I didn't really think about it when one of the profile questions clearly asked precisely where I was looking for love. I selected the safe bet known as "anywhere." I did this without thinking deeply on the matter.
Several months later, I'm now pondering why.
In the three or four months I've been using Matchdoctor, all of the mail I get is from people that are states away. I don't think I've had a single response from anyone in my area or even in the next city! Every single mail is from someone up in New York or over in North Carolina, or Georgia, etc. Not to mention the never ending bunch of messages from those overseas, who are likely scammers.
Initially, it wasn't something I thought about too deeply because I just figured that somehow it would all work itself out, and that if something actually developed that the other individual would relocate or some such. Little did I realize that it seems I'm not the only one thinking like this. Apparently countless of others, male and female, are thinking the same; hence we have a host of people who are not moving anywhere but who are open to finding mates "anywhere."
Well, I've got news for ya, folks. No one's relocating with ease anytime in the near future in the current economy unless they are escaping something within their life, have a small bundle of money to blow, or for some reason, they are on the road again, or have nothing whatsoever to lose by moving because they have nothing of their own that will be left behind them. And if this is the case, one does have to kind of ask why.
The truth is, I think when we get super serious about being "ready" to actually date and meet some of the potential Mister or Miss Rights for us, we probably begin to look closer to our own backyard or at least within a reasonable distance to that backyard. I mean, how many people actually want to put themselves into the potential scenario of the long distance relationship? Are we that hard up for love? For dates?
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chevymn
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Jul 12 @ 2:25AM
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For the most part you're right. One girl actually drove over 800 miles from Florida to meet me. Instead of a week of getting to know her I came home to find everything me and my girls owned had been stolen. She even stole the Koolaid. How sad is that? Not to mention all my daughters winter clothes. Another stole my heart and then decided she didn't want to risk the move. If they ain't to hell with it...
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southernlass
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Jul 12 @ 2:31AM
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Wow, Chevy, that's a tough luck story. I'm so sorry.
Gives us all fair warning that we might want to be a little more careful before we rush into welcoming our next "long distance love" with open arms. Thanks for sharing and better luck next time around, closer to home.
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HopelesslyHopeful
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Jul 12 @ 7:32AM
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I prefer to look long distance, because I am not particularly keen on Americans. I grew up around a lot of Irish, English, Vietnamese, Samoan, Korean, Russians, etc. and I am more used to their ways. Or, I was more used to their ways. Been to long in Arizona to say that with certainty, now.
Regardless, I would prefer someone from Scotland or Ireland, a bit old fashioned, as they are the most like Alaskan, and there really is no such thing as an Alaskan man, anymore. Well, hardly any such thing! Just various shades of whine and petulance, bad suits, or bullying - like you can get most anywhere, in America!
When we drove to Arizona, we knew when we got close to the American border, on the way out. That was when men stopped opening doors for the ladies and started yelling "Get the F out of my way B..." at them, instead.
I do not say there are no good American males. I just haven't met one, yet, that is at all my type. I met a few I thought were, but, I realized later that they just knew how to hide their psychotic tendencies well, over the short term.
So, yes, I do it on purpose. That's because very few Irish or Scottish people are in America and single, and desirable, all at the same time.
Plus, I'd prefer to be in Ireland or Scotland, or England even, to being in Arizona and my homeland, as previously mentioned, is overrun by Americans with bad attitudes.
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ragtopcookie
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Jul 12 @ 8:43AM
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Most of the women i talk to are out of state.....several states away.....for some reason...its always been that way......my daughter once told me the reason why is.....it keeps them safe from me.....and for me ...to keep me from being stupid......  ....whatever that means......kids......is there anything they dont know?......cookie
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