Sometimes life isn’t always about sunny days and picnics, it has to have a little rain sometimes, and friendships even online ones can have more than their fair share of rainy days.
It always saddens me to see friendships end, especially over silly things, and whats more upsetting is those that try to control or manipulate their friends in to doing what they want or having the friends that they themselves have chosen for them, often making trouble deliberately to end said friendships so that they are nicely in their pocket with the circle they have chosen for them.
My two best friends in the UK hate each other, always have done, social occasions were always difficult as I had to juggle myself around them tactfully so that they would never be thrown together, because if they ever did come together as on one occasion they did, a fight broke out.
Yes a fight, a full blown fight, over something completely ridiculous. An excuse to vent is what it was, to let out their hatred of each other.
Yet I remain good friends with both of them, I will never choose between them and they know better than to ever suggest it or to even make trouble with gossip, because they know I will not bite.
Here on MD too, my friends are what they are, my friends, I will never choose between them as one person soon found out when they tried to turn me against someone in particular, their problems with them is exactly that, THEIR problem, not mine, and I would never turn against a friend just because I am encouraged to by listening to tales of gossip or their opinions of them.
They told me I was being disloyal to them for not turning against the person they wanted me to, yet didn’t realise that in fact I would be being disloyal to a friend that actually had done nothing bad to me nor deserve such treatment from me.
I remain friends with both, if they had severed the friendship because I had refused to do the same with another, then in my opinion they were not a friend to begin with, because ‘friends’ don’t do that.
I also do not juggle my friends list here on MD like some rearrange their furniture, deleting and re-adding when the mood takes them. I am proud of the friends I have and value every one of them.
Friends, good friends, are like finding jewels, you do not lose them easily nor give them away carelessly, for they are truly hard to find.
What’s important for me, is to remember that behind every face and name on my friends list, is a person, living and breathing just like me, and as I would be hurt if someone turned against me for no reason, so they would too.
I respect the fact that some do not choose to have friends lists, and that is their choice.
A friends list isn’t a club, one doesn’t have to be a particular person to be a member…
But once they are a friend, they should treated with respect and honesty…
And even if they turn out to be not the friend one thought they were….
At least we can hold our heads up high, and know that we were all that and more…to them….
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beckyiv42000
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Oct 14 @ 1:00PM
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well said!!!  
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bluewind37
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Oct 14 @ 1:02PM
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That is so true. Awesome blog. 
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leprichaun_magic
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Oct 14 @ 1:15PM
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..Well said ...
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travelwoman
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Oct 14 @ 1:33PM
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Tanikogirl
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Oct 14 @ 1:57PM
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Said like a true friend
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teddybearr48
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Oct 14 @ 3:53PM
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oct_cat
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Oct 14 @ 4:26PM
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I also do not juggle my friends list here on MD like some rearrange their furniture, deleting and re-adding when the mood takes them. Some people do give MD a "circus-like" atmosphere with all the juggling . . . bunch of clowns! 
Personally I only have one friend & choose to do so because he is a true "friend".
I have numerous acquaintances on here that occasionally I exchange emails with; but for me (my opinion folks), friends are people I meet with, go out with, do things with, etc.
Besides, nobody on my friends list can pull the stunt you just blogged about. 
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Fender
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Oct 14 @ 4:56PM
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You said so much on this blog that I love...And believe...
They told me I was being disloyal to them for not turning against the person they wanted me to, yet didn’t realise that in fact I would be being disloyal to a friend that actually had done nothing bad to me nor deserve such treatment from me.
But once they are a friend, they should treated with respect and honesty…
And even if they turn out to be not the friend one thought they were….
At least we can hold our heads up high, and know that we were all that and more…to them….
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WSOR
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Oct 14 @ 6:33PM
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if they had severed the friendship because I had refused to do the same with another, then in my opinion they were not a friend to begin with, because ‘friends’ don’t do that.
What’s important for me, is to remember that behind every face and name on my friends list, is a person, living and breathing just like me, and as I would be hurt if someone turned against me for no reason, so they would too.
One of the best blogs in recent days! You've said it marvelously!
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1frantastic
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Oct 16 @ 9:49PM
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a friend is someone you CHOOSE....and you can choose to keep on likeing them or not...but how YOU feel can not be controlled by others.....
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