I met someone. I think there cute.. There is good communication....
Natural response is to get closer... But you met threw the net... So I tell them no touching rule to I get to know you..
They all brake it...... I have no idea why they just can't be patient...These people I met are stranger.. Granted we exchanged emails...I liked them.. I don't know them..
Like in town you ask a round you know who they slept with. How they treat people..
On the net there's none of that.. So it you don't have the patience to wait till I have a chance to get to know you and trust you..
It's only a stranger I met...The one who respect me end up getting closer...
That's how it works for me. It gives me time to figure out if I'm with a married man too.
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blue130160
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Apr 18 @ 1:27PM
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Well what do you think...   give me feed back.
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Tiramisu4u
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Apr 18 @ 1:34PM
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You are a smart woman... 
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IB4U
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Apr 18 @ 1:35PM
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I think you need to play it by ear so to speak.....
Don't decide if someone should kiss you or whatever, weeks before the meeting, thats not fair to you or your date.
And OMG, you listen to rumors.....You'd go out with a guy without know if he was married or not.....
Each person and time is different.....You are different with different people...Don't make up too many rules....and yes rules, its said, are made to be broken.....
JMHO
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A_TRAMP
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Apr 18 @ 1:37PM
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blue130160
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Apr 18 @ 1:40PM
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Well they tell you there single...
Sometimes they lie..
And it just takes time to figure it out.. 
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Peabianjay
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Apr 18 @ 2:54PM
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Seems reasonable to me, Blue.
I wouldn't go with a 'hard & fast' rule, but a good guideline, in any case.
Meeting people online is kindofa new thing....I think society is still working out the "do's and don'ts". It still seems a bit odd to me, knowing but not knowing a person on a first meeting. Much of the initial small talk typical of first dates, has already been covered online. The more or less step-by-step process gets rather messed up by the "advance notice".
Conclusion? Wing it!
Talk to them about it! (Heck, that's how ya got interested in the first place, so it can't be that bad!)
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chemistrymajor
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Apr 18 @ 6:16PM
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If there's no mutual connection in the kissing dept. on the first date, what's the point in a second date? What can I say, I enjoy kissing,lol. 
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blue130160
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Apr 18 @ 6:33PM
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The point is that your with a stranger.. That's the point of a second date....
The intenet is like a mask ... Sometime the act can go on. The point of dating is geting to know eachother.. So when the kiss comes the feelings start to rise form withing to out.......................... 
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Fender
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Apr 18 @ 7:03PM
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If I feel like kissing someone I do...I figure after we've made out we are no longer strangers...First date with someone I don't know at all...Only happened once. I kissed him on the cheek when he dropped me off...Everyone is different.
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IB4U
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Apr 18 @ 8:18PM
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Here Blue
Click Here
 
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blue130160
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Apr 18 @ 9:36PM
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That was nice.
But some look like they know each other..
Others on that flick look like they had more then one date.
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Bionic_Angel
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Apr 18 @ 9:45PM
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My Mum always said "go as your guts guide you". I never really knew what that meant until I got a a horrible feeling in my tummy when it was wrong and a good feeling when it was right. Doesn't necessarily mean it's going to last forever but sometimes it's okay to start with a kiss.
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blue130160
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Apr 18 @ 10:11PM
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So you wont that terrible feeling that's in your tummy to be eating my face 
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Slohand_47
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Apr 18 @ 10:40PM
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Ok, since you asked....... you are entitled to make your own rules... regardless of what anyone else thinks. Any gentleman should be willing to wait until you have reached your comfort zone. You might want to keep that information to yourself until later in the evening though...... just in case you change your mind.
Personally I would not put an arbitrary rules on something like that, but that's just me. I've gone out with women who didn't want a kiss until the 3rd date, and that was ok if it's how they feel. (I've also ended up in bed on a first date, but since we had corresponded, chatted, & talked for months before meeting, it wasn't really a "first" date.)
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IB4U
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Apr 18 @ 10:59PM
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Blue
Here's a little music on the subject
"As Time Goes By" AKA "A Kiss is Just A Kiss" Click Here
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blue130160
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Apr 18 @ 11:47PM
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havUheard
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Apr 19 @ 7:12AM
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What about the father of your children . . . did you kiss him on the first date??
If you meet someone for the first time in a bar, they ask you out for the next night, take you to dinner, then want to kiss you, do you let them?
Then it would be no different than if you meet someone online & email/chat/correspond with them, they ask you out on a date, take you to dinner, then want to kiss you. It's all the same process except the first person was met in everyday life & the second was met on the internet (which for some is everyday life).
If internet dating is too confusing & raises too many questions for you, then stick with meeting dateable people in every day life & stay away from dating sites.
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blue130160
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Apr 19 @ 2:19PM
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Sorry I am not an easy (^$% . I believe that if someone is interested they will stick around...
I don't think I'll leave this site just cause I wont jump in bed with a man I just met....
Plenty of women think I"m right.
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