Control ...a word used in various ways...to control something,,,someone...
on purpose? accidently?? for safety? or for selfish purposes....to feed one's own ego?
Having had recent experiences with this very topic...of which I realized I was being controlled...and although thought I was GIVING it freely...realize now it was the plan all along!
To be in charge is one thing that is positive...but to get angry when not in charge of every aspect is quite another thing altogether.....
To want to have your OWN way or taking your ball and going elsewhere is very childish!...but even a older man can still be childish!
A parent must "control" the child until the child learns self-control.....learnng is a life-long experience....and some have still not learned that control of self is more valuable than control of others....
Controlling is usually done either in a leadership position or in a defunct ego position where one needs to make things happen in order to feel in power.
A "Power Rapist" is one who has to be in control and have power over the victim.
There are other ways to be "raped"....Relationships:.romantic...non-romantic...political...financial..family...and all such that involves one superior to another (in fact or belief) to make sure the inferior is aware the power that is held!
What happened to sharing and caring and communicating when something is amiss(like our economic national situation?)The ones in control WON'T communicate for fear of losing that control and power rush. If they feel it slipping away....they move on to control another...
and be careful what you think you are controling...it may be controlling you!
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leprichaun_magic
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May 28 @ 7:52PM
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Ideally the relationship should be equal give and take..it comes naturally if there is real love , but sometimes people dont realise ..that they are being . controlling.It might be a sub conscious thing..[just wondering?!]  interesting blog .Fran ..
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edthepoet
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May 28 @ 9:57PM
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From reading your blog, I think your using the wrong word because you were a willing person and you said he plans things out this way, therefore the word that truly describe it would be manipulation rather then control.
The word control has duel edges, one for good and one for abuse, sadly most seem to succumb to the latter more often.
I love having the independent mindset I possess because it allow the person in my life to grow and for her to allow me to grow as well.
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plowman
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May 29 @ 12:52AM
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wanting your own way and taking your ball away is childish...yeah, that sounds about right how control freaks are! 
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sybnann
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May 29 @ 11:46AM
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We can only be controlled if we give the other person the chance and the power to do so. In reverse, we can only control another if they do the same. This can be concious, but more often than not it is subconcious, Being the "head of household" is not what I would consider controlling, but rather the "leader and the guide" in the family unit.
If during that "head of household job" the person begins to bark orders, or does not allow the other person to speak or be a part of the "decisions" then THAT in my opinion is controlling.
If a person finds themselves in a controlling situation I do not see it as being healthy and I believe they should get out!
Yes, I agee with lep magic.... interesting blog
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vindybella
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May 30 @ 6:18PM
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only thing I hope to "control" at my age is my bladder!! 
seriously tho..great blog fran!
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