the old fuddy-duddies usually realize we’re just playing and smile a bit -- especially the women.
Walking hand in hand is common for us. There is no real intent, it just happens.
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cowboy2x4
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Feb 23 @ 1:54PM
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When people stop loving themselves,
they can no longer love others!!!!!
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