I've always wondered why design, acting, dance, Broadway, fashion, arts tend to attract gay (or gayish) men. They're usually very good at their chosen profession, but they all seem so temperamental. I can't recall any gay carpenters or general contractors. I'm sure somewhere in this world there's a gay wood worker who 'gets wood' when he's cutting wood. Yes, pun intended.
Seriously, of the male designers I know, most tend to be 'swishy' at best. Whether they are gay or not is of no interest to me other than to stay clear of them. I've seen them get catty when their clients dislike their ideas... to the point of bitching to everyone around 'they're not responsible if the job turns out to be a disaster'
So stomp around the room if you will... go ahead, throw a hissy fit.
The reality is Not every client has unlimited budgets, nor do they all agree with your taste.
This has been going on for years and will continue to go on where designers 'demand' complete control over their clients.
This week I went to a new jobsite to do some preliminary measuring. The homeowner arrived while I was there and she was reluctant about the kitchen layout because the designer was only concerned with aesthetics and she was only concerned with function. She asked for my help. Sensing trouble ahead, I indicated I could help her tweak the layout but it had to be approved with the designer because he's in-touch with the architect and any changes we make could impact other trades. So, in the interest of all parties concerned, everyone needs to be a part of this.
We get a sizable amount of business from this designer and the last thing I want to do is 'rock the boat' over a client designer relationship... let them fight it out amongst themselves.
I'm tagging my blog (per MD rules)... but the keyword is domination, as in the designer is dominating his client.
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luneib
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May 20 @ 7:52PM
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I think the designer should direct their client in the right direction, but isn't it always the customer who makes the final choice as to what they want?
Yes, some gays can be a bit tempermental. I used to have a hairdresser like that, if I thought he didn't cut enough off I would go back to him and he would just laugh like, it's fine, he wanted no part of anything being wrong with the haircut he gave me.
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Weylin
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May 20 @ 8:38PM
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We just got done talking about this in my independent film class....... The truth (I suspect) is that homosexuals are attracted too these professions because of the stereotype that says they are supposed to be.
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chatillion
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May 20 @ 10:44PM
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My point is the clients are often afraid to 'go against' the designer. Bullied, if you will for disliking or not accepting their designs.
I've seen some designs that are absolutely horrible and the designer (like your hairstylist) will not accept critique to their work.
That's a little bit like the Emperor's clothes...
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missliss78
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May 20 @ 11:20PM
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Of course, I personally couldn't imagine living in the lap of luxury as some of the people your shop turns out work for do...but I still think if a designer tried to push me around, he or she would find themselves FIRED.
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bardnsage
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May 21 @ 12:31AM
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My designer,,, "BRUCE",,,, through a hissy fit at me because I told him,,,, "I don't care how it looks, I want tile in my bathroom, not carpet." (maybe it was a rug - I don't remember except to think it was a pee sponge for a 5 year old)
He spun on his little red loafers, huffed about how "HE WAS GOING TO TELL MY WIFE THAT THE BATHROOM WAS NOT GOING TO FIT THE HOUSE, AND IT WAS NOT GOING TO BE HIS FAULT."
I looked at the general, and he just blinked,,,, like a deer in the headlights.
So,,, I walked into what was going to be my new office,,, picked up Bruce's man purse - (courier bag - excuse me) - and walked to the rough in for the window, and sent it into the red mud outside 2 floors down.
Bruce came back about the time his chips and swatches were exiting in the same manner. Before he could shut his fly trap mouth,,, I told him,,, "You're fired. The bathroom has to fit my ass, not the house."
Eventually, I hired a new designer, who understood the meaning of the word customer. She was great. I used a trick on that old Kohler add,,,, and I put a Southern Living Magazine on the table, right beside a can of Spam and my checkbook. "I want you to design something around these."
She got it,,, first try.
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ttomtarr
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May 21 @ 9:53PM
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My house looks like what it is, the home of an ecclectic traveler, crafter, musician, and overgrown child. It is a statement of who and what I am, and a working part of my world that fits me, as much as a piece of clothing is a personal fit.
I could never understand why people want their home to look like a gay designer lives in it.
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