The Times of our Lives .. part threeeeeee posted 10/14/2009 12:50:47 PM | 3 kudos what's this?     report abuse

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After reading a blog this am about facing demons and past indiscretions etc and posting to that blog and semi relating a tale of like happenings (I think ...who knows... my mind was flooded with emotions ) I recalled something that happened a few Thanksgivings ago...

I had offered to have Thanksgiving at my house.. yeah I live in THE smallest place of everyone in my family yet we always make do...the inescapable closeness brought ton by my home and its smallness creates and even closer bond with the family.. (I hope.. either that or they act nice because there is no room to fight ) Anyways .. so I had the family over...It was me and my kids . my sister in law that lived with me her boyfriend .. my niece and her S/O ..my cousin and my oldest nephew and a couple of their pups.. now to let you get a feeling of what the atmosphere was like let me explain something.. This thanksgiving was a few years after my Bro in Law passed and right after my Brother passed...and well altho the usual was for all of us to eat at my sisters since she has a huge house she was just not in the mood to host a gathering.. totally understandable ..two of the most important men in her life has passed and she felt a great loss and I was aware of this hence me offering to host the dinner.

Now we come to us all interacting.. as usual my oldest nephew was being his arrogant egotistical self with a bit of sarcasm tossed in.. Did I let this get to me?? hah nahh that is his nature and I can see past the bravado etc... I grew up with this man (hes 44 btw ) almost like another sibling...so yeah I can read him pretty damn good and well it bugs him to no end haha. So my niece was being her quiet reserved self talking to her mother and the bratlets and watchign some game on TV while I cooked and got the rest of the dinner ready.. my nephew in the kitchen picking at food ..QA testing he calls it.. humph like I cant cook ..and of course he brought a few bottles of Christian brothers Brandy to share with everyone ... plus some beers I think .. since Im not a beer drinker I really dont bother to notice.. but the CB was rockin!!..

Now we get through dinner and the table is cleared while people undo pants buttons and laze out on the couches watching something on TV and we get to talking ...Oh sheesh get this about . RELIGION...yeah we all grew up raised Catholic made all our communions confirmations etc.. Cathlolic school for ALL of us..(the older ones except SIL) and My nephew starts with his you dont really believe this drivel do you Mom?? *red ALert Red Alert* my sister goes into GRR mode.. I step in and say " Hey everyone has a right to believe what they will and I admire your mothers faith so lets not go there k??" He just laughs and says that logically there is no proof there is a God or any of the rest of the stuff...and then says .. " you probably believe in aliens too huh Becky?" Im like " Um sure why not you cannot prove they do NOT exist .. can you??" whoosh slammed his barb right back at him so as expected his voice becomes a bit louder .. and I continue to debunk with his own logic his beliefs.. (hehe this was getting to be fun) Now picture this.. hes 6 ft 4 and Im a measly 5 ft 7 .. him yelling at me and looking DOWN on me .. I finally got hte last blow and won the battle tho.. with this" Michael .. Just because you are yelling louder does NOT make you any righter" he stammered and stuttered and said "YES IT DOES!!"" we both broke down into roaring laughter...and on it went as people left and it became only me and him talking and the CB was flowing he got more and more open..

Finally he broke down and expressed how bad he felt for me .. I was curious about why so I asked him.. he said " Im sorry for excluding you at Dads funeral and in his eulogy as someone who really had so much and meant so much to my dad." by now he was bawling as I am as I type this.. and I just hugged the big galoot and we laughed .. I told him I understood and was so proud of him for being ABLE to give the eulogy ..ya see I just sat at his funeral and cried ... while the rest of the family (except MY kids ) sat stoic..I would never have been able to do such a wonderful job .. again more crying and laughter and CB ...yeah I think he had a lot too much of that CB (hes not a hard liquor drinker and it got to him) he ended up me taking his keys and him sleeping on the futon on my front porch with a comforter and his dog dog on top of him ( we wont go into him barfing in the bushes ..oops we did huh?.. he he ) But the next morning he took us all out for breakfast and acted like nothing happened.. but I could see in his eyes a glimmer of the warm and caring man I knew was there all the time ...

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