I have encountered a number of people in my life that fall in to the category, in my opinion... of carrying out a slow form of suicide... if the truth be KNOWN... I have been at that place off and on in my own life as well.
What am I talking about?
Well these are people that normally came from some sort of abuse... having their self esteem beat down so much... THEY learn to believe they can do NOTHING.... NO one alive would get any GOOD from them living.... but YET, they hold on to life as they know it.
They simply "exist" day to day, hour by hour.... wallowing in pain... living in the past....licking their wounds.....feeling inferior and fearing many, many things...
I am sure you ALL know what kind of people I am speaking of.... whether some in our family are this way... friends maybe too.... OR we sometimes cross paths with this sort of person in our lives.
These are the ones that for the most part, WE, as a society... do not find attractive because of their negativity.... their disregard....the repeated pattern of destruction. They cannot seem to laugh... or at least not often... when in a group having fun, they seem to feel out of place, and ARE, actually.
It is NOT comfortable for them to look in the mirror because to do so would mean they must see themselves, and that is just TOO hard for them. They don't like their photos taken, cause secretly they hate the way that they look.
On TOP of carrying around this enormous weight of the past with them......they easily become an "addict" of something, whether it's alcohol, cigarettes, drugs, gambling, sex, ... and the list goes on. This only compounds the already negative feelings that they have in themselves. They were NEVER good enough back then and it must be true, because SEVERAL people have VALIDATED that to them over the course of their existence... SO to them.... they will NEVER be good enough!
SO, maybe what was said sometime and someplace, about Not knowing why a person is the way they are, because we have never walked in their shoes must be correct.
I contend that people that steal, hurt, anger, and abuse others..... while YES, they DO need to learn there are consequences for their actions.... are just ones in great PAIN themselves, and we should take a moment to try and see past all that they seem to be, and try to learn about Who they REALLY were cheated out of BEING..... 
NOW, with all that said..... there does come a point in our lives when we become adults and CAN decid that we want MORE for ourselves and that we want to find out WHO we really are without hurting others. I have seen it and done it..... BUT there are some that DON'T, WON'T. or CAN'T, for whatever reasons.
Although we may see them as Selfish, Greedy, Unfeeling people, I think we should remember.... WE have NEVER walked in their shoes!
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Wing_Zero_75
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Oct 20 @ 1:18PM
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I'll admit it, I am one of those people. I ended up turning into something I never wanted to be and after going to jail and sobering up, I could see what I had been doing. Sometimes you're pushed back so hard, you just dont care anymore. I dont know if I would say I fear things, people stay away from me and avoid me like the plague. But that is a reaction of how I look and dress, it keeps people away so I dont have to deal with them. When you do things alone for so long, you tend to only rely on yourself when things go wrong. When someone tries to help you, you always wonder what their angle is or what could they be gaining by doing this. After being used over and over, you think that way. Some call it bitter, I tend to think of it as experience. No one can hurt you if you never let anyone in.
Larry
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CHARLIgurl1
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Oct 20 @ 2:06PM
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Good blog.
I still have to watch my youngest do things that will almost be like a destruction of her life, but hers isnt through any addictions or abuse..
hers is because she has problems and doesnt understand.
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Blaiserboy
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Oct 21 @ 7:16PM
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We all have an obligation to send good to others..... to help lift them. we never know who hurts inside. we have to always be ready to help others to move to the high ground.
Great Post.!!!!!!!
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1frantastic
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Oct 21 @ 8:33PM
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you never know who is on the other side of the monitor.....
savoring the well wishes...or wishes someone would wish them well.....
 
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