Since I have signed on to this site and select others, I have "met" many men and learned a LOT.
Almost always without fail, the man asks me what I am "looking for" in a mate. I DO understand this and of course will answer. I will say what kind of a relationship I am looking for and go over a few traits that I like in a mate with the man.
Selectively however, I do NOT go over EVERY important quality with him and with good reason or at least to me,... good reason.
I WANT more than anything, for us to be drawn to each other naturally.. and if I do go over the things that attract me the most.... in my experience at least... some of these guys try to "conform" to being something they are NOT. 
Although I find this very flattering and sweet, I want them to just be themselves as I will be myself and see if those qualities are just "there."
IF anyone, male or female, tries to make changes in themselves for another, it is not only NOT FAIR to either.... but further... it will wear off in time and simply won't work! 
So, I want to publically thank you, guys.... but just be YOU... and if it's NOT me that turns out to be the right one.. then I guarantee the right one WILL come along and respond to who makes YOU, YOU.
Hugs guys!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
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gunn12fan
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Oct 16 @ 8:02PM
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your welcome
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rockerchick1968
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Oct 16 @ 8:19PM
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I could'nt agree more...... 
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oct_cat
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Oct 16 @ 8:24PM
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When a guy would ask me what I was looking for in a man, I'd say, "I don't know but I'll let you know if you have it." 
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WSOR
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Oct 16 @ 8:54PM
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You just keep being you as well Syb's.  Your friendship is wonderful, & I know there's a guy out there somewhere that will indeed capture your heart by being himself. 
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luneib
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Oct 16 @ 9:07PM
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You're right, you should never cater to another person's personality, if you have to, then that is just the wrong person for you. Be yourself, great advice.
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edthepoet
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Oct 16 @ 9:20PM
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Yes, that is why most online relationship fails, because one of them usually isn't being real or themselves.
bravo for wanting to keep things real and making each person take the time to learn each other.
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1frantastic
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Oct 16 @ 9:38PM
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When a guy would ask me what I was looking for in a man, I'd say, "I don't know but I'll let you know if you have it
this is the best response I have heard to date!
You are right on syb....men(especially "playars") want to know your "weak spots" so they won't waste time hitting the mark! 
It is a sad thing people get jaded from being "taken" so frequently....
and not just in "love-friendship-family"....... 
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MrPaul
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Oct 17 @ 2:22AM
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Your awesome  God bless,Paul
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pinkypaula2
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Oct 17 @ 8:02AM
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AWESOME blog SIS
kudos
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Roverboy
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Oct 17 @ 10:56PM
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I posted on a similar blog that ColdInWisconsin posted a few months ago...
It's impossible to say, specifically, what you're "looking for". I mean, there are traits that you notice right away, but it's been my experience that what one is looking for, may not be quite what they need/REALLY want.
Example: I'm more of a conservative leaning guy, but many of the women that I exchange emails on here with nowadays, claim to be liberal - yet we seem to get along well (er...so long as politics aren't the topic, anyway...)...opposites can and do attract.
So - out with the scorecard, and just wing it!
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gypsy29
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Oct 17 @ 11:15PM
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No kidding! Be yourself!!! Please, be honest. And no chameleons pls. (did I spell that right?)
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