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When you check on somebody's profile, do you ever check out their friend list?
Oh, I know, you first go for the photos... 
Especially when the photos show some cleavage... 
But do you care to know more than the skin reveals?
Do you read the person's blogs, forum posts, friends-list?
I do.
Even though I'm not "up for dating" for now, I do like to know more about the people I associate with.
i.e. when a man's friends-list consists only of "20-year-younger-than-he" blondes and not even one male friend among the 53 listed, then I wonder... 
Looks like a "trophy collector"... even though collecting pretend profiles on one's friends-list doesn't really count for trophies, or does it? 
The same.... if the only forum contributions the guy makes are of the erotic and more or less explicit kind, then I wouldn't believe much the ever so popular profile entry of "Bible study", since they don't go too well together
Yes, I look for consistency and make sure I associate with people who could also be my friends in the real world.
People who are dishonest in their life are often unable to hide that part of their character on their profile.
One only needs to check it out in detail.... it's ALL THERE...  
(And that's why I'm not up for dating here.... )
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jowi369
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Oct 28 @ 3:54PM
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all the posibles associations
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edthepoet
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Oct 28 @ 4:32PM
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Yes, it's quite important to read a person whole profile to give more insight about then drolling or saying yuck,lol
Now, I never look at people friends, because I only believe a person is responsible for themselves.
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butterfly943
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Oct 28 @ 4:40PM
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 So very true
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MrPaul
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Oct 28 @ 4:49PM
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dizzydoll
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Oct 28 @ 4:52PM
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i.e. when a man's friends-list consists only of "20-year-younger-than-he" blondes and not even one male friend among the 53 listed, then I wonder...
thats what i am talking about doll, the maturity level of men has depreciated 
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misschoos
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Oct 28 @ 4:57PM
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I find I'm better off if I associate with myself. That way, I get to make all the decisions and am less likely to get into any trouble.
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MrPaul
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Oct 28 @ 5:04PM
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Its not me  Gret oint Travel
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oct_cat
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Oct 28 @ 5:24PM
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One only needs to check it out in detail.... it's ALL THERE...
(And that's why I'm not up for dating here.... LOLOL
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pinkypaula2
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Oct 28 @ 6:29PM
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i always checkout mens profiles when im brousing, or when i get a message from a guy, but yes i do beleive that most guys go straight to the pics im glad we have a delete option if i dont like what the guys are sending
great blog kudos
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ttomtarr
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Oct 28 @ 7:16PM
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I go profile, photos, then blogs.
It is hard to fake a coherent stream of blogs written in the same style. And the various points of view in blogs makes a portrait of the author.
And I follow my inner feelings, like 'em, or red flags flying.
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Roverboy
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Oct 28 @ 9:46PM
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FOUL!!!
I myself, came to this site to meet WOMEN - not men: I have plenty of male friends - but next to zero female friends...er...well...none that can go out with me (they're all married/attached).
Now for the sucky part: have I gone out with any women on this site? No. Why? Because the few that I seem to hit it off with, are much more an a day's drive (or two - or lots and lots of swimming!) from where I live.
DOH! 
Now...would I LIKE to go out with any of them? Yes. Is that going to happen anytime soon? I don't know...my new job will take me to Dallas, Portland, and Seattle, and points in-between.
But - I'm not a "trophy collector". I'm just here to meet women/make female friends, and if I do really hit it off with somebody here, then fantastic.
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Roverboy
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Oct 28 @ 9:47PM
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Oh...
I forgot the most important point: I look at the person in the profile - NOT their friends.
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travelwoman
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Oct 29 @ 12:34AM
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edthepoet...
Actually, one IS responsible for the friends. You must approve them before they are on your list.
I have pages of un-approved friend requests. I do not like to have a bunch of friends who don't mean anything to me (or I to them).
The ONLY thing on your profile that is not of your control is the shout-outs. But I believe that even those, you can delete them if you don't want them.
misschoos...
I'm not entirely there yet... but well on my way...
Roverboy...
Sorry to upset you.
And... of course you look first at the person. Yet, I do look at their friends. Just like in real life.... 
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Roverboy
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Oct 29 @ 1:33AM
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Travelwoman, my dear,
you did not upset me.  I can relate to Mischoos' comment, though, and that is why I'm here.
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kjac
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Oct 29 @ 2:06AM
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I've got some of the best friends a guy could ever hope for. And no, that doesn't make me a good person.
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mkcsks
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Oct 29 @ 5:45AM
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Fiends list on here are a waste of time. If they're really a friend, they're on a more secure list. If they're a casual aquaintance, they're on your friend's list here. People think having 10, 50 or 100 friends on here make you look important. WRONG. It makes you look insecure. NOBODY has 50 or 100 "friends," they're just people you talked with once or twice. QUALITY, not quantity.
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POPO
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Oct 29 @ 7:08AM
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Hola Travel...... 
I agree with you especially when it comes to friends... There's an old saying,"Show me who your friends are, and I will tell you who you are" The current president is a fine example of that, many questioned who he hung around with in Chicago, While others said it was no big deal.. now many of them are at the white house or behind the scenes.
The same applies here and in life, when you walk with the wise you become wise, we are who we hang with, it shows that's who we identify with, and find simular or common ground with people who think like us. having a mixture is fine, but people gravitate toward those they have common ground with.
From personal experience I know many women pay more attention to looks/photos then they let on ..  When I had photos up my email was always busy with new women, once I took my photos down, the activity went down.. So there is a connection there on both sides of the gender pool.
I'm with you on this one, Consistency is a mark of Maturity.... People's writings and blogs tell you more about them, then the sometimes well thought out profile, designed to give them a commercial of what they want others to think. When their writing responses or blogs their not thinking of all the goodies they wrote about them selves in their profile, usually your reading the real them, it's their Cyber DNA...it's them in the buff... What many fail to understand is the truth always has a way of surfacing.
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RightWingRepublican
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Oct 29 @ 11:14AM
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When you check on somebody's profile, do you ever check out their friend list? Oh yeah, always.
Anytime i see a no photoed profile, i check to see if it says "new" on it.
Ive seen many of those posting and emailing here lately. You know it's someone's second profile. I don't trust it.
There's a certain witchy person that made a comment on a blog. You know full well it's the person who was bumped off recently. lol! The entertainment continues.
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