I think a lot of us have heard about "The Secret." It is a book and movie about "the laws of attraction." The gist is something akin to N.V. Peale's old "Power of Positive Thinking" (which I always saw as "Lie to yourself enough, and eventually you'll believe it.")
The law of attraction, basically, says that what we focus our time and energy and thoughts on, we attract to ourselves. Thus, if we worry about paying the bills and not having enough money, we find ourselves overwhelmed with bills we can't readily pay and not enough money. I even had one email from someone promoting the concept that said most of us spend so much time thinking about the negative aspects of our lives we turn into "crap magnets."
Well, I have come to the conclusion that the "laws of attraction" are the crap.
It occurred to me that over the years, I have devoted probably an inordinate amount of thought and energy to beautiful, sexy women. According to everything I read about the laws of attraction, I should be tripping over beautiful, sexy ladies who want me every time I step out the door to go to the post office. .. Hold on...
(checks out back door again)...
Nope. Still nothing.
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Fender
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Jun 8 @ 7:02AM
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My friend is a true believer of the Secret...However, none of it's worked for me,lol...By the way, I love your take on it 
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LoveME10der2005
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Jun 8 @ 7:48AM
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lollllll....  I got the DVD of the Secret  ...didn't work for me either... 
I agree with Fender...love your take on it also!
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mik48
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Jun 8 @ 9:57AM
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Although, I will agree in principle that something like 'The Secret' will not work in every given situation, I have used it many times to great benefit in my life, and the basic idea of focusing upon a positive viewpoint of one's life situation is the basis of success for most highly successful people. Unfortunately, for most people focusing upon the positive rarely gets past just being a practice. Rarely is it felt all the way through our psyche to the point where we can actually be something more than just acting positive. Which is the greatest reason why people see little or no benefit from such beliefs. You can practice being positive all you want but if deep down you don't like yourself or don't believe that you are truly a good person worthy of abundance, then not even huge amounts of practice using The Secret, Laws of Attraction, or The Power of Positive Thinking will ever help.
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sassypoo
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Jun 8 @ 10:18AM
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Hoot, you've got all us beautiful women here on MD falling all over ourselves for you!!!
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lovestobake
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Jun 8 @ 10:26AM
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I have a different slant on this which is not meant to put yours down. The only failures in life are those that don't try. If one doesn't believe it can happen it probably will not. Of course there are limits to this, if it was 100% the narcissists would be ruling the world, hey maybe they are.
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Nightowl001
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Jun 8 @ 10:55AM
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Mik, I have to say that what I hear there is an echo of every faith-based system in the world. If good things happen, it's because of your beliefs, but if good things don't happen (or even actually bad things happen) it's because you didn't believe enough. It's a great way for a system (and it's proponents) to claim it's perfect, only those who fail to see benefit from it are flawed. In my observation and experience, that's just not what I'm seeing.
Rudy got to play football for Notre Dame, but even he admitted to the coach "... God invented some people to be football players, and I'm not one of them."
The biggest problem with systems like "The Secret" is they are about believing you deserve "a bigger piece of the pie." But it doesn't make a bigger pie. It ignores the reality of finite resources. Every dollar you get is a dollar someone else doesn't get. There is one Angelina Jolie for a million guys who believe they deserve her (and don't look at me on that one; she's not my type).
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Loreli
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Jun 8 @ 1:25PM
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I rang the doorbell, but nobody answered 
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dizzydoll
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Jun 8 @ 2:27PM
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and there are lessons to be learnt, no amount of secret wishes shall will them away from knocking on your door
altho, i do agree with Mik. if you have deep seeded (sub-conscious) problems, some that you might even be unaware of... those must first be uncovered before you can learn to move on towards a better and happier life.
good blog
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mystery2u888
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Jun 8 @ 3:29PM
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RavinLunatic
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Jun 8 @ 3:31PM
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Silly, you have to visualize them WANTING and accepting you and that you are attractive to them instead of that little thought back there that you are too this or that for them. Too poor, too sick, too old, too whatever...Hello! And I know you do it so don't gimmee that crap. I have heard ya. 
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bardnsage
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Jun 8 @ 5:49PM
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AHMMM,,,, Mr. Owl,,,, how many licks does it take to get to the tootsie roll center of a tootsie pop?
Sorry,, couldn't resist.
Have you considered,, perhaps,,,rather than looking out the backdoor,,,, you should be standing on her front door. After all,,, your first stalking offense is normally just a slap on the wrist,,,, go on,,, push the limits.
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BandTMom
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Jun 8 @ 7:55PM
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Ravin!
I do hate to say it, Night, but you do post a lot of negativity on finding a mate. It's not enough to think or even believe....you have to KNOW it is happening right now and visualize it. Prepare your life to include someone else.
Do you have a twin bed? if so, toss it and get a double. If you have a double, do you sleep in the middle? If so, sleep on one side or the other to make room for her. Clean out your closets and male room for her things. When you prepare a meal, sit down at the table and eat as though she is there.
These are only a few things you can do, but prepare, you must.
"The Secret" is a lot of commercialized bunk, but the Law of Attraction is a reality. What you project out into the universe comes back to you.
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RavinLunatic
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Jun 8 @ 8:03PM
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What she said ^^^ I have done it plenty of times. I get a lot of what I want. Relationships are tricky tho. You really need to define what you want FIRST! Then start creating it with your thoughts, emotions and pictures will work as well. I have done lots of those things for things I wanted and got them. But like I said, relationships can be tricky. Vewy, vewy twicky. Be careful what you ask for.
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ElmerFudd445
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Jun 8 @ 9:23PM
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Hey.. I have a secret for ya  .. but I can't tell ya because it's secret
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ElmerFudd445
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Jun 8 @ 9:34PM
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On a serious note... somewhere deep down inside.. you are saying to yourself..
"Awww .. this can't work".. so you will always prove it doesn't work.. That's what you are looking for.. but getting there.. no matter what.. you did learn something.. and positive people look at that instead of looking at what they didn't achieve...  ..
They don't look at defeat as defeat.. they take what ever positive they can find in it away with them and forget the loss..
There may be more involved in your feelings about this than you want to admit to.. 
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Nightowl001
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Jun 9 @ 12:11AM
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My. With a nod to Mr. Burns... O would some power the giftie gie us to see ourselves as others see us. Given how little I actually post concerning relationships at all, I'm honestly surprised to hear someone say they think I post a lot of negativity about it.
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eastham
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Jun 10 @ 3:42PM
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I must say this was the first time I saw you posting on relationships...
Yesterday, I nearly morphed into Zero Mostel..."Imbeciles, I'm surrounded by imbeciles." Wonder what The Secret would say about that.
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