The old cliche..... "Stuck Between a Rock and a Hard Place"
Now I don't know about you, but from time to time I find my self in this very situation... 
Whether it's from being in a relationship that's not working out... or trying to figure out if I really want to get back into a relationship! I think most of us down deep inside who have been in a loving relationship, actually miss many things about it, even allot of the little things, that just added up to and came up love 
Being alone has it's advantages.... 
No one to report to.. go to bed when ever you want to, sleep on any side of the bed you want too, stay out all night long if you want to, see who ever you want to, how ever many you want to. 
Eat when ever you want to, even eat what ever you want to... (that's for the girls and their chocolate)  watch what ever you want to, talk to who ever you want to, no one to tell you how to be, no one to tell you how to dress, no one to tell you to come home, no one tell you how to spend your money, no one to argue with and no one to tell you they love you! Some even say their just fine being alone and their okay with it? I get that, and find myself sometimes thinking that very same way.
On the other hand....
When your in a relationship, that makes sense...
You have someone who, you like reporting to because you know they care and worry that your okay! you have someone who is telling you to come to bed because they want to hold you and maybe even make love with you!  you don't even mine having your own side of the bed to sleep on, and kind like it that way! Staying out all night long just isn't what it use to be, because you know their are two loving arms waiting at home for you! you don't have any desire to be with many or even another, because that one satisfies what many can't! you no longer eat anything, because now your eating healthier, with structured times and balanced meals! ( the chocolate is apart of the gig) if not you will have one mean woman! she needs her Chocolate! 
You can still watch (most) of what you want to as long as she has the final say!  The need to talk with others, is soon replaced with your own conversations, and just enjoying each other and your love. as your so busy dealing with the things you both have at home!
Every now and then the person can give you pointers if you get side tracked with how your suppose to be, and women do have a way of making sure their man looks good! Having someone to come home to makes a house a home! The happiest and highest point in my life were knowing I had two loving arms waiting for me at home, I love that feeling. 
Two people watching their budget can easily save money for important things to better their lives. Often times you realize arguing is silly, and really makes no sense, especially when you learn how to just turn into more of two people discussing their concerns, rather then taking shots at each other, if they just set their pride and need to be right aside! The best part of all is when someone holds you in their arms and tells you they love you! you see it in their eyes and feel it in their touch! I love that feeling, and I do miss it
So why does it seem sometimes we feel "Your stuck between a rock and hard place? you know what you want, and you can see life being that way! It seems to me, talking with so many women, they also have that desire down deep inside, but we sometimes mask it, maybe even deny it at times, or put up so many walls or reasons why were okay with things being just the way are. I even said or heard that I've accepted life as it is, I have had love before, so I'm okay. I get that I do, but damm, some times i just can't help but to think back to when love was in the palm of my hands, and how good that really felt, compared to now, not having it.
But we all have had failures.... whether it was our fault or the fault of another, for what ever reason it didn't work? It's almost like were scared of each other, I love women really I do, I adore, admire and think they truly are God's greatest gift to man, But on the other hand they can seem like the Devil in disguise
I'm sure women think the same of men You would think it should be so easy to look at someone and say look I think your beautiful and you think I'm not so hard on the eye's (atleast I hope not) I like the way you are and you like the way I am, now that we've became friends and know each other well, what are we waiting for? 
Sometimes we think were better off alone... But when were alone, all alone, we start to think we would be better off with someone? it's enough to drive you nutzzz "Stuck between a Rock and a Hard Place" Thanxx for reading... just sharing my thoughts... 
Popo
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dreamlover4U
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Aug 13 @ 12:07AM
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Chin up sweetie, things happen for a reason and we all have to have the bad with the good so life balances.
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signme
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Aug 13 @ 12:22AM
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And then there's the saying that the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence (or mountain or however you've heard the saying!) So do you accept what you have or do you keep looking for better?
Some days, hard to know, isn't it?
As usual, POPO, good blog!
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POPO
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Aug 13 @ 12:27AM
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Chin up sweetie, things happen for a reason and we all have to have the bad with the good so life balances.
DreamLover,
Thank you for your thoughts I have been alone since 2003 as far as marrige goes. So my chin is up, and no longer down I hope it didn't seem as a boo hoo blog as that was not my intention.. More of just thinking about life and the things we go through.
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POPO
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Aug 13 @ 12:36AM
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Hola Signme..... 
I hear ya my friend.... I've never been one to look at it that way "the grass is greener" I have always been content with what I have, how ever I do miss what once was. Oh I'm ajusted to the way things are now, really I am, and if it never happens again, I'm okay with it, but their are those times, days, or nights where ya just can't help thinking about how much better life can be. I guess I just miss it sometimes, I miss the love and romance and all the crazy little things that made it special.
Thanx for reading.... 
popo
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travelwoman
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Aug 13 @ 1:24AM
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You made a good list with all the advantages of living in a relationship and I congratulate you for making a good point.... 
However.... you forgot that, even though we do like our chocolate (especially I, since I was born and raised with Swiss chocolate....) there comes the point where we would give it (almost) up just
..... for having somebody around who could fix that darn car that keeps breaking down....
(Sorry, I had to write something goofy, because your neat list just gave me the blues.... )
Nice blog....
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MrPaul
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Aug 13 @ 1:41AM
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I love women really I do, I adore, admire and think they truly are God's greatest gift to man, But on the other hand they can seem like the Devil in disguise  You must know my ex  Great blog my man, and so true... God knew what he was doing when he made women Know if we could just figure them out
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butterfly943
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Aug 13 @ 1:54AM
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Hola POPO We both know she / he is out there waiting for just us  as for being alone for me it is hard allot of times but I like my alone time too as for getting married again..I said I would never marry again..yet..I miss being with my guy, best friend, lover I miss have someone that has eyes for me..that wants me as part of his life..yikes Im writing a profile sorry..heck its 2am and Im sleepy...yup I miss sharing that too
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musicianfriend
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Aug 13 @ 3:59AM
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We seek relationships....and when things get tight...we chicken out...
I think were afraid since the last love of our life ...the love we thought would last forever fell apart...and for some of us...it was shocking when that happened....
Perhaps we dont trust our own judgement anymore...and are afraid to feel that kind of pain again..even thought we want to share life with someone..
Yes..POPO..it truly is like being between a rock and a hard place...Its very frustrating..
Also..as we are older now...its harder to match up...We dont want to leave our children...and move across the country and then miss out on experiencing being a grandparent..
As soon as we feel those walls melting down...the fear comes up...even if we dont want it too..
I have no answers...Im just as confused about love and relationships in these later years of my life after all the dissappointments...and being lied to and deceived...its sometimes easier to just live alone..
i guess when the 'right one comes' it will all just flow...or....did he come..and I missed it?
See.....its all so confusing...I hate it ..
*she sulks back into her cave*
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mystery2u888
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Aug 13 @ 4:14AM
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I am very content right now....  ...I think you have hit all the things on target.......but.....when timing is right.......you just know..  .....you can have the friendship.......and then you build from then on......communication is a must...  without it you are at a deadend.. ..........I know where I am going and at what time.......because I have things I want to do and that is what I am doing......but....when that time hits......I know .....the man will come along and at that time....we together will bond and continue forth......  .....for our journey together....balancing as one........but not losing ourselves in between the journey .....so many times I see people lose themselves because of the relationship that is suppose to be as one...........however some lose there identity. ......and I never  want that......I want to be my own individual self. .....as I would want my significant other to be that way as well
good blog
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PrettyGreenEyes578
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Aug 13 @ 4:48AM
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I had spent a lot of time solo on this journey and I enjoyed the "me" time, but also wished for that someone special to come into my life.
I can relate to what you are saying.
I believe it is in God's timing.
That someone special for you may not be at the exact point in time ready for you and needs just a little more time.
When we least expect it, someone will come into our life.
It is up to us to recognize him or her or pass him or her by.
Excellent Blog!
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POPO
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Aug 13 @ 7:51AM
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TravelWomen,
You made a good list with all the advantages of living in a relationship and I congratulate you for making a good point....
Thank you.. It's a list I think mant can identify with who have been a in loving relationship, ya can't help but miss that stuff.
However.... you forgot that, even though we do like our chocolate (especially I, since I was born and raised with Swiss chocolate....) there comes the point where we would give it (almost) up just
..... for having somebody around who could fix that darn car that keeps breaking down....
That's funny... you should be able to have both a guy who can fix atleast the basics and have your chocolate too..  I would never ask a woman to give up her chocolate..
(Sorry, I had to write something goofy, because your neat list just gave me the blues.... )
Nice blog....
Sorry Travel, I didn't mean to give anyone the blues.. but when I started thinking about it, that was allot of the things I can't help but miss..
Thanx for your thoughts and don't ever
let some one talk you out of your chocolate
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chubs
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Aug 13 @ 7:51AM
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hola popo, mijo...another great blog...I see and know both sides of it and agree with all that you have said...I'm not in a relatonship right now and what I miss the most is the NFL season is starting soon, and I like when my girlfriend dresses like a MN Viking Cheerleader during the game!
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chubs
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Aug 13 @ 7:53AM
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oh, I forgot to add that I have even been known to sometimes buy her the outfit too!
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oklacheri
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Aug 13 @ 7:55AM
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As always....you expess our own inner thoughts and fears. 
Add this blog to your best!!
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POPO
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Aug 13 @ 8:02AM
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Mr.Paul,
What up Bro....  Hey Congratulations on your program for the Kids Big Ups to you my friend..
I think many of us have an ex that made us wonder if they were a Devil or Angel... Yeah we agree, they are the wonder of the planet..you know, we wonder what in the world are you thinking but you gotta love em.. trying to figure them out, well that might not be so easy, it sometimes is better to just accept them and say these two things each morning you wake up..Yeah your right! and I'm sorry... you know somewhere during the day it's going to happen 
Thanx for your thoughts..
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POPO
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Aug 13 @ 8:18AM
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Hola POPO We both know she / he is out there waiting for just us as for being alone for me it is hard allot of times but I like my alone time too as for getting married again..I said I would never marry again..yet..I miss being with my guy, best friend, lover I miss have someone that has eyes for me..that wants me as part of his life..yikes Im writing a profile sorry..heck its 2am and Im sleepy...yup I miss sharing that too
Hola Butterfly.... Buenas Dias....
Hey if she's out there somewhere, she needs to stop hiding, this chit isn't funny anymore... I hear ya, the alone time is good, but it does get old. I think many of us who feel like we would never fall in love again or marry again, would change our minds in a heart beat, if that right one came along, that made us just say to our self, damm your the one the I've been waiting for, atleast I would..
Thanx for your thoughts as always... profile style or not... sometimes our best profile comments come from our inner thoughts
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chubs
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Aug 13 @ 8:30AM
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oh, sorry, popo...I forgot mijo is son...I meant to say bro, jhey! 
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POPO
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Aug 13 @ 8:46AM
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MF aka Titi....
Titi the only time I back out is when I see too many red flags (when her chickens are coming home ....to roost) I ain't scared of no woman.. well some of them.. 
I hear ya Titi, it is a hard blow to over come, and we wonder are we dating our next broken heart..
Perhaps we dont trust our own judgement anymore...and are afraid to feel that kind of pain again..even thought we want to share life with someone..
I understand what your saying ... I do trust my own judgement, because I take allot of time to make up my mind, and it's not my fault if she's crazy! I'm kidding!
Yes..POPO..it truly is like being between a rock and a hard place...Its very frustrating..
That's it....Titi I'm sending you a plane ticket to Minneapolis, we going to work this out once and for all.. scared ya huh....
Also..as we are older now...its harder to match up...We dont want to leave our children...and move across the country and then miss out on experiencing being a grandparent..
Very true....we do have more to consider now days then we did were back in our 20's. Did I ever tell you that when I was in my 20's I was quite the "Stud Muffin"
As soon as we feel those walls melting down...the fear comes up...even if we dont want it too..
Titi don't fight the feeling...
I have no answers...Im just as confused about love and relationships in these later years of my life after all the dissappointments...and being lied to and deceived...its sometimes easier to just live alone..
Hey I do....I'm your Huckleberry....
i guess when the 'right one comes' it will all just flow...or....did he come..and I missed it?
See.....its all so confusing...I hate it .. *she sulks back into her cave
Titi you need to come out the cave....  whats' the matter with you.. snap out of it...call me I think I got some talk for you... If it get's dirty just go with the flow... That's right I said it, don't fight, I'm here to help...
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POPO
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Aug 13 @ 9:00AM
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Mystery..Hola Cutie..
I hear ya....I'm content right now as well at times... and then there's those other times when I just can't help but miss it.. I agree timing has allot to do with it, also you hit the nail on the head with this..you just know..
I am very content right now, I think you have hit all the things on target, but, when timing is right,you just know, you can have the friendship, and then you build from then on, communication is a must, without it you are at a deadend, I know where I am going and at what time, because I have things I want to do and that is what I am doing, but, when that time hits, I know, the man will come along and at that time, we together will bond and continue forth, for our journey together, balancing as one, but not losing ourselves in between the journey, so many times I see people lose themselves because of the relationship that is suppose to be as one, however some lose there identity, and I never want that, I want to be my own individual self, as I would want my significant other to be that way as well
good blog
Wow! very well said, but then again I always like reading your thoughts.... Smart and Cute....oooooooh la la that's kinda dangerous... i like that combination..
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POPO
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Aug 13 @ 9:24AM
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PrettyGreenEyes...Buenas Dias
I had spent a lot of time solo on this journey and I enjoyed the "me" time, but also wished for that someone special to come into my life.
I can relate to what you are saying.
I believe it is in God's timing.
Good Point... I do believe he knows what I want and need, but is more interested in fulfilling the need over the want. I wish he would call me so we can work this out
That someone special for you may not be at the exact point in time ready for you and needs just a little more time. When we least expect it, someone will come into our life.
It is up to us to recognize him or her or pass him or her by.
Excellent Blog
Well she needs to get a move on... I think I'm in the mood.. I'm leaving the porch light on in case she drives by or figures out where I am. I often wonder will I recognize her if she comes into my life, I think I will... atleast I hope I will. I have been blessed to have known some really wonderful women, that were really close but it just didn't feel completely right.I'm not looking for perfection, just that perfect fit for me, and I for her. Maybe some day?
Thanx as always for your thoughts
Popo
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POPO
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Aug 13 @ 9:36AM
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Chubs What up Homie....
hola popo, mijo...another great blog...I see and know both sides of it and agree with all that you have said...I'm not in a relatonship right now and what I miss the most is the NFL season is starting soon, and I like when my girlfriend dresses like a MN Viking Cheerleader during the game!
I hear ya....Football season is upon us..Viks play this Friday at 5:00 against Colts, should be interesting atleast the first quarter. Hey when I like the idea of the cheer leader outfit, I think I need to put that in my profile, during the game must wear sexy Viks cheer leader outfit... Aye Dios Mio...talk about 3 hrs of excitement.. and all the snacks too.. Hey maybe I can get to her to feed me during the game, dance and cheer during commercials and half time, I might miss opening kick off in the 3rd quarter but I'm down with that.
oh, I forgot to add that I have even been known to sometimes buy her the outfit too!
Your a good man Chubs...always thinking!
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POPO
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Aug 13 @ 9:42AM
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Hola Cheri baby... Buenas Dias Chulita...
As always....you expess our own inner thoughts and fears.
Add this blog to your best!!
You are a Sweetheart.... Hey are you a Vikings fan? I'm just sayin.. Chubs gave me an idea... bad Popo...
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POPO
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Aug 13 @ 9:44AM
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Chubs....(oh, sorry, popo...I forgot mijo is son...I meant to say bro, jhey! )
No problem bro....bro or brother is Hermano...
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gunn12fan
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Aug 13 @ 10:10AM
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Hola Como Estas!
I know how ya feel man! Some how if i ever find a Girlfriend ( and that will be a never at this point) I always wind up with one that has serious Mental Issues
So i said the heck with it and have gone back to living thw quiet mundain life that i have.
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POPO
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Aug 13 @ 10:22AM
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Muy Bueno y tu? Hola Hermano.... Que Pasa...
Hola Como Estas!
I know how ya feel man! Some how if i ever find a Girlfriend ( and that will be a never at this point) I always wind up with one that has serious Mental Issues
So i said the heck with it and have gone back to living thw quiet mundain life that i have.
I feel your pain my brother.....  just keep in mind, in order to find that right one, you have to come down from the moutain sometime... stay away from bars and clubs that's usually where all the issues are hanging out...
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debbz32
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Aug 13 @ 10:34AM
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I think about this alot...i have no answers yet
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POPO
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Aug 13 @ 10:48AM
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Hola Buenas Dias Debb.....
I think about this alot...i have no answers yet
You maybe like me right now? Stuck between a Rock and hard Place!
It's hard sometimes we know what we want, and if the truth be known it's not really all that much, were not asking for perfection, just honest loyal affection. Someone we like being around and have common ground with.. Sometimes Happiness is like an illusion, filled with sadness and confusion, yet the right one can turn that around in a heart beat!
Thanx for your honesty
Popo
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oklacheri
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Aug 13 @ 12:27PM
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well I do have a OU set of shoulderpads and a signed athletic supporter... thinkyou might .... Ohhhhh bad thoughts BUT nice image!!!
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POPO
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Aug 13 @ 12:43PM
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[quote] well I do have a OU set of shoulderpads and a signed athletic supporter... thinkyou might .... Ohhhhh bad thoughts BUT nice image!!!
Ooooooooooh I like a challenge and a woman who is a thinker...
Okay you won't need the shoulder pads... The positions I'm thinking of require more skill then blocking Like a Wide Reciever... A tight End or a Center.... are ya with me so far?
As far as the Athletic supporter, keep that in a safe place, I wouldn't want to embarrass the person who signed it... I'm just sayin 
But I love your creative mind...now about that Vikings cheer leader outfit... talk to me...
Oh I've been given special permission by the Mod here for women to tell get very creative...I got this covered...
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1frantastic
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Aug 13 @ 12:59PM
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popo.....nice blog...and I too want that "old feeling",,,,except... never had the whole thing...the love from another person who made me feel special...I had the fantasy of "it's gonna get better"..but it didn't....
I have been divorced from my last husband since 1987....and have only come out to "play" since 2006...and played only this last year....
so I understand your rock and hard place....and also the damned if I do and damned if I don't....
hang in there...I am .....
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POPO
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Aug 13 @ 1:17PM
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popo.....nice blog...and I too want that "old feeling",,,,except... never had the whole thing...the love from another person who made me feel special...I had the fantasy of "it's gonna get better"..but it didn't.... I have been divorced from my last husband since 1987....and have only come out to "play" since 2006...and played only this last year.... so I understand your rock and hard place....and also the damned if I do and damned if I don't.... hang in there...I am .....
Wow.....  87 to 06 That's along break I really wish for you, that you would have had every bit of love you gave come right back to you.It does make you feel special and excited at once, It really is like magic I really hope you find that... Oh I'm hanging in there, But if it doesn't happen again, I'm okay with that. I just can't imagine being in a relationship, and not being happy, I couldn't stay.
Thanx for your thoughts and story
Popo
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sybnann
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Aug 13 @ 1:44PM
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POPO, I do feel your pain and confusion. I too want my independence to a point, but miss the security of a long lasting, healthy relationship.
I say... have the best of BOTH worlds... why not just date that special someone and keep our own place and enjoy having the remote for a while longer..... that way we can visit each other often and do things together but be able to go back home and do what we WANT!! LOL! Partially kidding.....
Seriously though, I agree with mystery on this one, wait until you find someone that does not "allow" you to give up the things you really love, any more than you would expect the lady to... After all.... life is just WAY too short!!!!!!!
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POPO
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Aug 13 @ 3:50PM
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[quote] POPO, I do feel your pain and confusion. I too want my independence to a point, but miss the security of a long lasting, healthy relationship.
I say... have the best of BOTH worlds... why not just date that special someone and keep our own place and enjoy having the remote for a while longer..... that way we can visit each other often and do things together but be able to go back home and do what we WANT!! LOL! Partially kidding.....
Seriously though, I agree with mystery on this one, wait until you find someone that does not "allow" you to give up the things you really love, any more than you would expect the lady to... After all.... life is just WAY too short!!!!!!!
Syb,
To find someone within driving distance is hard.. very hard I understand what your saying and that would be atleast a nice compromise
But for the right Girl, I would gladly give up the remote, well except during football season But yeah I hear ya, I wouldn't stay with someone if I couldn't be myself, and I would certainly hope she felt the same way. Your not truly happy if you have to fake it or try to be what your not, if two peeps are going to lock down....they should accept each other just like we do a used car..As Is..
Thank you as always for your thoughts
Popo
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POPO
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Aug 13 @ 3:52PM
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Oh by the Syb, Love the pic....
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oklacheri
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Aug 13 @ 7:11PM
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NO, NO, POPO I wasn't offering to wear my pads for you.... I was just wondering if you would wear them for me! The autograph too!!!
Mod's okay with fantasies but not political debate..... Oh!! Well that's very LIBERAL
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POPO
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Aug 13 @ 8:56PM
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NO, NO, POPO I wasn't offering to wear my pads for you.... I was just wondering if you would wear them for me! The autograph too!!! Pads are restricting, but I might suggest a helmet for you... for safety reasons of course I can try the autograph for you, but don't be shocked if it fits like a hat rack..
Mod's okay with fantasies but not political debate..... Oh!! Well that's very LIBERAL yep anything that isn't conservative after all mod said this was a very liberal site..
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skylar4
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Aug 13 @ 10:37PM
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I wouldn't stay with someone if I couldn't be myself, and I would certainly hope she felt the same way. Your not truly happy if you have to fake it or try to be what your not, if two peeps are going to lock down....they should accept each other just like we do a used car..As Is..
just like we do a used car..As Is.. I Love that analogy POPO
He can buy her the chocolate & she can switch the remote to watch the Colts kick the Vikings azz
As usual POPO.....another great soul searching blog
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POPO
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Aug 14 @ 12:40AM
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Hola Skylar.... What a Cutie....
Popo said
I wouldn't stay with someone if I couldn't be myself, and I would certainly hope she felt the same way. Your not truly happy if you have to fake it or try to be what your not, if two peeps are going to lock down....they should accept each other just like we do a used car..As Is..
Ms Skylar said
This ^^^ to me is a "key" to the making of any good relationship. Must accept & love each for who they truly are, no changing, then blend those qualities together. I also believe you can live/be together & still have ones own space when needed.
Okay now were bonding... I completely agree.. I was married for 25 years to the same woman.. 2 happy years...I'm kidding I loved every day and year of it. Not once did I ever feel I needed my own space or time away, we gave each other our own space within the space we had, I thought that was normal.
Popo said
just like we do a used car..As Is..
Ms.Skylar said
I Love that analogy POPO Awwwww I have a blog I could write about a used car and a relationship...
Now just when I thought ole cupid was taking aim I read this
He can buy her the chocolate & she can switch the remote to watch the Colts kick the Vikings azz
That is so not right... I can't believe you said that... That's it.... No chocolate for you till half time
As usual POPO.....another great soul searching blog
Awwww after this comment and that picture I'm willing to forgive.. bit no making up until half time.. cuz that's how I roll.. I'm a giver..
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