Ok....I am so tired of being the strong person in the so called circle of friends. I have been unemployed since the end of April. I have busted my a** to try to find a job. I am not one to live off unemployment, well it does not pay the bills. Maybe if you want to just pay your house payment and live in the dark. I really have no bills, car paid for.....1 credit card, cell phone, internet( have to have both to get a job!) The house payment is smaller than an apartment would cost....... So how do they expect you to live............I have some savings but that will not last long. I do have to eat and have gas to get to an interview if I can get one that pays more than 10.00 per hour!!! I am very skilled and have a lot to offer........So yes I am having a meltdown!!!! Pissed off at my last employer (they kept a employee that screwed off and kissed but while I worked my a** off)......pissed off that I can not find a good job! Then there are the so called friends that I am always there for through there crisis with there spouses and there damn alcoholism night after night..calls at 2:00 am on binges I was always there.....but are they there for me??? HELL no!! Have they even lifted one finger to possibly help me out.. maybe refer me to an employer? Maybe network? I am so pissed off right now! Everyone is so damn busy with there stupid little issues like OMG, I have to pay 25.00 for a pedicure and pay 100.00 for my jeans...and they dont fit just right! I tell one friend( the one that I talked to for hours upon hours when she thought her hubby was cheating and I had a freaking 350.00 cell phone bill) that I am freakin out and I do not hear one word......or another who does not have to work because her husband makes 6 figures is complaining that someone owes her 150.00 for stuffing damn envelopes for him for his business. (this was after I had asked her if she knew anyone that might need some help so I could make some extra cash) I know she does not need the money when she puts 3500.00 in savings each month. Yet, she complains about being broke and says she will take you to lunch then gets pissy when she has to pay...it was her idea. So what do we do????? I am ready to sell my house....by a shack in the middle of nowhere and live like a hermit! I am so tired of the system....I have worked my a** off for years alone.....(I am a single lady) to get a house and take care of myself. For what ???? To loose it all because our damn government made some really bad choices!!!!!!!!!  I am tired of spending hours upon hours of job hunting application after application that takes forever to fill out and wants to know our damn bra size and why you have not been working the past few months. Ask the damn government.......I am trying, I am tired.....I am not unemployed because I enjoy it and just love having the time off!! I nkow I am beating a dead horse and I hope that I don't have to post my next blog from a Starbucks using some strangers computer because I am homeless.........So what do you do? Take job that pays less than unemployment? Then have to work 2 jobs to make ends meet?
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imlost2
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Jun 30 @ 7:52AM
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When I was job hunting I felt like you, but I just kept up and finally several places all at once called me and I had to choose. Recently I was checking the Tennessee Lakes to see how the water was for fishing, and I noticed a job section there. I don't know your qualification, but maybe try some State sites. I didn't think about that when I was applying, but it showed some openings for jobs in the Wildlife and Conservation Departments, who knows maybe a change in career could cheer you up and be challenging.  Take care Lost
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WhiteRose1952
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Jun 30 @ 9:20AM
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OH MY GOSH!!! BLESS YOUR HEART...YOU REALLY NEED SOME HUGS RIGHT NOW AND A PLACE THAT'S CALMING AND RELAXING AND PUT YOUR FEET UP AND RELAX AND RECHARGE...I'M SENDING LOTS OF GENTLE HUGS AND ""PRAYER'S"" YOUR WAY...
I KNOW RIGHT NOW YOU ARE RIGHT SMACK IN THE MIDDLE OF A STORM THOUGH TRUST ME WHEN I SAY, "THERE IS A LIGHT AT THE END OF THE STORM AND THERE WILL BE CALMNESS AND PEACE AND YES, YOU WILL FIND JUST THE RIGHT JOB, I FEEL THAT VERY STRONGLY, STOP AND RELAX AND REGROUP WITH YOURSELF...
I KNOW THE FEELINGS YOU ARE HAVING, WHY?? CAUSE I'VE BEEN THERE, AND YES, IT'S ROUGH, AND YES, IT'S UGLY AND YUCKY AND I JUST WANTS TO SCREAM, WHAT I'M FIXING TO SAY NOW MAY SOUND CRAZY TO SOME, THOUGH PLEASE TRULY TRY IT, WHEN THE STORM FOR MY MAMA GOT LIKE WHAT STORM YOU ARE IN AND LIKE THE ONE I WAS IN, MY MAMA SAID, "LOOK WHEN IT TRULY GETS ROUGH AND SWEETIE TRUST ME IT WELL, FIND A PLACE WHETHER IT'S OUTSIDE, IN THE BACKYARD , JUST FIND A PLACE AND "SCREAM" AS LOUD AS YOU CAN AND IF SO DO IT MORE THAN ONCE, AFTER EACH ONE INHALE DEEPLY AND THEN LET OUT VERY SLOWLY, AND THEN JUST RELAX IF YOU STILL NEED TO DO THAT THEN DO IT AGAIN....THEN GO IN AND TAKE A LONGER HOT SOAK THEN USUAL AND HAVE CANDLES GOING AND SOFT MUSIC...THEN FIND A COMFORTABLE SPOT AND HAVE A PRIVATE PERSONAL TALK WITH ""GOD"" AND THEN YES, JUST WAIT, AND BEFORE YOU KNOW IT YOUR ""PRAYER'S"" WILL BE ANSWERED....LIKE I SAID, SOME PLACES ONE CANNOT DO THE SCREAMING WITHOUT THE COPS COMING...THEN SCREAM INTO PILLOWS....AND IF YOU NEED TO DRIVE TO GO TO A PLACE WHERE YOU CAN SCREAM THEN DO THAT...SOMETIMES THAT IS JUST WHAT A PERSON NEEDS TO DO TO RELEASE ALL THE STRESS FROM OUT BODIES, MIND AND HEART AND SOUL, IT WORKS THE SAME WAY AS IF ONE IS CRYING, SOMETIMES A PERSON JUST NEEDS TO HAVE A GOOD CRY, MY DEAR FRIEND IT WILL GET BETTER...
I KNOW YOU DO NOT KNOW ME AND PROBADLY THINK I'M JUST PLAIN NUTTY IN SAYING THIS THOUGH JUST TRY IT..ONE DOESN'T KNOW IF IT WORKS UNTIL THEY TRY IT, RIGHT? AND SHOULD IT NOT AT LEAST YOU WILL BE RELAXED AND RECHARGED TO HANDLE AND COPE WITH WHAT COMES ABOUT NEXT RIGHT?
I WOULD REALLY LOVE TO BE YOUR FRIEND, AND I'M HERE FOR YOU, I'M A NIGHTOWL AND SO IF YOU EVER NEED TO JUST TALK AND VENT, THEN I'M HERE, THAT'S WHAT A FRIEND DOES FOR THEIR FRIEND..THAT'S JUST THE WAY I WAS RAISED...
SO IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO BE FRIENDS SEND ME A REQUEST AND I WILL SURELY ACCEPT...WE ALL NEED FRIENDS THAT WE CAN COUNT ON AND I'M HERE FOR YA!!!
HUGS AND SMILES TO YA, YOUR FRIEND CHRISTIE AKA "WHITEROSE1952"
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luneib
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Jun 30 @ 9:22AM
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Boy do I feel your pain. I've been unemployed for 4 years, yup, 4 years, grrrrr. I have had about 3 jobs within those 4 years, each lasted about 2 weeks. My last job ended last August, it was a part time job, yes, I took anything I could find. They said my job was ending, I was told when hired it was part time. So.....I starting collecting just $36.00 per week, that was my unemployment amount, yeh, that was all. Try paying a mortgage on that. You want to see a person's stress level go up when that happens, ugh. They hired someone else for that same job that they lied to me and said was ending, at a lower rate of pay, grrrrrr. I was told when they let me go that I did an excellent job and that they would phone me if they had any other work, huh? Yeh, that was bullshit for sure.
As far as finding a job, I have sent out tons and tons of my resume to just about every imaginable type of company out there. I was willing to do any kind of clerical work that came my way, I was willing to work nights even. Yes, I worked nights for a couple of weeks. The jobs I did find had the worst employers, they had no idea how to run a company and they treated people badly.
My solution to this mess? I decided to start my own business with my bf, a commercial cleaning business. There was alot more to it than we thought, the tax paperwork alone, ugh. But.....I began it with just me managing everything, no accountant, no lawyer, I mean, who can afford to hire extra help to help you when you are unemployed, I know, not me. I phoned the State Department to help walk me through some of the tax papers I had to fill out, that worked. Our official start date for our business is today. We have passed out pamphlets I had made for our business and business cards, even put an ad in the newspaper, not one bite. It's tough out there, companies don't want to hire right now, you would think it would be easy having a commercial cleaning business, but....it's not. Last night I made an ad to hang in my car window with our phone # on it and our business name. I'm hoping that works.
I feel your frustration. My stress level is so high right now. Being unemployed makes you feel depressed, it makes you feel very anxious. I wish I had the answer for you. I'm doing the best I can. If this commercial cleaning business takes off, I will let you know. I do know 'though that there are people out there looking for people to clean their homes. We didn't want to do that, but I know there is a need for that. Just a thought for you. My bf still has his job but we are just middle class and struggling to survive. My savings is almost gone, I've had to use it to pay my mortgage and condo dues over the past 4 years.
Yeh, isn't that something when you go to interviews and employers ask, why haven't you worked in such and such time? They look at you like you are lazy. You are right, if it hadn't been for this whole Fannie Mae etc. mess, we probably wouldn't be in this boat. It surely is sinking. Once an economy goes bad and jobs are lost, it usually takes about 3 years for the job market to recover. I don't know how we are expected to live once our money and unemployment run out if we can't find jobs. You can't pay a mortgage on pay from Mcdonalds, and even finding part time jobs is very difficult. I've been looking myself to see if I can get just even a part time job until our night business takes off.
The other thing, I have not had any medical coverage either since losing my job. If yours runs out, check with your local community health centers. The one closest to us has an Early Detection program and I get a free mammogram and pap test per year. Also, ask about the Susan B, Komen Cancer Cure program at your local hospital, you can sign up for a free mammogram per year at the hospital through this program.
If you want to save on groceries, AngelMinistries online is a great place to start. We haven't used it yet, you have to reserve in advance for the food and pick it up yourself, but I think for around $35.00 you get alot. Bring your own boxes and bags too to pick it up. I talk to people online who do this and they said it's good stuff.
(((Hugs))) from me to you. This is so awful what we are going through. 
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SpiritOrnery
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Jun 30 @ 9:32AM
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I would take whatever I saw...flipping burgers, cleaning houses. I don't care. When I needed work, I did whatever to scuffle for awhile. Afterwards, my old money started coming back.
I also quit talking to people that cost me money, like your friend that is not there for you. Maybe it is an opportunity for you to clear out the people that are not there for you. Clean house...let go of any that dump on you and would LET you run up your phone bill.  FRIENDS don't do that. A real friend would pay some of that bill for you so she could talk to you.
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silksox
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Jun 30 @ 9:59AM
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Hey Nassy 
What do you do? I mean... what line of work are you in? Did you like your last occupation? Would you change fields or is there a job you'd like to have if you could?
Silk
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legacy1
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Jun 30 @ 10:20AM
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Nassy, I too was shown the door last Thursday along with 33 other people. Some industries will never be coming back after this one. All I can say is get your head together first and keep telling yourself you will be ok. I too am scared shitless but panicing won't help any.
Second can you go back to school? While some forms of work are shutting down...other's are continuing to prosper...the medical field is one...everyone get's sick....mechanic's is another...with "green" cars the up and coming thing....they too will be need to be fixed. Those are just a few suggetions...hang in there and keep in touch if need be!
Legacy!
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Fayvorite
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Jun 30 @ 10:33AM
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You are not alone in how you feel. So many of my clients have lost their long term jobs and that is all they were skilled in. Not to mention because they are older their confidence in getting another job is lower as well as there aren't many jobs to get. It's hit close to home now too as my brother lost his job. I believe he is considering trying to rent a room out in his house for a bit of additional income.
When things are horribly going wrong for me, I cling to the belief that it is always darkest before the dawn and my favorite saying is, "this too shall pass".
A yard sale might generate a bit of income as a suggestion.
Wishing you better luck and better friends.
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NASSY
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Jun 30 @ 1:46PM
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Thanks so much everyone for your hugs and kind words.....yes, I had a meltdown yesterday....it was not pretty and I have a headache this morning......lol! To much wine! I now that is not the answer to my problems.......So here I am in fornt of my computer looking for a job day after day.......all day long. I am trying to think positive but I get so many rejections ......many part of it is my age. But tthey do not know how old I am when reading my resume. Enough......back to the hunt and agin thank you for your hug, and suggestions.......
Until next time!
Nassy
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sybnann
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Jun 30 @ 1:48PM
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Oh Nassy~~ I know this may not work, but a part of my thoughts included maybe you getting a roommate to help with expenses? Maybe there are some lawns you could mow for people. I have called six people to try to find someone just to do yard work!
One time, when I had no job and no experience ( I was just out of high school) I sat down with the yellow pages and started with the "A's" and called every place, asking if they were hiring or taking apps, until I got to the "C's" and got an interview. The man didnt want to hire me with no experience in the field of corrugated cardboard, but I asked him "How can I have any if no one hires me?" He then DID hire me!
This way, if you do the calls like that, you may walk in to a job that someone just walked out of!
As far as emotional support, blog whenever you feel like it. We are here for you and you can email me if you need a friend. I will always do my best to be there for you on a personal level too!
Good luck and hugs! 
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