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Is it Just ME?

posted 10/25/2009 8:09:00 PM |

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sybnann

When I was taking a walk with my new friend yesterday, he wondered why I have not found anyone and it really got me to thinking.... I have seemed to be attracting people that are not suited for me.

For example, the majority of those interested in me have been:

in their 80's or 20's

alcoholics

people that are extremely unhealthy

men that are "taken"

ones that are too far away

and the list goes on and on.

DO we all go through this in todays dating scene?

I wonder if there is something I am doing to create this type of scenario...

Just thought I would "lay it out there."

Most are very nice.... but not for me.... and not even close!

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Blaiserboy	Oct 25 @ 8:15PM
	Perhaps you have not a definition as to who would be right for you.... Did you make a well thought out list.?

Jacksonboy	Oct 25 @ 8:42PM
	Its the same for most every one. You did leave out that if you find a legitimate one either you like them and they don't like you or they like you and you do not like them.

malexand	Oct 25 @ 8:55PM
	ones that are too far away This is the biggest problem.

luneib	Oct 25 @ 9:16PM
	I don't know what to tell you, wish I had the answer to your question. Speaking for myself I attract more the eccentric type, it's not that I ever was looking for that lol. Perhaps it's something with our personalities which attract who we attract, they are apparently attracted to something about us.

WSOR	Oct 25 @ 9:31PM
	ones that are too far away This is the biggest problem. I concur.

1982danaz	Oct 25 @ 10:42PM
	The same thing happens to me. I just clicked really well with someone back east and went to se her but we knew it wouldnt work even though we both were into eachother because we both take care of our grandfathers so that right there and a few other things. also I get the ones all the time that I'm just not interested in but are interested in me all the time. I always get the ones without standards or values & morals. Maybe we just have to look in different places, go different places we usually don't go, do other things, meet different people with other interests as well instead of our routines. Just a thought. Hope you find someone

Sherrybaby412	Oct 25 @ 11:36PM
	I don't think it's just you. I have been divorced going on 7 years. I've had one serious relationship since then. Thank god he showed his true colors before we got married. I've had a few bf's since then but nothing really in over 2 years. I seem to attract the wrong person for me. So I have taken a step back and am willing to take it slow. And boy do I mean slow. lol Someone said something about a list. You can have your likes and dislikes but if you wait for someone to be 100% of that list, you will die waiting. lol I do want someone who agrees with me on the important things. Religion, politics, immigration, abortion. Things that are important to me.

oct_cat	Oct 26 @ 8:04AM
	Maybe you're not meant to be with anyone?? Being without a bf/gf or spouse isn't the worst thing. Sometimes its that way now for awhile because of something that's destined for the future. I've found that its better to not question the "whys" of things but to use them to your advantage.

1frantastic	Oct 28 @ 1:50PM
	Being alone is not so bad... it gives one a chance to find out...discover as it is...who we are.... but after a longggg time (varies for each person)...you will be ready for the one who comes into your life..... and even then...they may not stay long. so we have to enjoy whatever little bit of sharing we can...whatever way we can... don't expect to find someone that "fits"... and "one size does NOT fit all"..... I have had 21 yrs since my last divorce..and only rejoined the "dating world" in the last few yrs... I am enjoying "adventures"....knowing..learning about the opposite sex... without restrictions of "he MUST _______" It is frustrating and rewarding at the same time.... Being an Alpha female...it is very hard to "adjust" to any male who doesn't know how to...er..."handle me".... I am very independant...but am finally in a position to WANT to be dependant...that is to be able to DEPEND on what a male tells me ...and for it to be true.... BUT I will NOT raise a man to be what I need....I don't have that much time left myself.... IF...I say IF my path crosses with another with whom I can co-exist...I will gladly give him a chance...but I am not requiring myself to be less than who I am so that he will be greater...... I envy those who have had a "great love" at least once in their life...and I know it happens...you know...was both ways...before some form of destruction arrived.... I still have hope that someday I will share love both ways.... so hang in there syb...and be patient...it really hasn't been that long for you...and you have not truely been all alone....and I hope you never are all alone....you are a giving person and do go out of your way to be with others.....in person and virtually also... this is your learning period..... your love will find you....someday......

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