I just sent this email out to several people who needed it, and I am sharing it with everyone else now because
1) This guy has caused some serious emotional injuries to some women on MD
2) I, and other women, have reported him for this to MD several times.
3) He is still here! And, it's been years of this same behavior!
Unfortunately, I cannot tell you who he is! I can't use his ID. I can tell you that if you meet any Scottish men who are over 40, in Scotland, over 6 foot tall, and claim they just want to be your friend, with the sort of ID that mentions ethnic foods and violence at all, you should at least stop and consider the possibility that this is the very same scam artist of whence I speak. Feel free to ask, if you are not sure.
This is the email I just sent out to all the women on his friends list, except the two that I have reason to believe are also him:
______aka: _____is a known womanizer who has hurt many women on this site, and on Tagged; maybe other sites as well.
One of his latest victims on matchdoctor.com just wrote to me, this morning and said:
You don't know me, and I don't know you....but we both have known a certain "scot" and his profile name is _____.He played a very hurtful game with me and he mentioned you and a couple of other women on here that he apparently has also hurt.Would you be willing to tell me what he did? I know GOD says,"vengeance is mine", but I was hoping to get just a tiny piece for myself
You don't have to do this....but I was hoping to get some insight into this...SON OF A BITCH!!!
This was my reply to her:
*sigh* I was so hoping he'd have stopped - like managed to log his happy arse off the internet and gotten some professional help!
Yes, he has certainly hurt several women on here. I think he is also pretending to be more than one woman on here, at times, too. I won't tell you their names, the ones whom I remember he hurt, because some of them were hurt a lot worse than me, I can tell you.
Basically, and this is for everyone I talked to at the time, he started out with lines of just looking for friendship; then he moved on to finding himself falling for whichever woman he is talking to at the time. There was talk of chocolate and old black and white movies, wine, spending time together, long romantic walks, and all sorts of other things that sort of sound like cheesy lines but which women tend to forgive him for because he presents himself as a lonely man who has been off the market for a long time, taking care of his kids. Plus, usually, he tells a tale of how his dad disowned him, complete with a big fight when he was 17 or so, and how when he went back home, all those years later, his dad was dead and he's never gotten over that.
He talks all about respect, love, commitment, let's meet Now, with me, he went, after a few weeks, towards trying to cyber. One lady, he convinced that he was actually on a plane to meet her, and she had driven halfway to the airport to meet him (a few hours drive) before she just had a gut feeling, turned back around, went home, logged on, and found him on the internet. Me, he was trying to convince to fly over and see him. Another lady lived closer by and he was having a definite physical thing with her.
He had told her about me, as some poor ugly woman who couldn't get a man that had a crush on him, and he felt sorry for me, etc. He had also introduced her to his dad.
When he'd go out on dates with her, or have her over for the weekend, he started lying to me and telling me he was seeing a doctor, spending the night at the hospital for observation, etc. and finally told me he had throat cancer, then started making excuses as to how it meant we couldn't have anything to do with each other. Which, maybe was because he bit off more than he could chew, and maybe it was his own twisted form of mercy. I don't know.
Anyway, he told us all the same basic kind of things, adapting the story a bit to fit individual circumstances; most of it was lies. It is true, apparently, that he lives in Scotland in his wee cottage sort of place, that he's tall, and has two kids. The rest is just - he seems to have a pathological need for attention or something.
Hope that helps you in some way. If you haven't contacted the other ladies, I hope you won't. The one he was closest to actually dating was really hurt by him, bad, and she's had a hard enough time without people bringing it up to her all over again.
Or, let's say, at least don't contact the ones in or near Scotland, if you haven't already.
Please be careful when dealing with him, as I met something like 6 or 7 other women he was running the exact same lines on as me, at the same time, plus one he was sort of doing the same, but having more of a real time relationship with; plus, there was a 23 year old girl who says he was trying to snare her into coming and living with him, which his intention was to pass off as his daughter or niece so he could still see other women. Only, she was an even bigger scammer than he is!
I am telling you this for your own good, because I don't want to see anyone else hurt by him, If you ask him, he'll probably tell you that I'm jealous or whatever, but the reason he didn't hurt me like he did the others is that I was, and still am, in love with someone else. At the time, that someone else and I were close to calling it quits because of the same 23 year old girl, who was also scamming him by hacking email accounts to make it look like I hated him. She wanted a man with house and money, in Scotland, and they both were qualified enough.
I know it's all hard to take in, but, I hope you will consider this and protect yourself, and report him to MD when you find out it is true.
Goodbye
This same man has been on MD for years, running this same scam on women. If you know of any woman who has met a man who might be this one, or if you are a woman who may have met him, feel free to write and ask.
If you are him, don't write to me at all, again, ever; not to complain about me posting this, and not to apologize for your behavior. You need mental help, Mr!
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