Dear Tom,
I remember my grandmother pouring the milk onto my cereals; “Say ‘when’ Jo” she said every time, and although it never made complete sense, I said “when,” and she stopped pouring the milk.
It’s hard for me to get my head around certain concepts, as simple as they may seem, but I did learn this: It’s not a crime to say ‘when.’ I also managed to grasp the idea that the milk would stop.
Decades later, I find this notion particularly difficult to get my head around, as I recently asked ‘when?’ That word suddenly took on a totally new meaning, it became a sin as I’m told I have no patience, when we both knew, I have the patience of a Saint.
But you know what Tom? It wasn’t unreasonable of me to ask because, after all, my friend was the one who suggested us meeting to begin with, my friend, the initiator. But I soon became The She Devil.
That weekend sailed by, amidst an ocean of Schott’s, cool bier and music. I did my ting; raised a lot of money for a good cause and sang a bad song. Friends from all over the world showed up yet again from places as far and wide as Barcelona, California and Australia. The party went with a bang, a few celebrities showed up, there were some who couldn’t make it and sent sincere apologies.
My friend didn‘t show, but why would I think that, when I had already been told?
Because…
…Because I was promised time and time again, and although my friend backed down at the last minute, I was told to expect a surprise one day. It just happened to be ’one day’ and I thought the friend actually might…turn up that is.
Because I believed, like ‘when.’
So I suppose what I am trying to tell you is you were right, I have lost my sparkle and it happened right at the moment, when I stopped believing…since you do have to believe, don’t you?
Thank you for reading my blog. 
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CHARLIgurl1
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Oct 24 @ 12:45PM
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You're still a very special lady.
Their loss.. not yours. 
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dizzydoll
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Oct 24 @ 12:49PM
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you no She Devil 
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moon_watcher53
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Oct 24 @ 1:02PM
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You can make a lot of friends with promises, but it performance that keeps 'em !!
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1frantastic
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Oct 24 @ 2:11PM
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Because I believed, like ‘when.’
I was told "say when"....but I understood it meant for me to say "now is fine"...not the LITERAL "when"....
Communication between folks is difficult...when they are different...and want to PLEASE the other as well as be true to themselves....and neither will speak in a fashion that is understood COMPLETELY by both......
choosie...you have gone through a lot in your few short years...and accomplished quite a lot more than others could have or WOULD have...
butttt....(and I luv ya butttt) for others time just goes slower....and what you think is patience...is actually not patience at all....but just "waiting a bit till _______"(you fill in the blank)....and it is usually until something on YOUR timeline...not another's....
and BECAUSE is a word many use because(here it is used properly)the user does NOT know how to express the real feelings or reasons he is acting in the manner in which seems to conflict with the receiver of the "because"....
When one "expects" something...it may be 180 degress different than the sender meant it to be....Your expectations are clouded by your desires....sometimes another can meet those desires and sometimes those desires need to be modified or....UNDERSTOOD by both parties....
Sometimes (often)...a woman has to TEACH a man what she means when she says something.....oh wow! Have ya read "Men From Mars-Women From Venus"?
This is a great "battle of the sexes language barrier" translation.....
Ya know...how we want something...but IF we have to spell it out EXACTLY...then we don't want it cause then it wouldn't be their idea and the gift wouldn't mean the same? Well pshaw! Sometimes you must swallow your pride and spell it out exactly anyway!
and....a "She-Devil" is only an Angel who is upset BECAUSE of lack of communication!!! 
The sparkle is only tarnished....got a 'lil dust on it...a 'lil truthful tenderness and vunerability will shine the dream up
.....and you DO have to believe.....
just be aware of what is the dream that CAN be fulfilled
....with COMMUNICATION!!!
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Clair_Voyeuse
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Oct 24 @ 2:44PM
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Hmmm..After having read many of your blogs, I have come to believe that very many people only think they know what you are writing about, Miss. I would not be so bold.
Best wishes to you.
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Blaiserboy
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Oct 24 @ 2:53PM
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My idea, when I read a blog, is to attempt to get understanding of a situation, not necessarily to know the exact who or place, but the feelings expressed..
I am not so sure that I get the whole picture each time I read a blog, but I do grasp some of the ideas and apply them to my own circumstance....
In this blog, I don't really have to know the people discussed, I picked up on her feelings..... which is what I think she wanted to share.
We are fortunate, in a way, when we can ask. what is the meaning and idea being presented..... then we can listen for answers from within.
Thanks for this one Missy.....!!!!!!!
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1frantastic
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Oct 24 @ 3:20PM
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and for those who think I am being "bold"....they don't know that I have been called "Tazmanian Devil" by my "friend" who didn't UNDERSTAND from whence I came because he had his own agenda...
and your feelings expressed here...actually fits many scenarios...yours, mine, and also others....and too bad some people have NOT experienced such a situation....so they CAN NOT relate...only speculate.... 
and can not understand the "counseling" given was for myself as well as for anyother in a similiar situation....
those who have never lived in a glass house don't know how cold it can be......
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Clair_Voyeuse
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Oct 24 @ 3:34PM
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Apologies, "Taz", if it appeared I was referring to your comment (which I hadn't read through until just now).
I was referring to Miss' charmingly oblique style which leaves so many ungraspable elements afloat in the ether. It is always fascinating to see what others reveal by their interpretations.
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WSOR
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Oct 24 @ 3:56PM
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No way.. you are NOT a SheDevil. You are a very talented, beautiful, & wonderful lady.. & I agree.. if they can't see that, or they take who you really are for granted, then their loss.
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ragtopcookie
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Oct 24 @ 6:10PM
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My mom always said.....youre eyes are bigger than youre belly....when it came time to want more......thats always stuck with me over the years......in fact...i said that to my daughter just the other day when she took more than she could eat......passing the phrase to another generation.......cookie
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bardnsage
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Oct 25 @ 1:54AM
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"Say When",,, was always short for,,,,
"SAY WHEN YOU HAVE, (or have had) ENOUGH." It's synonomous with saying Uncle when your cousin is tickling you,,, or tapping the matt when someone is twisting your leg off.
I think your whole blog,,, says when.
And the best people around us,,, are those that do not inspire "when". Others,, well,,,
The friend who always promises,,, "when".
The friend who only comes over to transfer their problems onto you,,,, "when".
The cronic complainers,,,, "when".
Yep,, sometimes,,, everything and everyone in my whole day,,, is a "when". I've had enough,, I'm done,,, I'm finnished,,, and I'm telling the world,, I"VE HAD ENOUGH.
So,, I redefine "when",,, and make it mean,,, at a point in the near future WHEN this bullshit is no longer relevant,,, I'll enjoy.
"when" you arrive,
"when" we talk,
"when" I can write,
"when" I go hiking,
"when" I listen to silence,
"when" I hear her sigh.
I like those "when's" better,,,,,
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tentfire
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Oct 25 @ 2:07AM
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YES, you DO have to believe..... you just have to make sure you have a good, clear picture of exactly what it is you believe.
Thank you for reading my blog You are welcome. I enjoyed it, as I always enjoy reading your blogs.
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funisnumber1
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Oct 26 @ 10:39AM
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what barndsage said...
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beckyiv42000
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Oct 26 @ 1:43PM
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When is a time that is mutable...changeable...indistinct...close.. far..later..now.. we can all use the "when" but until we USE it its still not over..here. done 
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