***This Blog is a result of a comment from sweetxy***Thats such a wonderful comment to me, and so accurate
In my life going through my "dating" times as well as "married" times I have had and guess I always will
have hard times letting go of someone I care or cared about even if I should have
run very fast away from that person,(saying this I will not ever be abused in anyway)
I am always looking for the good in people as human beings
because I truly believe its there in most. Many people--not all--find any kind of relationships as
disposable, I am one that doesn't, call it stupid, a romantic or blind to the fact that some
times we cant see the truth because we choose not to or because we are to close to it to truly see it.
Most of the time I still keep contact with those I dated as well as most of my friends as far
back to 5th grade strange as that sounds..no not at first mind you but after some of the hurt
hard feelings or what have gets better, then I don't have a problem. This in no way makes
me some special person it only means that once I have a chance to step back and really take
a look at things I am better at forgiving than blaming..learning instead of pointing..caring instead of hating
to me it works. I will give a big high five to those that can walk away free and clear.
I have found in my case that the more I focus on the negativity in any thing it brings me feelings
that I don't need to have it also can cause me allot of self doubt as well as depression
and those types of feelings I have enough of on my own. Becoming "friends" with someone
after a breakup is very hard at times I guess because I still get the "if only-what if's-I wish"
feelings call it the romantic in me but then again what the heck do I know.
I have found over many years that I am very tender hearted and I truly care, sometimes this can be
a not so good thing because when im hurt I hurt for both of us.
I honestly love men plain and simple. I have a great respect for men, in this day and time
they take on many jobs including not only the ones away from home but the ones at home being
a single parent ( Moms too) is one "job" as well as way of life they have jumped right into
I have met some amazing single parents right here on MD I give a big kudo to them all including myself.
I know that in my life in most cases men taught me how to believe in myself, to respect myself
and how to value myself. Over my 54 years in this world I have had and still have
a pretty hard time excepting compliments on my looks I guess for many different reasons one
being brought up in a very dysfunctional family, my Father did not respect nor treat my Mom
very good so that in itself caused allot of self image problems for me, another reason when a person
has been sick or in a very stressful time of life the last thing you think about is being pretty
but because I am feeling and doing so much better health wise I guess I will keep looking
until I see what they see-in all truth I want them to see a beauty inside of me. If a person
thinks of me as a pretty woman well thats just icing on the cake and to me ya gotta
dig right into the cake to really taste it
Now that this blog has went in many directions ( sorry ) I do say a big thank you to my
little GF "sweetxy" it really started me thinking
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hpylady_
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Sep 22 @ 10:53PM
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yep Sweety says a lot of wise words .. makes me step back and look at things from angles and think of things differently. .. thank you sweety for that
I'm one of those that walks away never to speak again but having children and grandchildren together makes one be civil and I amaze myself sometimes how civil I can be.lol plus Xs wives frown on friendly 
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MrPaul
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Sep 22 @ 10:55PM
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This in no way makes
me some special person  But you are   Sweet, loving, kind, giving and hardheaded  And one of a kind. God bless you dear Butterfly 
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kywonder
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Sep 22 @ 10:58PM
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That's because you have such a big heart Lynn. I don't know of too many people like you. And when I do, I hang on to them. I have met quite a few here on MD. But you, my friend, are a rare and priceless jewel and I am humbled that you call me friend.
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Jacksonboy
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Sep 22 @ 11:01PM
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But you are Sweet, loving, kind, giving and hardheaded And one of a kind. God bless you dear Butterfly
I could not agree more with Paul, especially the hardheaded part. 
Once again I will say, thank you for being my friend. 
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sweetxy
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Sep 23 @ 12:06AM
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gunn12fan
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Sep 23 @ 5:34AM
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Both of you ladies are sweet and kind in my eyes
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mystery2u888
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Sep 23 @ 7:51AM
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I love your blogs sweetie.........you do have a huge heart 
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sweetxy
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Sep 23 @ 8:45AM
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Dear Butterfly [e30 , I sometimes like to think deeply ,sometimes I just so silly with nothing much to be serious with somewhat.  .,being a woman, a mother of our child, being a good wife,loving caring dedicated and care to our llove ones, we are just wonderful and beautiful as Gods chose us to produce babies lol..and we women cherrish  love more than men do.even some maybe too blind to see the truth.life makes us missing what we should desreve sometime
women heart seem to more complicate than men, we all want tender loving care and good arms to protect us which doesn't mean we are insecured ,some men they just refuse to understnd the women feeling and wants even it's not matterial things but who cars much when most guys after they married women for awhile they lost the desire to maintain thegood feelings , tender loving care like they first have a lot for woman,we can see men of what they want us to see or more than what we should see and it cause us troubles,,,how about men the more we open for them seems to be the more they would ignore to give ,to know and to learn,IT's the FACT..Not what from my experience because noone ever let me go but I let go just because very unhappy reasons appear in my mind permanently, I'd not should to live with doubt and fear it better let go.  and be strong be confidence for being who we are and what we are, when I don't like the person I'm with it's hard for me to try even just one hour but we all learn to give the best to people who give us the chance to work on relationship together so later there'd be no regret or whatever to sigh for.
 I think I write too much already
Sorry lastnight I was so busy on the phone with friends and my family.
You're a sweet.you're a wonderful friend to me to friends and people on here.and I'm sure in real life too. ,
you know some sweet  women like us are probably .a little hardhead  but it is goood so we 're not so desperated for what we have not found instead of choosing what we should even it's not what we like to choose or to live with... , careful before it's too late to change the lane
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PIXIEFIRE3
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Sep 23 @ 11:04AM
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you have a sweet heart and soul you care so much...
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misschoos
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Oct 28 @ 6:20PM
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