For weeks now I have been reading and studying (as time permits), a little 200 page book called, "The Art of Possibility" authored by Rosamund and Benjamin Zander. It is a book filled with 'tools' rather than answers, and listening is the key. If one isn't tone deaf, one can gain much insight into the possibility of creating new life forms for themselves, new habits and a less 'driven' life.
We are sculptured from birth to compete, challenge, compare, be the best of the rest and to climb the ladder and be on top...or, at least on top with everyone else that matters.  But, those of us in the know, know that this isn't really what it's all about. Right? Still, we are programmed...and deprogramming isn't a piece of cake, some decide it just isn't worth the effort to change. It's painful and slow and takes serious conscious effort. Oh my goodness. I can't do it!
Yes you can!
We all have been subjected to the presence of spiraling negative attitude people. People who feel the need to argue, challenge and be stubbornly over emotional under stress and even under normal circumstances feel the need to 'react'. The underlying problem in many cases, whether professional or personal, is low self-esteem and the driving, overwhelming need to be on top, or the best, or the smartest, the richest, the most accomplished...etc; etc; Unfortunately, we have been programmed as part of the human social structure to feel this way.
Now, imagine one as part of a common group. For example, we are a common group here. We could be part of a corporation, or a work group, or a family. And, we could be alone making our way through life. It doesn't matter, the following parable taken from "The Art of Possibility," applies regardless of one's status or place in life and if one wears it as an invisible undershirt everyday...and practices it, life suddenly begins to hold so much more possibility when reacting and interacting with people and circumstances, something we all have to do as we journey through life.
Two prime ministers are sitting in a room discussing affairs of state. Suddenly a man bursts in, apoplectic with fury, shouting and stamping and banging his fist on the desk. The resident prime minister admonishes him: "Peter," he says, "kindly remember Rule Number 6," whereupon Peter is instantly restored to complete calm, apologizes, and withdraws. The politicians return to their conversation, only to be interrupted yet again twenty minutes later by an hysterical woman gesticulating wildly, her hair flying. Again the intruder is greeted with the words: "Marie, please remember Rule Number 6." Complete calm descends once more, and she too withdraws with a bow and an apology. When the scene is repeated for a third time, the visiting prime minister addresses his colleague: "My dear friend, I've seen many things in my life, but never anything as remarkable as this. Would you be willing to share with me the secret of Rule Number 6:" "very simple," replies the resident prime minister.
"Rule Number 6 is "Don't take yourself so g--damn seriously."
"Ah," says his visitor, "that is a fine rule." After a moment of pondering, he inquires, "And what, may I ask, are the other rules?"
"There aren't any."
If we learn the practice of 'lightening up', we may very well succeed at lighting up people around us. (It's been proven you know, a little light humor goes a long way)
Practicing Rule Number 6 may also bring together those around you in camaraderie, especially over the ways in which we all find ourselves acting entitled and demanding, or when we find ourselves putting other people down, or flying at each other's throats.
Practice, practice, practice....and pretty soon the calculating self that feels it has to 'measure up' all the time begins to loosen it's hold on us.
Yes...sounds like the perfect world huh? Well, we all can make a difference, one person at a time and......one reaction at a time. I personally, am a constant work in progress...and, I'm making progress. 
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mystery2u888
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Oct 4 @ 3:00PM
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 Beautiful dimple........I couldn't agree more...........I love this 
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Excellent blog kudos to you gf 
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SpiritOrnery
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Oct 4 @ 3:11PM
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Still, we are programmed...and deprogramming isn't a piece of cake, some decide it just isn't worth the effort to change. It's painful and slow and takes serious conscious effort.
Yeah, and so few try. But nowadays there are powerful tools to change ourselves much easier, faster, with less stress, conflict and pain. Spiritual Response Therapy, Emotional Freedom Technique, Primordial Energy Activation Transformation and PSYCH-K to name the few power tools I use and love! So, that painful slow effort is a thing of the past. All we really need is a conscious effort and a box full of power tools. Quit building with a hammer, manual screwdrive and hand saw. Get a radial saw, chop saw, power driver and nail gun. Bzzzzzzzzz, pow, pow, pow, Zinnnnnnnnng and you are quickly changing for the best! Soooo easy!
From what I hear.... 8 years of weekly therapy can be cleared up in a few sessions of clearing and balancing work for a month or two. Good to go for the rest of the year.
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dizzydoll
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Oct 5 @ 1:27AM
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good blog i look forward to your next
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CrackerJackPat
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Oct 5 @ 10:26AM
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"let go & let God"....
or as put by the Beatles....
"simple words of wisdom.... let it be"
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