***Rebound Love*** posted 8/5/2009 1:35:02 PM | 2 kudos what's this?     report abuse

POPO

This is a topic that is often ignored, yet it happens all the time, even my mother use to tell me Mijo (means son) in Spanish, the best way to get over someone is to get under someone.. Mom always had a way of saying things to me that even I could understand..

Often times we meet someone and the friendship begins, Oh you talk about everything and anything, this person just seems to know and understand your life story, as you do theirs. It's a connection.. The only problem is, either you or them still have someone else in the background, You certain it's over, they said so, you haven't heard from them in a while, you assume they moved on, and now it's time for you to do the same.But down deep inside theirs that little flame flickering within, Oh you know it's there, but you've convinced your self it's not real, because that's just the way it feels.

So you continue on with your new friend and slowly your new friend is filling the void and loneliness, before you know it, your certain your kinda sorta falling for them. Ole Cupid is taking aim, and smiling down on you, now your nights are filled with laughter and conversations, your thoughts are now on them, just the sound of their voice is soothing to your ears and your heart skips a beat when you hear their Hello! Your thinking, could this be? it sure seems like it, is it for real? it sure feels like it, I recognize these feelings and haven't felt them for what seems like a life time.

So you start having conversations with your self, do I let them in? their already in, do I tell them how I'm feeling for them? what if they don't feel the same? What if my own emotions are clouded with loneliness, and this person makes that go away. Are they "The One" It sure feels so right. Then the voice of reason kicks in and says, Come on Man we've been down this road before, it didn't work! That's why we quit dating in the first place, and why we swore off ever falling in love again. We're retired now and we're happy just the way things are, and just when you think you have a grip on it, they call,and seem to remove all doubt sometimes not even knowing what their doing. So you continue on, and try your best to bury the past, convincing your self, it's over!

Time goes on and your new flame seems to be saying and doing all the right things, at this point your happy and have all but put the headstone on your past.

Then out of no where you get the call It blows your mind.. this was a call you longed for, so many nights, so many tears ago, What do you do? your now listening to a voice from the past that once held your heart captive, all those feelings begin to rush in like a title wave, your pulse is racing, your heart is pounding, you can't believe your ears, is this for real? In my case it was, it was very real, their she was, a not so distant memory, so clear like we never parted.
My stomach was rolling, my head was spinning like a top. What could I do I was caught completely off guard.

If that wasn't enough she put her two children on the phone who I loved dearly and was going to adopt as my own, they were crying and saying Papi (it's a Latin thing)
we miss you, my heart just fell to the floor, I knew they did, as I had missed them, we were very close. She told me how sorry she was and wanted us to get back togerther, I told her about the other woman, who filled all those lonely nights, who picked me when I was down, who made me laugh when I was sad, who gave me the best of what she had, she was beautiful, she was the one that most would say, She's the one that got away! So I was stuck between a Rock and Hard place!

Do I break the heart of someone who did nothing wrong and everything right, she really was One in a Million, a Chance of a Life Time! Follow my heart? or do what I thought was the right thing, especially with the kids.That was the question.
Well, the old flame convinced me it was a "Rebound Love" So I broke off the relationship with the Chance of a Life Time, thinking I was doing the right thing.

I let the right one out, and kept the wrong one in. I broke her heart and my own heart in the process, thinking I was doing the right thing. I think that was the lowest point I have been, other then my divorce. It was a hard blow to over come.
Sometimes a Rebound Love can be the right love, they saw you at your lowest point, confidence shaken, esteem at an all time low, living from day to day, reminding your self to eat, not sure if you can or will ever love again.Yet their they were, with you through all your pain and doubt, dusting off past, helping you over come a blow they know so well, hoping you will see in them, what they see in you.

I had a love in the palm of my hands, that I treated as if it were merely a Rebound Love, not realizing at the time, that she really was One in a Million, atleast to me.
I did what I thought was the right thing to do, I told my self it was the stand up thing to do, and rationalized it with the children. Was she a Rebound Love? Was she The One? I've asked my self these questions it seems a million times.

Sometimes a Rebound Love, can truly be the one you were waiting for all along, and they were put in your path for a reason, only we didn't see it, at the time.
I wish I could turn back the hands of time, I would have done things differently.

I know their are stories about Rebound Love, that can go either way, this was mine.

Thanx for reading
Popo

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