I have been busier that all get out with all the grass growin with all the rain.. and this weekend, because my son volunteered... we set about making the three steps on the steep side of my hill to the basement, so his ole mom won't slip and break her fool head this winter..
When asked want they want out of life, most people would say that they want to be happy or that they want their loved ones to be happy. The pursuit of happiness is even at the heart of the Constitution of the United States of America.
If I were to take a poll at this very moment... I wonder how many there would be that would know with some certainty what it would be that would, indeed, create that happiness that they seek. Most of us walk around with our eyes closed so tightly that we refuse to open them for the smallest moment to garner some of the things that, if given the chance, will be exactly what we desire and need to bring us that elusive feeling of happiness.
I went to see the movie.. "The Ugly Truth" on Saturday. Now, while the movie was a romantic comedy, some of the points that Gerard Butler brings out make sense. Each of us on this Big Blue Marble, have fooled around, fell in love (*winkey, winkey, Kate!*), been hurt, done that, got the shirt and promised ourselves that no way in hell are we ever gonna fall for the same type of user. We have our checklists of what we all hope for in a mate, and dadgummittohell, we are not gonna "settle" for less. But, and yep, being the Slo-Litwak I am, there always is a "but" thrown in for controversy's sake, what IF we stare so long and hard at that list and checking off or ditching those that have no checkmarks, the very thing that would make us happy is standing right beside us. Sometimes, the ugly truth is simply that we, as a whole, are stubborn.. and that is the ugly truth.
Brings me to the other truth in this blog. I have a colleague that I work with who has a young son, Ben. I have blogged about him before, simply because Ben is four going on five in 12 days and though he hasn't earned the badge we all tote around with us of "having been around the block a time or two".. his genius comes in the form of honesty and a downright inquisitive mind. Ben's dad's parents are married so Ben knows they are husband and wife. Ben's mom's parents are divorced and his grandpa (Nuitzy, as they call him) and grandma (Meemaw) are no longer husband and wife and lead separate lives. Nuitzy remarried quite a while ago and had two boys with his new wife.
One day, Ben being Ben, was sitting doing some art work with his mom & dad. (*psttt.. I LOVE when Ben does artwork.. I usually get some.. and I miss that from when my kiddos were his age.. wee sprouts) and he asked, while still painting... why Nuitzy and Meemaw were not still married like his other grandpa and grandma.. Ben's mom almost bit clear through her lip as she knew this day would come and though she prodded herself to be ahead of the game, she had put it off longer than time was afforded her. She bit the bullet and said.. "well, Ben, a long time ago Nuitzy and Meemaw were married and were very happy and had me and your aunt Liz. But there came a time when Nuitzy and Meemaw weren't happy with each other anymore and they decided to end their marriage. Do you understand?" Ben nodded, and said, "I guess Nuitzy's new wife makes him happy now. But I need to ask something else."
"Go ahead" his mom said. "Well, I need to know if you make dad happy mom?" And Scott (my colleague) replied. He said, "Ben, your mom makes me very, very happy". Ben without skipping a beat then looked up again over his coloring book and while continuing to stay in the lines, asked. "Then, dad, do you make mommy happy?" and again his mom this time replied.. "oh, honey, daddy makes me really, really happy." Without breathing Ben stopped and looked at them and said.. "I knew that!"
Out of the mouth of babes.. come some pretty deep and profound stuff! And just to prove the statements, Ben's mom and dad will celebrate their 7th anniversary in 2 days.
Yep, this can't be made up.. and this is the truth.. not at all ugly in this instance.. instead it is awesome.
Now, you have a choice.. either you can face the ugly truth and, most probably, will still be looking for Mr. or Ms. Right for all time .. or you can stop the madness and the insanity and open yourself up to receive all that happiness when it is standing beside you and waving..
Peace out... 
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