This blog is about me, and maybe just about me, but my first husband was over twenty years older than I was. At first I thought that it didn't and wouldn't matter.
Age is just a number, right? Well setting aside the fact that he was an alcoholic, the man had pretty much lived his life, and had little energy (at least outside of the bedroom) and never wanted to go out or have fun or travel.. or ANYTHING that a person of my age was then in to doing!
My second was 12 years older and although we DID have some fun, at least early in the relationship, it too waned over time, and weekends were spent around the house, because he was too tired. Now I KNOW how hard he worked and I DID understand, ... NOW I am looking for something different in a relationship.
I don't want the very young, because whether they want children or not, I don't think it would be fair to them anyway, since I don't and cannot. Also I of course would like to make sure that someone is mature enough for a life long relationship.
On the other side of the coin, I don't want someone more than ten years my senior for the reasons I have already mentioned above.
It would be ideal for me to find someone in the range of five years younger or older than myself..
Before you may consider it, I will add, that I indeed have been rejected because of my age with a boyfriend I had for a while. He was 13 years younger and in the end, wanted to find someone else around his own age.
I don't think I am being unreasonable in this quest. Not to say if I fell in love anyway, that I would NOT consider a man outside of that range!! I am just saying what I believe may work out the most.
So in my experience, age has and does often make a difference!!!
Please don't judge me for what I have experienced to be true. I do realize there are exceptions to the rule, and maybe many ones, but I can only gauge my opinions by the results of my own life so far... 
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luneib
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Jul 1 @ 8:17PM
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He rejected you and he was just 13 years younger? Geeeez. That is not a big age gap. My bf is 17 years younger than me.
I did have a bf similar to yours however, he was 20 years younger than me, and....he thought I was too old for him for a long term commited relationship.
I guess some men can get past the age difference and others can not. It's sad because you may have been the love of that guy's life, but now he will never know.
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butterfly943
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Jul 1 @ 9:07PM
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I think that what really matters is that you both have fun being together on many levels
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justme836
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Jul 1 @ 9:32PM
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Age does matter to me. As you said, in the long haul the differences show up. I usually attract younger men but I know that in the future years it would be an issue. I want my next partner to be my partner for life.
An older man usually has kids who are grown and my teens to ten year old would get on his nerves. They don't want kids around and I don't want to place my kids 2nd to Grandchildren who are meant to be spoiled.
No judging here. I respect your experience, honesty and thoughts.
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wstang69
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Jul 1 @ 10:04PM
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Just, I am in the same boat. most women I am meeting near my age have grandkids while I have 2 teenagres.
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justme836
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Jul 1 @ 10:45PM
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Stang - Search no more! Lets hit the road together in a mini bus that will hold all of the kids. Shoot they can even all bring a friend since we are still in childraising mode it won't phase us a bit! We can a have a teen drive as we nap. 
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HopelesslyHopeful
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Jul 1 @ 11:16PM
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It all sounds reasonable to me, especially the bit where you leave yourself open to possibilities outside of what seems most logically sound.
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1frantastic
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Jul 2 @ 4:22AM
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I do know how ya feel about being able to enjoy the same things with the same energy....and I also know how devestating it is to have someone 14 yrs younger tell you that you are "too old" for them when they look like they are your age in years...not theirs.....One never knows how many years or days.... we have to share...so IF there is a connection...ENJOY it...don't worry about it not lasting! 
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i8yurdog
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Jul 2 @ 7:05AM
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In matters of the heart, love is timeless
But focused on myself I become mindless
And if my love becomes a number
You might as well go find another lover
Cuz I'm just me and you're just you
So think about the things we do
And don't pretend tomorrow doesn't matter
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imlost2
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Jul 2 @ 8:16AM
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Everyone lives their life as though you will live forever, truth be known, tomorrow was never promised to you. Just look at those who have died in the last couple of weeks. I think if two are in love, really in love, and you get along both physically and mentally, enjoy each other completely in all things, why tear your hearts apart? You are only hurting yourself. Lost
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dizzydoll
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Jul 2 @ 9:57AM
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nope we will never judge you doll, you speak from the heart... few people share such openness
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BionicCouple
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Jul 5 @ 10:10PM
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I think it's important to not put any limitations on a relationship ... people are people, they aren't ages or numbers and they all have different experiences. There are old heads on young shoulders, there are the young at heart, there are older men who haven't experienced children there are younger men who have several. When love comes along it doesn't have a definition, it just is! It doesn't hurt to have an idea of what you might think will be your ideal match but it's important to stay open to whatever might come along. Which, from this blog, I believe you are. 
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