How would you feel if you were in an online relationship with a nice guy you thought was special and he thought the same about you.
Then for a couple of days he is not available on his blackberry, internet or email. then he sends a message to say he is in an area that is a problem with his phone and he does not have his PC but uses the hotels. Well that is ok no problems. But my bitch is why did he not say he was going away for a week and let me know so I would not think he had dissappeared off the face of the planet. I was worried as he had a medical problem as well. Ok ladies your opinion on this. Oh and guys as well of course
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Chris_in_california
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Jul 4 @ 2:13AM
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Life happens and some times things just happen all of a sudden and you run to deal with it may not have time to do or think of every thing/body as your running out the door.
do you trust him
now that you have heard from he no need to worry
Have Fun and Enjoy Life
Chris
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hpylady_
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Jul 4 @ 3:30AM
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I wouldn't worry about one time especially if you've just started a friendship but if it happens over and over then you may want to take a step back from the situation and realize there may be a pattern here and see if that is what YOU want.
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misschoos
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Jul 4 @ 4:33AM
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Be grateful he bothered and happy he's safe.
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chubs
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Jul 4 @ 4:49AM
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actually, it is a bytch when someone online disappears like that without giving you any clue...hope it doesn't happen again, hey!
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havUheard
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Jul 4 @ 7:50AM
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How would you feel if you were in an online relationship with a nice guy you thought was special and he thought the same about you. My opinion . . . you stated it's an online relationship. I'm taking it that you haven't actually "met" him in person. I don't feel he's obligated to tell an "online friend" if he's going to be away for a few days.
If you didn't hear from a female friend of yours for a few days, would your reaction be the same?
Talking from experience here . . . the best way to kill a relationship is to be too "needy" or stifling. Remember . . . the ball & chain don't go on til AFTER you sign the marriage certificate! 
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cowboy2x4
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Jul 4 @ 10:22AM
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sometimes players have secrets to keep..be careful!!!
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lazareth
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Jul 4 @ 10:30AM
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maybe because it's nothing more than an on line relationship? ..
Maybe he doesn't feel obligated to report his moves to someone who is nothing more than an on line relationship?
I don't want to be the negative one here, but until I meet someone face to face and have a real relationship (friend, lover, whatever) I don't expect them to keep me in the loop of all their moves on a daily basis
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imlost2
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Jul 4 @ 10:33AM
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I don't know, they still have pay phones and it depends on how much he really cares. I'm sure he might know someone with a cell or a pc, and they have the after 9:00 free minutes etc. if he really wanted to get a hold of you. I'm a"where there is a will there is a way" kinda person and if I wanted to get a hold of a person I would. That is just how I feel about it. Lost
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HopelesslyHopeful
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Jul 4 @ 11:29AM
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Been there, done that, and what I thought was that if he actually did care about me, he'd at least drop a quick line to say he'd be off for a few days or something.
The only reasons for not doing that are if the person is not interested, is just inherently selfish, or if they are seeing someone else.
Which, as it turns out with the guy who acted that way, it was a bit of a case of all three. He liked that I was interested in him, though.
I'm not saying those are absolutes, you asked for how I'd feel and that's how I'd feel, especially now that it's already happened that way.
Maybe your guy honestly, very innocently, meant to message you and forgot. Only you know how he reacted when you asked him why he didn't tell you he was going to be gone. It sounds like an excuse to me, the phone thing, but, in your heart you know by the way he got back in touch and all, what you feel is going on - listen to it, whatever it is.
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POPO
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Jul 4 @ 11:53AM
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Ooooooooh there could be a variety of reasons, thoughtfulness isn't one of them, people disappear for a reason, needing a break, emergency or someone else, I don't know this man, nor your situation with him. But it's suspect.. 
Allot has to do with the depth of your relationship with him, meaning how committed you both are and what agreements you both collectively arrived at with each other if any at all..  Not every one views dating as exclusive. We can sometimes assume others think about dating or a relationship the same way we do, when in reality they don't? In order to better understand your frustration and his alibi.. You may want to consider where the relationship was and how he viewed it? you already know how you viewed it.
His story may well be innocent and truthful? but then again it could be a lie, he wants you to accept as truth. But from what you have said thus far, he didn't think the relationship needed a phone call or email prior to his disapperance.. Which tells me he's either not very thoughtful or mindful of your feelings, or he feels he either didn't owe you an explaination or didn't want you to know what he was doing? It's hard to say? I'm dancing in the dark with this one, as I don't know where the relationship is at?
Good Luck to you... 
Popo
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