I have recently met an interesting man on another dating site. He actually lives nearby and works in a field similar to what I'm in school for, so this looked promising. We met for coffee one evening and actually closed Starbucks as we were having so much fun chatting! We planned for dinner the next week.
This past Friday we had this dinner. He refered to it as our "first date" which I found odd, as his profile makes very clear he is only looking for friends. In an email prior to our dinner, he called it "hanging out." Eh...whatever. What it's called isn't super important to me.
He looked me in the eye and asked if I wanted children. EEK! I gave him my most honest answer: "Probably not. I'm a bit old to start now. If I had a really spectacular marriage with someone who held much of my same morals and ideas, I wouldn't rule it out."
He nodded and told me that he really wants to have another baby. (He has a 13 yr old daughter.) Then he said: "I really want another baby, but I don't want another wife! I just don't know how to go about getting another baby!"
Umm...what can you say to this? I just laughed and asked if he wanted a boy this time and then I thought he would be best served to revise his profile headline. You guessed it. Can I Rent Your Womb?
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misschoos
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Oct 26 @ 10:26AM
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gunn12fan
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Oct 26 @ 11:28AM
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That's just wrong
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Blaiserboy
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Oct 26 @ 11:47AM
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One would have to know the conversation more to weigh the baby portion... for myself, I am not too sure that I would be discussing the idea of wanting a baby in an initial meeting..
I think I would sorta gently float that issue once I got to know there was a potential relationship...
For some reason, I have this idea that to a woman.... a baby could be a more serious issue than the first date would allow...
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ladyvampire
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Oct 26 @ 11:48AM
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He nodded and told me that he really wants to have another baby. (He has a 13 yr old daughter.) Then he said: "I really want another baby, but I don't want another wife! I just don't know how to go about getting another baby!"
OMG, that is when, you excuse your self (I have to run to the ladies room, be right back,)  sneak out the back and get in that cab and leave and then ignore all of his calls and messages.
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oct_cat
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Oct 26 @ 12:17PM
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I would have looked him straight in the face and said, "There's a thing called adoption, you might want to try that."
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travelwoman
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Oct 26 @ 12:17PM
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It is not uncommon for somebody to want a(nother) baby, but not a spouse.
I knew several women who wanted that.
This is the first time I hear about a man wanting it.
It's easier for women...
Being single, he cannot adopt a child.
Maybe he could become a foster parent?
I understand that he does not necessarily want a new spouse. I understand that he likes to have children. I don't think it makes him a "bad" person. I think he should sit down with himself and think about not shocking other people...
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newlife2006
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Oct 26 @ 12:23PM
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It's a shame single males are not allowed to adopt children. The guy sounds like he would be a good adopted father.
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Jalon
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Oct 26 @ 12:36PM
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The guy sounds like he would be a good adopted father.
Please tell me that was sarcasm. 
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leprichaun_magic
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Oct 26 @ 12:50PM
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..Rent a womb ?[shades of a Royal family story here]
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PrettyGreenEyes578
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Oct 26 @ 1:17PM
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Just when you think you have heard it all, someone comes up with something else.
He really puts a new spin on dating.
I cherish my friends that I have here at MD and we have many good people here, but I would never venture to meet someone to date on an Internet dating site again. Nutz come in too many different packages.
Thank-you for sharing your story with us.
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beckyiv42000
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Oct 26 @ 1:30PM
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Jalon darlin.. I cant believe you didnt bust out laughin... you have more self control that I do Kudos!!
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Jalon
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Oct 26 @ 2:10PM
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Nutz come in too many different packages
This is true and as hard as it is to believe, the internet does not hold specific rights to all of the nut jobs I can possibly meet. There are just as many "real life" nut jobs...I've dated them too at one point or another.
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RANDY72
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Oct 26 @ 4:40PM
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Let me rent both of your hands so I can work on my pickup.
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dachsiemom35
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Oct 26 @ 5:12PM
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I tght i ran into all the crazy men least never experinced that one thank goodness .
I wld have suggested him to get a baby puppy or a baby kitty they need lots care an love . 
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SpiritOrnery
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Oct 26 @ 7:09PM
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 Oh, I have been lucky to have missed THAT one. Mine are usually men looking for a warmer place to stay in the winter.  Or a free place to stay.
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Always_Striving
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Oct 27 @ 3:20AM
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Although I think the guy is weird by what Jalon has explained about him, I can relate somewhat though because I have no children but have wanted some.
The stupid thing about that guy is that he portrays himself to be one thing (his profile) and when he met Jalon he became a different person, so in essence he is a deceiver.... and maybe even a borderline liar.
I guess I would ask why he is currently a single parent.
Wanting a baby but not wanting a wife?
Hey he was born a man, he just can't spread his legs to any random person to become prego.
We are born the way we are and must accept the consequences that come with it. Not wanting a wife???? Why not??? It's a very extraordinary request.... it's actually weird-odd.
Can I Rent Your Womb?
No way baby it's all or nothing.... No renting
WINNER TAKES ALL.
BTW, I have female friends who know that I want to keep them just as friends and I have not deceived them.
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ttomtarr
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Oct 27 @ 10:38AM
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No doubt he wanted to MAKE a baby without marrying a spouse.
I would expect a change of heart about the fathering, in less than nine months.
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tentfire
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Oct 27 @ 6:59PM
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It's a shame single males are not allowed to adopt children. Last I heard they could here in Oklahoma..... women can and it was determined that it was sexist not to let men.
I yacked with a guy for quite some time once, then found out that he AND his wife wanted me for his "partner" because she didn't want sex anymore but wanted him to be happy in "every" way. ..... said she wanted to make sure he was "safe."..... yes, he kept the wife part quiet for awhile....... offered to keep things fixed around my house and help out, take me on trips with them  .... may work for someone but NOT ME! 
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ttomtarr
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Oct 28 @ 12:05PM
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I can clearly see the wisdom of Nature in setting it up that it takes a man and a woman to make a child. And ideally, it takes two people to raise one.
The balance between authority and love, hard and soft, stimulating and protecting, all these are the balance of male and female, with the child in varying positions near the center, as his needs in life change.
I greatly admire single parents who rise to the challeng of filling both roles by necessity, but even they see the need for male and female influences.
The sole parent wannabe is well advised to study some biology, the progress in living things. Seeing past his own desires will show him those of a child, and that Nature worked this all out long ago.
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