Yes, folks, it was moi, yours truly.
Now really, I know this does not excite anyone & I'm sure quite a few are saying "So what? Who cares?" But the truth of the matter is since I have a tendency to blog my real life experiences & I haven't blogged in a while....well, it's my prerogative to blog about it. 
I met this fella on another website.   Well, yes, I am am on more than just this ONE. Primarily because there are few men here in my area on this site. Well, few that I'd be interested in anyway.
So two or three weeks ago, he emailed me & a healthy exchange began. In short order he wanted to talk on the phone. I decided I might as well, but asked that he give me HIS number & let me call him. We had a couple of conversations & I decided he was safe to give my cell number to, as well. But then the guy was ringing me quite frequently even during the day time. It was a problem, as he was a nut giving me lots of laughs that I enjoyed, but damn, I didn't want to burn up my minutes & start having to pay for going over. *sigh* So I gave him my home number.
What's the first thing he does after I give him my number & ask that he NOT call me prior to 9:30 in the mornings? Yep, you guessed it, he called me at 8:15!  I got over it....I thought....well, he is so funny! And things moved along. Next thing I knew, he was wanting to meet last Saturday. I thought I was game, but then decided I really wasn't ready yet. I reneged on him. Later we decided to meet the next Saturday...this one just past. THEN, he wanted to up it to Wednesday, which was not good for me, but I asked him why the urgency. He said he was excited to see if we would "click" or not.
Eventually, we settled on Friday at 7:00. He lives about 30 or 45 minutes away & was familiar with a pizza parlor here, but told me to make the choice where I wanted to go...as long as it was casual. Casual was more than fine with me. I decided on a nice Mexican restaurant not far from the pizza place he was familar with. They have outdoor dining, great Sangria and Margaritas & I thought it would be a nice place to hang out & get to know each other. Also, there is a park next door that we could stroll around if I decided I liked him. 
I'd learned a little about the guy during our many, but brief, telephone conversations. He'd come upon some bad luck financially when the real estate market bottomed out a couple years ago, but I decided this was nothing to hold against him. He always seemed in a rush when we talked on the phone, but said this was due to HIS minutes on his cell phone being limited. *sigh* I just knew once I met the fella, we'd have a nice leisurely conversation & I'd enjoy getting to know him.
NOT!
It all started at about 6:15. He calls & says he is 5 minutes from the pizza parlor, for me to hurry up & get there!  I wasn't even dressed yet! He said he'd go in & get a slice while waiting for me & I could come inside & get him. WHOOAAAA there buddy! We are meeting for DINNER & you can't even WAIT? And hell no, I'm not coming inside to get you! You can meet me outside! In hindsight, herein lied the beginning of the end. I arrived while he engulfed a slice of greasy pizza....almost as greay as his hair. We talked a moment, then he followed me on down to the Mexican restaurant.
Getting out of our vehicles, I am SHOCKED to see he appears to have on some sort of JOGGING pants! He explains that he is dressed very casual. Well, you ain't kiddin', mister. I do note they aren't exactly jogging pants, but I've no clue what kind of ugly LOUNGE pants they are! He walks up, takes my hand, gives me a hug & attempts to kiss me. Uh...no thanks, dude, as I turn my cheek.
We go out to the deck for a table and he seems to want to rearrange the place.  Finally we settle, but then he complains of the sun and the BUGS!  No bugs were bothering me, but he did change seats so the sun was then in MY eyes. I ordered a sangria. Damn, I wanted one of those gigantic ones, but I knew I wouldn't be here long enough to really ENJOY it! We chatted. Oh no...HE chatted...and chatted...and chatted...and chatted. And finally, he said "How about you?" 
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missliss78
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Sep 6 @ 10:06PM
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I'm almost 50, twice married, no children & I'm on a lousy date with a guy off the internet.  NOoooooo...I didn't actually SAY that....but I almost did. And he was right back to chatting my head off. My phone rang amongst his chatter. Thank you, my little friend. He promptly told me to hang up & turn my phone off. I insisted that I couldn't. Thanks, Mom. 
We ordered our food finally. His manners were not quite up to par...especially considering he ordered DOUBLE sour cream & then still wanted my SINGLE serving I'd ordered on the side.  But dinner was finally over...and his voice was like droning drums resounding in my ears...my eyes ever wavering to the crowd around me.....in my mind, I was frankly hoping not to see ANYONE I knew. I excused myself to the ladies room.
After returning from the ladies room, I SHOULD have used the opportunity to say I needed to call it a night, but that out didn't occur to me. He took me into the inside dining area, laid claim to a booth & scooted in next to me.  Does anyone have a clue what body language one is using when they put their pocket book on the seat between themselves & another person & hold the straps in their hands? 
I finally started yawning & said I needed to get out & head home. Once again, holding my hand, telling me how much he liked me, he asked if I liked him AND TRIED TO KISS ME AGAIN!  Yes, I turned my cheek again. I told him he'd given me quite a bit to digest. He asked if we could meet on Sunday for brunch.
I know, I took the chicken way out by calling him much later Friday evening when I knew his cell phone would be turned off. I left him a message thanking him for driving over to meet me for dinner (which, btw, I helped pay for). I also told him I would not be interested in meeting him Sunday or seeing him again. And I wished him good luck.
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missliss78
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Sep 6 @ 10:07PM
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Gentlemen, if I may, based on this one experience, allow me to give you some pointers when meeting ladies for the first time....or any time for that matter.
#1 Be clean....wash your hair, take a shower, have on clean, decent clothes.
#2 Don't do all the talking...about yourself....your life...your exes.....your failures....your successes. Shut up & let her say a thing or two.
#3 Don't eat off your date's plate. This is something that may be okay when/if you become intimate with each other, but not on a first meeting.
#4 Don't rush your date to meet you prior to the designated time.
#5 Don't push for another date before the first one is even over.
#6 If she doesn't want to kiss the first time, wait for her to indicate an opportune moment for another attempt. And as this goes, don't crowd her either.
I learned a couple of things to be certain from this experience. #1, No, I will never agree to meet another man from online without first seeing some sort of picture of him. Call me shallow if you want to....it will not happen to me again. #2, I know I am open to meeting someone. I also know I am open to having a good time. I was so looking forward to meeting this guy. I loved his voice...he was a ball of energy & he made me laugh. Bottom line, though...he NEVER turned off.
So there you have it. Missliss had a date. It was the first one in a loooong time. It's probably the last one for a looonnng time. I think I’ll go back to the ones I can purchase in the baking aisle of the grocery store.
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Fender
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Sep 6 @ 10:13PM
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I'm so sorry that it turned out that way...One good thing though is that you were willing to give it a chance...
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gunn12fan
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Sep 6 @ 10:17PM
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Sorry you had a bad go but if i ever go on a date I always clean up and look my best for her and give a flower to her and always let her talk and I pick up the tab for the dinner and move and I am always the proper Gentalman!
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ANGRY_MUPPET
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Sep 6 @ 10:18PM
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sounds like ya had a great time ,.ok,.NOT
the next guy will seem better,that's one positive
at least he paid for dinner ??? 
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Sweetheart83446
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Sep 6 @ 10:21PM
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Thank you, my little friend. He promptly told me to hang up & turn my phone off. I insisted that I couldn't. Thanks, Mom Women should never go out on a date with a man they are meeting for the first time without their cell phones. It's a safety issue!
But, you tried. You were a polite woman and gave him a chance. I'm proud of you for not walking off and leaving him there.
#1, No, I will never agree to meet another man from online without first seeing some sort of picture of him. Call me shallow if you want to Absolutely not shallow and I agree 100%
I think I’ll go back to the ones I can purchase in the baking aisle of the grocery store. A blender?
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lovestobake
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Sep 6 @ 10:21PM
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So this is what I have been doing wrong, thanks for the tips. I'd meet you in the baking isle, but; I do my own, baking that is. Better luck next time.
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Jacksonboy
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Sep 6 @ 10:24PM
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Oh dang. Sorry it did not work out.
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CrackerJackPat
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Sep 6 @ 10:26PM
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Sooooooo sorry you had to go through this experience MissLiss.... 
but... like you said.... YOU gave it your best shot... next time wear your six-shooters just in case you want to make your 2nd shot the guy.
But don't give up hope.... as you said... you learned from the experience....
the only thing to do now it take the attitude.... as they say..... "Next !?!"
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Loreli
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Sep 6 @ 10:27PM
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Good tips, Liss.
I wish you would have been in a situation to have a better time 
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blkfoot1954
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Sep 6 @ 10:28PM
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Oh Lissy,I am so sorry.I give you credit for staying there,I might have left long before then..lolol.
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Michael194
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Sep 6 @ 10:28PM
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What he did I would do the opposite, apparently he is no southern gentleman. The way he treated you he had no respect for you from the start. I know what it is to be on a miserable date, my best friend set me up on a blind date but did'nt tell me this woman had just broken up with her boyfriend. All night long I had to hear about this guy and all she did was cry about him, I could have ended the date early but there is one thing I can't stand is a woman crying, so I stayed with her and comforted her till I took her home.
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SallyF
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Sep 6 @ 10:29PM
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Oh, missy.....seems it is still true that we must 'kiss a lot of frogs' before finding a prince. One down......
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mikiebigeyes
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Sep 6 @ 10:30PM
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I'm okay with this guy bein' out there. Tells me I haven't hit the bottom of the Social Register yet.
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oceanlover734
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Sep 6 @ 10:33PM
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Oh hon I'm sorry it was such a disappointment! I did have to laugh at your tale as it was very humorous. This cracked me up I do note they aren't exactly jogging pants, but I've no clue what kind of ugly LOUNGE pants they are! I imagined how he must have looked. Better one is out there I'm sure so just be ready. We all have our horror stories.
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chatillion
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Sep 6 @ 10:44PM
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So... how was the pizza? 
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Michael194
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Sep 6 @ 10:45PM
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Sounds to me that everything was about him !!! What a ham.
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jcarolina
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Sep 6 @ 10:56PM
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Ouch! That's terrible. Don't give up though, someone will be along directly.
And so what you had a date? I had one too.......
last summer.  
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signme
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Sep 6 @ 11:03PM
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Doggone Miss, I was waiting for a GOOD story! Although it was funny in retrospect, I bet it wasn't at the time. But you gave it a shot. I'm with you though, I need to see a pic before the date. If he can see mine, I need to see his! (Picture, guys, picture! LOL)
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Jalon
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Sep 6 @ 11:08PM
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I swear I've went out with the exact same greasy-haired guy...'cept I snuck out of the restaurant on him. Those nice Applebees waitresses will escort you right through the kitchen exit if you ask nicely.
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mystery2u888
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Sep 6 @ 11:14PM
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aww miss I am so sorry about that..........I was hoping for a good story.........email and communication is essential as you go on you really find out alot before getting to that point. Well.....you at least did have your cocktail and thank goodness it was the little one so easier for you to say buh bye...............  It was the experience........some are great and some not so good....
thank you for sharing your blog cuz I enjoy them very much xo
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Purplemix1
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Sep 6 @ 11:14PM
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Well Miss, I have to say, it sounds like a date from Hell ooooooh what's next...I can just imagine it was a trying experience for you. I give you credit for taking the chance and for being polite and seeing it through to the end... I guess when it finally gets to the phone part, it might be wise to mention how much a fresh showered, nice clothed man can make or break a date... oh,, and dang,,,,, and how it's not nice to eat off someones plate without permission. ewwwwwwww.lol,,,,,better luck next go round.. and remember if you find a perfect one,, make sure he has a brother,,,for me..lol
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Mission_Impossible139
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Sep 6 @ 11:22PM
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I've got good stories and bad ones. It's all part of dating and not necessarily internet dating. It's the whole dating scene. Later, you musta had a good laugh and look at you, a good blog. Love those stories. Sorry it wasn't a match made in heaven but those are rare ask anyone.
I had an internet date in Tucson that told me she looked sort of like Rosey, the talk show host. When I got there she looked more like a man. No, not kidding I thought she was a man. I was thinking, should I ask her to prove she didn't have a "whatchamacallit". Hmmm well, I couldn't get out of there fast enough.
Good Luck in the Future!
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summerbreeze916
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Sep 6 @ 11:38PM
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Oh, missliss! I was so excited for you when I first started reading this. The poor fellow could have been really nervous, and that's why he wouldn't shut up.......but greasy hair and lounge pants? Oh no...........  He actually TOLD you to hang your phone up and shut it off?
I'm so sorry it was a bad date for you, my friend. Maybe you should stay right here in MD, so we can watch over you. 
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Nightowl001
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Sep 6 @ 11:42PM
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Dang, Miss. Sorry to hear you were disappointed. I hope it goes better next time!
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hpylady_
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Sep 6 @ 11:53PM
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well at least you tried .. good for you.
I've actually had them try to arrange to meet me and someone else.. not at the same time but possibly the same day.. you know kill 2 birds with one stone .. save gas ..
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poeticcougar
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Sep 6 @ 11:57PM
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well at least you HAD a date... ummm nah, I can't even be funny here. Soooo sorry the guy left all his class and tact in his diapers as a baby.
Hey what doesn't kill us makes us stronger
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BandTMom
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Sep 7 @ 12:11AM
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I'm happy you gave it a change. You've got your feet wet now so you are ready for the plunge!
It is NOT shallow to need to know what someone looks like. I've been on plenty of blind dates to know that. You can have all the emotional attraction in the world, but if there's no physical attraction, there will be no romantic relationship.
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jcarolina
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Sep 7 @ 12:17AM
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I don't know about the picture thing. I'm fairly certain that my pic itself is what keeps me from getting dates.
Whoever said a picture is worth a thousand words was a fool.
Hey Mission.....I went on a blind date once with a thin lady, very thin. I drank so many beers I convinced myself she was a man. So much so that she pulled her pants down to prove she wasn't.
That was some years ago, but what an experience!
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travelwoman
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Sep 7 @ 12:39AM
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Miss...
You DID get away.....
You did not get harmed, because you are smart. (Obviously, HE was in a great big hurry getting close to you....)
You "only" had to pay your food.... Did you ever meet the guy who "forgot" or "misslaid" his wallet for that first date?
I'm VERY sorry that what seemed like a nice enough guy, turned out to be a major jerk.
You deserve a better date! 
Now.... I only hope you don't have to change all your phone numbers....
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sweet5red
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Sep 7 @ 1:08AM
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oh lord..... sorry you had to be subjected to that.. like a few folks said NEXT................ Sweet N L
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dizzydoll
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Sep 7 @ 2:25AM
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well, another time... the right one will come 
getting back to the cell phone issue, our service providers are not like America's service providers... as i discovered while there. At home I dont get charged for a call if someone calls me, so that means i dont need airtime in my phone to receive calls. Knowing what i know now, if i ever lived in America i wouldnt own a cell phone . Both parties being charged for the same call is a rip off plain and simple.
One of my simcards airtime was completely eaten up by some women who was convinced "Rees" was with me and she kept phoning me, the display showed "private number" but i had to answer as i was expecting calls from companies who were arranging trips etc for me .
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chubs
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Sep 7 @ 2:43AM
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dang missliss...I agree with signme, I was waiting and hoping for a good date story, and the way you started out telling this story kinda gave me the impression at first that it was going to have a happy ending, but, alas, to the contrary, it wasn't and I'm bummed for you
it really doesn't surprize me that you met him on another date site, and I totally gotta give you big kudo's for meeting the idiot without seeing a picture of him first...that was pretty darn open-minded and brave of ya's, jhey!
honestly, I'm sorry it didn't all work out for ya...you deserve the best!
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dizzydoll
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Sep 7 @ 3:25AM
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that was pretty darn open-minded and brave of ya's, jhey!
thats pretty upbeat there chubs
flowers for you
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ColdinWisconsin
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Sep 7 @ 5:08AM
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But, you tried. You were a polite woman and gave him a chance. I'm proud of you for not walking off and leaving him there.
No kidding girl, you were a real trouper. I would have cut that shit so short he wouldn't have known what happened.
Lesson leanred though. Many in fact. And isn't that the strange thing that at our ages...those dang things keep coming?
Smart on the cell phone, smart for meeting him there. But the pizza place fiasco was your golden ticket. while he was chowing it down, you should have urged him to take his time. Ordered yourself a soda and taken the 5 minutes to let him blather on awhile you absorbed his, well..his essence for lack of a better word. 
It is moments like these where we must listen to what our fathers would have said instead of the voice of our mothers. She would ahve urged us to be polite no matter the social situation and while she would have been horrified with this man, she also would have whispered in our ear that "There are worse men out there you know...you could do worse....
But dads? They lay it out there. His voice would ahve told you to suck that soda right down to the cubes, nod your head in all the right places and then say...
You know what? I think this is one of those situations where you realize right off the bat whether things are going to work or not and I think now would be a good time for us to both go our separate ways.
Smile gently, pat his hand and turn around and walk out. No more words are needed, you were polite and you also didn't have to have a perfectly good meal ruined, watch someone slightly gross eat, listen to their inane chatter, and have to be on your guard by placing objects between you and them.
Sometimes I think it's kinder to both ourselves and the "other' to be ruthless with a smile. That's what my dad called it anyway. some people just don't get it and they never will. When someone doesn't respect themselves enough to dress cleanly and with care at your first meeting...well, you have just gotten a gander at the best they are willing to offer you.
Ruthless girl. Life is short. My patience for those takers in life who cannot see that they have effectively made the world all about them and with apparently no good reason...I just can't be bothered anymore.
Failing all that...it time to carry a fan and complain of your hot flashes and menopausal symptoms every time a taker like that opens their mouth. Every time. They say if you are interested in someone to mirror their mannerisms. That they will be unconciously attracted to you. I think the same holds true for repulsion, because he certainly wasn't interested in anything to do with you.
I say..next time...give it to them. Mirror them. Enjoy your soda. Leave quickly. Go to a fun restraunt and call a girlfriend so you can find the humor in the madness straight away.
And how sad is my advice? End your evening with a girlfriends instead of a man. Forget it, I'm probably totally wrong. Ignore every word I just wrote!
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Timber52
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Sep 7 @ 5:46AM
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I have to agree with the rest LOL.. I thought the blog was going to be a fairy tale ending..  LOL.. but, I also give you credit for giving it a chance.. Most likely.. I wouldn't of made it into the restaurant LOL.. not even for a glass of tea LOL..
although.. I might add.. a comment about your pointers for the gentlemen.. JMO.. you are lucky that he came as he really is LOL.. better you find out right away.. and not waste anymore time.. you kept your purse between the two of you.. I met a man one time.. kept the car door between us LOL.. oh.. the stories we all could tell LOL.. Here is hope'n the next one will be a keeper..
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cowboy2x4
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Sep 7 @ 8:02AM
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Giving up is for quitters...hang in there!
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unionman154
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Sep 7 @ 8:15AM
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Next time it will be bells and whistles.
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marchartist
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Sep 7 @ 8:31AM
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Miss..gotta keep those wheels greased! Keep going and moving and eventually you'll hit pay dirt! I mostly just hit dirt. I was on a date once that was SO bad, I almost ran him over in the parking lot on my way out. You're WAY ahead!
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chatillion
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Sep 7 @ 8:50AM
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Bad dates... I've had a few. I didn't tell you about a date I took to an Italian restaurant, did I?
She grabbed the spaghetti with her fingers, tilted her head back and dropped the spaghetti into her mouth.
Not once... but several times. I thought I was with a four year old.
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SpyderLady
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Sep 7 @ 8:52AM
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This is why you should always...Always...just meet for coffee. You can cut it short or you can extend the time. Don't promise more than 30 minutes.
This can still happen with a photo ya know. And 9 times out of 10 its not going to click for either you or him, so it sometimes takes meeting several dates to find someone you want to spend time with. This way he isn't out much money and you don't feel obligated to spend time when you are not comfortable.
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EternalFlame
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Sep 7 @ 9:07AM
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I was going to say just what SpyderLady just said. Coffee I've met more than one loser while internet dating, and gratefully I had only ever met them for coffee. It's quick, and then you get the hell out of there.
Another good one, if you must meet for dinner, is set up a time with a girlfriend for her to call your cell. She says, "Hey Lissy, how's it going?" and if it's going well, you tell her so. If it's not you say, "What? (pause) OMG I'll be right there!" Then you hang up and tell your date that a friend of yours has had an accident and you're needed at the hospital.
Works every time
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ladyjuly21
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Sep 7 @ 9:48AM
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I know the feeling about a date like that missliss i had one that asked me for my left over so he could give it to his dog what a nite mare that was GOOD LUCK NEXT TIME.
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edthepoet
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Sep 7 @ 9:56AM
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I am sorry to hear how your enjoyment from online didn't transfer to real life, big hug
I can only say don't give up on online dating, I been on over 45 dates and had only one slightly bad one.
Now, yes, you should always have a person send you recent pic's.
When it's comes to online dating, anything on the phone or e-mail doesn't really count until you meet and the real world actually meets what your conversations have been all along,otherwise it's just meeting gone bad, not a date.
Your a good person, so I wish you the very best in the future.
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Tiramisu4u
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Sep 7 @ 10:24AM
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Oh, Miss...altho the date was a nightmare, it made for a HOOT of a blog!!!
I can not add to all the great comments on here except to say, and I am repeating myself...You are a Class Act! 
I really cannot remember any really bad dates...but it has been so long, the good ones are blurry too!
Main thing, it was a start, and a learning experience....you did everything right ....and someday you will meet an older version of, say, Gunn....which is a what you deserve...
*Damn this was a funny read, tho...sowwy*
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dedepi
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Sep 7 @ 10:54AM
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Oh my goodness what a nightmare!!! I have dated so many "losers" men who have no manners, men who are scarey, men who are sweet, but didn't like me and I liked them,it seems such a roller coaster ride with the on line dating...I gave up, I actully stopped dating all together, I love the LORD and finding a man in my area who loves the LORD as well is such a hard thing, you would think Church would be the idea place, but have not met anyone there either, oh well in GOD timing I guess, good for you L that you decided not to date him anymore, first impressions do count, pictures count as well, but out ot the goodness of your heart you gave him a chance without having a picture, I wish you all the luck in the world finding a nice man on line, this goes for women as well, I had a man friend who has really had bad luck with finding women on here as well, he has dated some many!!! One woman drank 3 Margaritta's to his one ( sorry for my spelling)and wanted to go home with him, omg!!! chin up girl!!!
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Fayvorite
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Sep 7 @ 10:59AM
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What a great blog about a bad date. Something positive from something negative, YOU GO GIRL!
I had a bunch to say as I was reading the blog but everyone beat me to it.
However I have to say I'm backing out of an upcoming date because I'm uncomfortable with it before the date and trusting my instincts all the more now because of your blog. Thank you.
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sweetxy
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Sep 7 @ 11:01AM
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Miss ,you rock ! ,kudo1
if most people have opened talk on basic things it might reduce some disappointment,in the future but most people just have confidence with what and who they are, you learned.,and you lucky you find it at first date.,
,,,I like your new pic
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happygrlok
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Sep 7 @ 11:10AM
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Spyderlady is right on the money. I have met quite of few men from the internet and will only go for coffee. I won't committ to any more time than that with an unknown.If I want to spend more time I can. I also ask a friend to call me at a certain time. If I am to meet him at 6 I ask my friend to call me at 6:20. We have a password in advance. If I use the password my friend knows all is well. If I don't, she will call me back in 5 minutes to make sure I am on my home. You don't know how many times I only got through half a cup of coffee. So many are not who they represent their selves to be. But I have not lost faith as I know their are many wonderful men out there. Good Luck my friend with all that you have learned.
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Ginger2323
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Sep 7 @ 12:51PM
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Sorry you had such a horrible experience, but, at least you gave it a shot! I think I would have pulled a "family ER" after seeing his greasy hair & him dressed in "some type of lounge pant outfit"!!! You are too funny!! & tell a great story . Hope you have better luck next time .
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lilypod53
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Sep 7 @ 3:05PM
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hi there, well, at least you gave the guy a chance. and it was a funny story. you'd think he'd show some commonsense. no wonder the guy is still single. keep on trying, full marks to you.
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CHARLIgurl1
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Sep 7 @ 3:58PM
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I started reading this with a ... 
and ended up with a....
So sorry this happened to you. You deserve better.
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beckyiv42000
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Sep 7 @ 4:44PM
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LISSSSSSSSSSSS omg you have way more self control than I do .. thats a fact.. I woulda visibly cringed at the hair and pants (btw I think I went on a date with the same guy ) Im so sorry you had to deal with this type of person... Im so with Spyderlady tho.. a coffee or a quick drink (someplace you KNOW the staff or others is great) I went out one night on a date to a bar for a drink..(we met there) and I was sooo glad I knew the clientele.. especially when the guy tried to RUSH things that were NEVER gonna happen ( I will NOT kiss a man with funky breath and if it gets close and they have it they can kiss my cheek ..or my arse  ) anyways he was pushing and well I just kinda looked at the bartender and they KNEW the guy was crossing the line and well a few other patrons came over and grabbed me to dance rescuing me from him... I did see one of them talking to him just before he left and NEVER should you turn off your cell especially on a first date ...heck on my first date with Mac even ... my kids wrote down his license plate and took a pic of his car from the window and I had checked him out and got his home addy etc and left it with my family No ReAL man forces himself on a lady .. it should be mutual .. I know my first kiss with Mac was how it was supposed to be...not FORECD upon me.. Miss you will find that special someone.. just take your time hon.. dont rush ... big huggs
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1frantastic
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Sep 8 @ 12:22AM
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I've actually had them try to arrange to meet me and someone else.. not at the same time but possibly the same day.. you know kill 2 birds with one stone .. save gas ..
Like Happy said above...I too dated someone on a "since I'm here in town, how about meeting?"
As long as you stay safe....and have nothing better to do..may as well go get blog material...and hope they pay for your "research"....lol
On your next "adventure"...perhaps it will be a "happy ending blog"????
and p.s.......your new pic is great!
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SpiritOrnery
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Sep 9 @ 12:34AM
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Yeah, make it a coffee. I met a guy at a McDonald's once but he was very cool. Also, if I am not sure, I make them webcam first. Pictures can be REAL old. I won't go into detail. *shudder*
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misschoos
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Sep 9 @ 1:36PM
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Oh wow! I read this the other day and left you a kudo.
Unbelievable and reinforces my beliefs against internet dating.
~^~
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Kaylajudy
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Sep 11 @ 6:05PM
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At least your date didn't offer you a plastic flosser to clean your teeth like mine did! He said it was for good hygiene, he always flossed - in front of dates?
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chatillion
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Sep 11 @ 8:35PM
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I'm still thinking about the pizza...
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funisnumber1
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Oct 6 @ 11:52AM
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That wasn't a date, that was a raisin. Can you say obsessive compulsive? The red flags you mentioned: calling at inappropriate times, rushing you when you had agreed on something different, the list went on and on. I see it as a laundry list of all the things you never want to experience again, and now that you have had this little educational summit, you're prepared to sally forth and try again with new discernments! Good luck and thanks for sharing!
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teddybearr48
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Oct 19 @ 12:32PM
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Great blog
Thanks for sharing your story.
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