I have been dating outside of my race every since i was divorced 2 years ago.I am a black female who was married to a black man for 28 years..Now i am attracted to other races..when i am out with a different race,black men look at me with shame..have had one to come over and ask me why? I was shocked and did not know what to say..Will america ever accept interacial dating?
All comments welcome..Thanks..K..[I]
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msjo62064
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Aug 25 @ 7:36PM
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My mom always told me. She didnt care what the person look like that i dated as long as i was happy. Wish everyone felt that way. And as far as im concerned there is only one race The Human Race. So if your happy dont worry about what anyone else thinks.
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legacy1
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Aug 25 @ 7:37PM
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I don't see nothing wrong with picking other colors from the rainbow....I date outside of my race also..asian to white girls...variety is the spice of life or how ever the saying goes... 
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burnslikethesun
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Aug 25 @ 7:51PM
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It's when more then one race are in a relationship.
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mystery2u888
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Aug 25 @ 8:00PM
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I would have said............when is it anyone's business who you are dating and I am sorry but.......I don't see color.................I just see people............that are ignorant  I agree as long as you are happy ...........I pay no attention to anyone else.............I am looking for my happiness not anyone's else approval.........your at an age to make your own decision not to please everyone else or strangers........if people don't get it.........they are jealous and envious.......they probably want you .........  maybe it will wake them up......to see.........it's not about color.....it's what is inside that matter 
 xoxo
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aimee23874
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Aug 25 @ 8:04PM
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be happy being with whomever makes you happy. regardless of skin color.
i wish you the best!!!!!
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Tiramisu4u
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Aug 25 @ 8:05PM
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I repeat what mystery said... 
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sloriver
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Aug 25 @ 8:26PM
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Godfrey Cambridge once said, "If God had intended the races to be seperate He wouldn't have made the parts standard."
In the end, does it matter what people think? There are bigots of all races and who cares what a bigot thinks?
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Slohand_47
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Aug 25 @ 8:59PM
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Just goes to show that bigots come in all colors.
I've noticed that some area's of the country are more.... enlightened.... than others. Large cities..... the west coast, and Hawaii.
Hawaii has MANY different ethnic backgrounds. I'd suggest you move to Maui (heaven on earth) and be free to date anyone you please!
Aloha
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JenRNinOhio
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Aug 25 @ 9:00PM
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Sloriver said:
"..who cares what a bigot thinks?"
Easier said & felt when one hasn't been on the receiving side of bigotry.
I can't speak for myself but my younger sister is biracial
& she has felt bigotry from both sides....
Especially when dating various races...
I'm pretty sure one can't answer the question for ALL
of America as bigotry & prejudice varies with regions.
I grew up with an Air Force dad and have lived from
Montana to Mississippi, New Jersey to California.
It may be the region.... It may the group/class of people.
My hillbilly gramma thought she was being very open-minded
when she *accepted* her biracial granddaughter.
Hell, she even had *colored people* in her house!!
IMO, we just have to try to make a little difference in OUR
part of the world ... and hope & pray that some day it will get better.
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observed50
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Aug 25 @ 9:08PM
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Let's be honest...
People's concern with bi-anything...isn't about the dating of other races or religions or politics or ethnicities.
People's concern is with the possible outcome...children.
People who think tribally, think in terms of 'we' versus 'they'...they aren't so much worried about the dating...though certainly there is the sense that someone of the tribe is being deprived by someone outside the tribe 'gittin some.' They all look into the future and start tongue clucking about them mixed kids!
When it was the thing to do, to look down on minorities...many people reacted against mixed dating. The larger society is temporarily less tribal, but there are still subgroups for whom mixed dating really hits a nerve. They see the purity of their tribal group wiped away by people mixing and fixing...
In my hometown, when I was a kid, a town of 450 in dairy country in PA, there were no minorities per se. Instead...there were them damn Catholics and Protestants. So yep...people went beserk if their kid dated one of them messed up 'others,'...literally disowning them. I married a Catholic girl. When we started dating...it made her parents really nervous. When we decided to get married, it made her mother cry. When we decided to get married in a pasture having written our own vows (hippies dontchaknow!), she bawled off and on for two weeks. Her godmother wasn't going to come to wedding.
Like all other forms of violence and suffering in which people won't look to see the impact of their deeds, many such tribal minds find their reasoning in the Bible. If I can find someplace where God feels it's wrong too, I won't have to change..."THEY ' will! YAHOOOO! So they employ all skilcraft to find passages they can twist and apply...so God affirms their fear and dread.
So 'No'...not everyone in American will ever be okay with mixed anything. But...not everyone will ever be okay with anything. Live as if they don't exist...but keep your eyes open. Sometimes they lash out against a world so out of control for them.
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chatillion
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Aug 25 @ 9:14PM
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I see your profile reads: Seeking Men: 45 - 60
You're hot... whomever you date should be close to your age. Unless you want the paramedics standing by...
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POPO
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Aug 25 @ 9:38PM
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Ms JustK..... 
Colors are merely skin tones, were all just people hoping and looking for someone who makes our heart happy.Your perfectly normal, being attracted to different skin colors and cultures, Those of us who are mixed grew up seeing different shades, color didn't matter, how they treated us was everything. We all have our lil preferences of what we find to be sexy, tall, short, thin, big, light, dark or whatever, It really comes down to who they are as a person and how do they make us feel.
I dated different cultures and have loved different cultures and colors, but each one brings their own traditions and cultures to the table, Follow your heart, if a man treats you the way you enjoy being treated and loves you for your heart and ways, he may find your skin tones sexy, but he loves the woman you are, The heart and soul behind the color, that's what makes us who we are, colors have no feelings, but people do.
Those who question you or give you looks, have problems they have yet to over come, they see color as an obstacle, rather then variety, they have racial hang ups.Dating outside of your (race) sort to speak, shows your willingness to accept people for being people and not hung up on old seperatist (sadly) bigoted ways of generations gone by.
Your a beautiful Women any race or culture can easily see that, enjoy your life and who you date, regardless of what some may say or think, your happiness is yours alone, gawkers come in all races and cultures, it's pretty sad to think they feel the need to seperate or hate someone simply because the color of their skin.. 
The next time someone ask you why? maybe you should ask them why do they ask? How does who you choose to date effect them? Don't let someone's misery effect your happiness.. 
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katydid438
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Aug 25 @ 10:24PM
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I was born in Canada and being an Airforce brat I moved to many areas in this country and have met people of all races. Never in all my own personal upbringing was I ever given any indication of differences in people, except for the very obvious genetic differences. I live in a very multicultural town close to a nuclear research facility with scientists and engineers from all over the globe.
Although the colour of skin does not merit discussion,,,there are are cultural differences that we have to learn about and respect.
No one bats an eye if a white person has a relationship or even marries out of their race.....I love it!!!
It's so relaxing and there is soooo much to learn
My brother is coming to visit from Phoenix in two weeks and one of my east Indian friends is going to make samosas and fish balls for me to serve 
And.....I have a male friend in Cuba of African descent and i hear nothing but positive comments
I don't know about he USA...but I think it will take time. Having a black president certainly must break down some barriiers...good luck to you...life is short...just be happy!!!If you feel that your life is in danger and that this is THE relationship for you,,,,then maybe you should think about relocating to an area that is more tolerant 
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humblesweetness
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Aug 25 @ 10:28PM
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I date outside of my race too and don't care what other people think or what they say. I am happy and that's all that counts.
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luneib
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Aug 25 @ 10:28PM
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I have a girlfriend who is white and married to a black man, I have another caucasian girl friend who was married to a black man who is recently divorced, but she only likes black men, it is her preference. I see nothing wrong with dating out of your color if that is what you choose to do I had the opportunity of dating a very well off black man, but.....I was just not attracted to him because on the phone he was a bit arrogant. That nixed it for me lol.
Nothing wrong with what you are doing, if you are enjoying the company of someone, it doesn't matter what their race is, just my opinion on things. The men that come up to you to ask you why seem a bit narrow minded.
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canyon1001
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Aug 25 @ 10:54PM
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I quit caring what others thought a long time ago .. we have but one life and its up to us to fill it with as much joy and happiness as possible. As for different races, we are all the same on the inside - full of red blood and various icky, gross stuff (hate using such technical terms, makes me appear like a snob).
Be true to yourself. 
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singaporegal
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Aug 25 @ 11:07PM
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I am sure I will be flamed for this comment but here goes. As much as it is fashionable for all of us to be perceived as being open minded and espousing the philosophy of "we are all God's children" and people are all the same etc the reality is very different.
On an intellectual level I truly believe it will be a better world if all races can live in harmony and be free to marry whoever they like and reproduce as God intended them to.
But...people cannot help being the products of their environment and conditioning. Personally I prefer to date within my race simply because cultural differences are hard to overcome. As it is half of all marriages in my country are failing between couples of the same race so what are the odds of it succeeding between 2 people from different tribes?
Overcoming prejudice is hard and at my age I have to learn to accept certain preceptions are hard to shake. Personally I will not date or have a relationship with Indian men, Arabs, or African Americans. But that's just me being honest.
However I hasten to say I have many friends of different races. Dating is a whole new ballgame altogether.
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gunn12fan
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Aug 25 @ 11:25PM
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What matters most is in your heart and in your mind what you do is your business and yours alone! Who cares what other people think! Don't worry be happy
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dak82
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Aug 26 @ 12:10AM
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I am half white and half black and I have been on the side of bigotry the majority of my adult life. When growing up, however, I lived in a multicultural neighborhood and had friends of many different races. All we cared about then was having fun playing tag and whatnot. I went to an elementary school that was proud of the amount of multicultural students attending there. Most of this changed by the time I reached high school. You would clearly notice the segregation of the races in the cafeteria. Unspoken boundaries were in place and sections of the cafeteria "belonged" to certain races. It was a horrible situation to deal with since I have maintained a close network of friends from elementary and high school and we are of all different races. Many times racial slurs would be thrown between sections of the cafeteria and often things would escalate in to physical fights. It was hard to believe that these kind of people were attending a catholic high school. The entire school would go to church once a month and we had a chaplain that would hold services for those of different religions. But it appeared as though none of that mattered to most students. During high school I dated an Asian girl for a time and an Indian girl for a time...both relationships ended with cultural differences being one of the main issues. I haven't dated since then because most of the people that I have met either a) have their preferences which do not include the likes of me or b) tend to stick to their own race either because of choice or family/friends grinding it into their skulls that interracial dating is "taboo". I find it disheartening at times seeing as I live in quite a multicultural country yet its citizens still must deal with racial prejudices. I often wonder why can't we all just get along?
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azgirl701
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Aug 26 @ 12:18AM
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what ever floats your boat i dont date out of my race personally but thats just me
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ladyvampire
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Aug 26 @ 1:09AM
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Ok, this is a matter that hits me close to home, my daughter has a biracial child, and she is my heart... And when I see people look strangely at me, when she calls me grandma, it burns me as to how ignorant people can be. A guy once came up to me and said something very rude, to which I said, Oh.. you must be one of them thur ignorant hillbillies.... Then I stuck my nose up at him, walked to my beautiful granddaughter and gave her a kiss on the cheek... And told her that man was ingorant and that he obviously wasn't raised right. She stuck her tongue out at him when she passed him and I just jumped for joy for her (inside of course) and told her, honey, we don't act that way, we are more intelligent than that! She was two at the time.
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ladyvampire
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Aug 26 @ 1:10AM
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Oh and one more thing, Don't ever let anyone make you feel as if you are doing something wrong by dating outside of your race, Love is colorblind.
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mystery2u888
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Aug 26 @ 2:18AM
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I will say it over again.  ...........it's just like a box of crayola's. ........different colors around the world different shapes and sizes........it doesn't matter .........  It is what makes you feel happy about and be proud of who you are............I am not going to go out with someone to please my friends, family let alone strangers......  it's about you and that is all that matters..... the bottom line...........
xoxo
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john49887
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Aug 26 @ 9:35AM
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Yeah....some people are simply morons. 
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kywonder
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Aug 27 @ 12:00AM
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I have always believed that there is one race and that is the human race. I also believe that God likes color in that He made several colors. What a boring world it would be if there was only one color. If they treat you right and make you happy, the color should not matter. I know what you mean because my family is racist. I have a brother who would disown me if I ever dated a person of color. But I say, it is none of his business, it is his problem, not mine.
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