Hmmmmm, makes no sense to me. My bf asked at work about putting me on his medical plan, well....we have been living together for 4 years and plan on staying together. We were either going to just live together or marry eventually, but we are happy where we are right at the moment. He was told that we had to either be married or a same sex couple, geeeez. So....in order to have medical we have to marry, or.....I have to be dating Ashley, just a name I picked out lol.  What a crazy world! I have nothing against gay people, but I just don't understand the way companies think, especially in this day and age when so many people are living together and deciding to just live together and not marry. It just doesn't seem fair sometimes.
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jayej
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Oct 13 @ 9:53PM
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How long did they have to fight for that right?
Looks like a long road ahead...............
How sad is that?
J
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eastham
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Oct 14 @ 12:12AM
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You don't live together. That is the key. The overwhelming majority of companies that offer health benefits to non-married, domestic partners offer those benefits to both gay and straight couples. Your problem is that you don't live together and don't meet the standards under that companies plan.
Here's some information from the State of Connecticut. Click here.
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Sherrybaby412
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Oct 14 @ 12:17AM
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You have the choice to get married. Gay couples have little choice in that matter.
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tentfire
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Oct 14 @ 1:50AM
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oct_cat
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Oct 14 @ 6:32AM
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Look at it from a different perspective.
As an office manager, if there are any additions to or deletions of dependants on an employer-sponsored health plan, it involves a bit of planning & paperwork. You know how many people "house-hop"?? That'd be alot of constant paper pushing to add someone to another's health insurance due to living together.
Look at it from a legal proof way: what do people living together have to prove they are mutually contributing to one household? Is your bf listed on your mortgage & property tax? If most companies allowed unmarried people to be dependants on health insurance, how do you really know they even live in same household?
There's alot more to it than people realize. As Sherry said, you have the choice to marry. If 2 people plan to stay together, are committed to each other, why not marry?? 
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luneib
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Oct 14 @ 7:57AM
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To me marriage is a piece of paper stating you are bound to each other, that is fine, I'm not against marriage, however, if two people really don't feel the need to get married and especially in this economy when jobs are so hard to get and perhaps only one of that couple is working, they are forced to get married in order to get medical coverage from the other's employer. Alot of couples just live together and are happy that way, I feel they should be able to get medical insurance on their significant others health plan, especially if they have been together for a long time, just the point I'm trying to make here. Granted the 4 years we have been together is not a century lol, but you see where I am going with this. I know a couple who have been living together for over 20 years and never married, they are very happy, now in their 70s, but I doubt when her bf was working that she could get medical coverage either from his employer.  It's a very modern world out there and more couples are living together rather than marrying because divorce is so darn expensive, I can see their point. You just never know how your relationship will turn out. The world is moving at a much faster pace now than it was in the 1950s putting alot of stress on people, on relationships.
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eastham
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Oct 14 @ 8:11AM
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I feel they should be able to get medical insurance on their significant others health plan, especially if they have been together for a long time, just the point I'm trying to make here.
And no one is disputing this argument; however, you don't live together. That is the criteria. A gay couple that does not live together would not be allowed receive these benefits either. The benefits are for the household of the employee.
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oct_cat
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Oct 14 @ 9:17AM
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however, you don't live together I believe they do live together, if you define living together as residing in the same home.
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Wing_Zero_75
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Oct 14 @ 10:35AM
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You could always tell them that your a gay man trapped in a womans body.
Larry
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musicianfriend
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Oct 14 @ 6:49PM
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To me marriage is a piece of paper stating you are bound to each other,
Marriage offers protection...security.....its good...
If not married..one person always has an advantage over the other...for instance, property ownership...and your being able to stay in your home when he or she is mad at you....prevents blackmail..
Remember ....there is a very very thin line between love and hate...
If he owns the home...cheats on you...and your not married ....he can kick you out of his house. and move in his new honey...and you cant do a thing about it...your screwed.
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luneib
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Oct 14 @ 7:48PM
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Yes my bf and I DO live together, we have been living together in our condo for the past 4 years, same household.
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uwishtoo
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Oct 19 @ 3:19PM
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Sorry but I totally agree with gays having the right to marry and the right to be treated as such with medical and other issues.
No offense, but living together as a heterosexual couple is just that, living together. I personally will not live with someone before marriage, to each their own, I have done so in the past and well.... wasn't for me.
I agree with someone else in the scenario of being an office manager, how many people do they have to keep track of for living together purposes? People can and do house hop. So if I go from man to man in 5 years am I to say that I am entitled to the same rights as a committed gay couple who have been legally married? Nope. And yes I get that you can live together and be committed BUT anyone living together thinks they are going to stay together. A true commitment is joining of lives and values, not just living spaces and furniture sharing.
To the argument of marriage just being a piece of paper, ok I will give you that but on the flip side IF it's merely a piece of paper then ... well.... why not get one?
In Arizona at least we do have laws where people living together can go register as a domestic partnership, sounds kind of clinical and businesslike to me sorry. Either get married or fend for yourselves. The economy is a poor excuse to not get married in my mind.
What's to stop me from moving in with my ex bf (which I might just do but I will be living in my own room while I get back on my feet from unemployment issues) and saying well gee, we live together so I am entitled to his health insurance? Looks the same to the outside world doesn't it? Who would ever possibly know differently?
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Blaiserboy
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Oct 19 @ 3:28PM
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It is too bad that the co could not add you for an extra so much money per month..
There must be a way to allow you to be covered, even if there is a surcharge because you are unmarried..
They must feel that a 'live in' type relationship results in higher costs for them over the term. so they avoid underwriting that type of situation.
Seems that health care is gong to be an issue for many years to come.
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