For some reasons, some women think male bashing is a sport on MD.
I wonder if they view their own fathers, sons,uncles.....etc this way.
Can they truly believe men will find women carrying this much hate attractive on a dating site?
Are women perfect? Have they cheated on their spouses, have they filed for divorce,done drugs,drink too much,been too lazy to ever work, lied to their families and friends.....etc. Of course they have they are human as well.
If you put a magnify glass on any gender 24/7/365 you will find something wrong with anyone.
I suggest that anyone male or female carrying the burden of hate to let it go,it truly will only eat your spirit away.
Remember, a dating site is actually a marketing site, where your revealing who and what you are through,e-mails,blogs,threads,pic's and comments.
To believe hate is a good marketing tool is simple naive and wrong, not to mention very unattractive.
I promise men have been hurt by women as well, but, that doesn't give them the right to bash all men for what a women has done to them either.
Hate and neg attitudes can't make anyone life better, just look around and observe anyone who lives like that, then ask yourself, do I want to live a life like that?
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dizzydoll
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Oct 29 @ 7:03AM
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hmmm, and i have to wonder why YOU are taking this so personally? You cannot deny my blog has very valid points. I have no doubt you will have your fair share of women who want to be perceived as the "nice gal" agreeing with you. Just know this they are only interested in their own ego and not the children of the future.
Can they truly believe men will find women carrying this much hate attractive on a dating site?
you really have to be dense. My blog has nothing to do with hating men. Its got everything to do with making changes to protect children. Why are you purposefully missing the point and taking things personally? I am beginning to seriously wonder about you. Are you afraid that women would make better leaders?
Fair enough this is a dating site and there are women all over the world on here and i am hoping that they begin thinking of voting for a women in future governments wherever they live. And for this reason this is the perfect platform to do so.
Ed you are one of those who constantly play the blame game instead of looking or solutions. You also constantly attempt to take the light off the topic at hand and as i stated in my blog "talk in circles".
Why are you taking this so personally? What will you loose out on if porn and sex trade is banned? I have to wonder  oh and btw before you are so quick to assume that i must have been hurt to pick up this cause... you are wrong, i just happen to care for tomorrows children, evidently you do not otherwise you wouldnt be sitting around pulling threads and laying the blame on women.
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oct_cat
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Oct 29 @ 7:20AM
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If you put a magnify glass on any gender 24/7/365 you will find something wrong with anyone 
And to all the MEN AND WOMEN out there who are truly caring & supportive of EACH OTHER, another big
I am a woman, I am proud of the men in my life . . . my father who was a great man & gentle human being, my son who respects ALL creatures, and my boyfriend who has more sensitivity in him than many people I've known.
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dizzydoll
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Oct 29 @ 7:24AM
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yea right oct cat... men are running the show perfectly. You are one of those who are more interested in being known as the "nice gal". Not once did you mention the children. Just you and your family. Great thats why the world is in the mess it is today 
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oct_cat
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Oct 29 @ 7:27AM
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oops, forgot to add
you will have your fair share of women who want to be perceived as the "nice gal" agreeing with you. Just know this they are only interested in their own ego and not the children of the future. Generalizations again. 
Speak only for yourself doll, because in the end you will only have yourself to defend.
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dizzydoll
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Oct 29 @ 7:32AM
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Speak only for yourself doll, because in the end you will only have yourself to defend.
and i will defend tomorrows children of course... as to be expected, you and too many others forget them in this mix  carry on believing that i am generalizing, this is one of the reasons why children are falling through the cracks.
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oct_cat
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Oct 29 @ 7:35AM
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Maybe, dizzy, you are inserting your own sentences in there because I DID mention my son!
And if everyone with families and children cared more about them maybe there'd be less problems in the world!
Taking care of things properly starts within one's own family circle. I will start there, like any responsible male or female adult would do.
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edthepoet
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Oct 29 @ 7:41AM
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First, you have lost your mind Dizzy.
Your spilling your hate onto my blog and your bad mouthing any women who agree that hate,male bashing and neg attitude isn't an attractive thing men look for.
Since, I am a male and you wrote a male bashing blog of course I think your wrong, there are plenty of good men in this world and on this site.
Now, you need to re-read your own blog, It's an attacking blog on all men,unlike mine.
Your so wrong about men being responsible, who do you think has been the bread winner for the last few hundred years, who are the soldiers who protect and died for us mostly.
Well, you may have not been hurt, but, my daughter was molested!
Do I blame all men for what one male did,no.
Did I make sure he was convicted yes.
Did I extent my child support and raise on my own yes.
Do I have an awesome relationship with my daughter, absolutely, just go and read my past blogs about her.
I am not going to feed into your hatered, that you can keep all to yourself.
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edthepoet
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Oct 29 @ 7:48AM
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Dizzy, on your own blog you wrote all men, that is generalizing.
Not once did you mention women have harmed their children, which has happen many times.
Both men and women need to step-up to the plate and be better parents, not just men.
Now, your attacking a women who says she's proud of the men in her life, can;t you see the hate within you is making you blind,not to mention killing whatever good is left inside you.
Please go seek help.
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dizzydoll
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Oct 29 @ 7:53AM
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dont patronize me, it doesnt make you look clever. The issues remain the same and men have had more than long enough to sort it our. Time for women as president. Get over yourself, its coming for obvious reasons.
I am all for prevention is better than cure 
Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results
Albert Einstein
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edthepoet
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Oct 29 @ 8:02AM
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It's no wonder your name fits you so well.
You now are crying over Hillary, get over it, she loss and is in a position of power in case you didn't notice.
I will type very slowly so you can understand what this blog is about,ok.
it's about male bashing being wrong and how hate and neg attitude will eat one alive and make them less attractive to others, not porn nor about a woman should be president.
I am not kidding, you need mental help immediately with all that anger within you posses about men, it's not healthy.
Do you really believe that with your mindset, your a good role model for any kids?
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Blaiserboy
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Oct 29 @ 8:08AM
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I sense that the bashing goes both ways..... some women bash men and some men bash women....
For myself, I see the bashing as destructive, and I also recognize that people are expressing opinions about their own reality, not necessarily the reality of the rest of the people.
Some people have lived a life that causes them to lash out, I doubt that they will tell us the complete story in a blog.
The habit of anger is self fulfilling, what we dwell on today will reappear tomorrow, perhaps in a different form... but it will definitely reappear....
I suggest that we all have a duty to ourselves to recognize the good in life and in each other so that we can have a better tomorrow.
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ColdinWisconsin
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Oct 29 @ 8:34AM
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I can only post my own personal experiences here.
I had a wonderful father who loved and protected me.
I've had bad men in my life too.
By choice.
I can look back and admit that I let them in.
My ex husband...he wasn't a very good husband. But, he is an exceptional daddy. On every dang level. I have blogged about him before and posted in the forums how we have chosen to raise our child together.
It takes two to make things horrible and it takes two to make things good.
When it comes to children, the hand that rocks the cradle does truly rule the world. Raising them with someone or by yourself.
When raising a child with a partner (who lives with you or not) a woman pretty much lays down the laws of how it's going to be. How things will be handled. When doing it alone, you are forced to do so without a support system. Sometimes by choice, sometimes by circumstance.
We ALL have culpability. Every one of us. Unless and until we can look at ourselves and fix our own flaws, we will be unable to partner effectively.
As for power in the world as a whole....Women have ruled nations through their men. That is the stone cold truth. Some to their counties benefit, others to their detriment. A penis does not equal destruction and a vagina does not promise perfection.
Again this is nothing more or less than my point of view and I'm not asking anyone to agree with it. However, let me state here that I believe our points of view stem from our experiences. If you've had a bad one...fix what's broke and move on.
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edthepoet
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Oct 29 @ 8:37AM
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Well said blaiserboy,
Hate and anger doesn't help people grow, rather it like flesh eating bacteria that continue to consume the person.
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ttomtarr
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Oct 29 @ 8:39AM
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The answer is simple.
Discuss the point in question in a civil way, and DO NOT use personal attacks as an argument.
Beyond that, we should all have the maturity to know that the circumstances of one's life can, at timesmake them extremely sensitive on one issue or another. To engage in a feud over such a keenly felt issue is beneath the dignity of any adult.
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RightWingRepublican
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Oct 29 @ 8:42AM
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I just read Dizzy's and Ed's blogs. Both make really valid points.
Now, i can't knock dizzy for having that opinion. Many women have seen that behavior over and over and over... I'm sure she has seen it too.
The same could be said for Women. We all have certain habits and behaviors that could be seen as bad.
Ive seen both sexes basically turn their backs on their children. It's usually one or the other, not both. But i have seen both men and women do this.
I don't care who it is. To treat a child poorly because you're angry... well that fires me up.
People just need to knock it off. Not their kids fault that they can't keep it together.
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Wing_Zero_75
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Oct 29 @ 8:43AM
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I think Robin Williams said it best. "If women were running the world, there would be no wars, just severe negotiations every 28 days"
I believe that was from live at the met.
Larry
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ttomtarr
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Oct 29 @ 8:44AM
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A penis does not equal destruction and a vagina does not promise perfection.
There is far, far more to gender difference than difference of reproductive organs.
Very clever to work in your magic words, but you forgot the usual oozings and secretions.
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Wing_Zero_75
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Oct 29 @ 8:52AM
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I don't care who it is. To treat a child poorly because you're angry... well that fires me up.
When that happens, you get something like me.
Ive seen both sexes basically turn their backs on their children. It's usually one or the other, not both. But i have seen both men and women do this. lisa did it with my niece and nephew. world of warcaft was more important than the kids. Now Hunter is going to end up like me. He has started a form of self mutilation that doesnt involve scaring, he is detatched from so many things in life because of it. The father wasnt there for most of his life, and now lisa with her bs.
My father always said that you should pray for children, not prey on them.
Larry
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edthepoet
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Oct 29 @ 8:54AM
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No on here or in real life would defend abusing children, there's other kinds of abuse children suffer besides sexual.
Women over time have done their fair share of this as well as men.
I know first hand, my mother is evil and has done many horrible thing to both my brothers and sisters and I also know what it's like to have a child sexually abuse.
Yet, I don't let their actions run my life or how I parent as a father.
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POPO
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Oct 29 @ 9:11AM
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As for power in the world as a whole....Women have ruled nations through their men. That is the stone cold truth. Some to their counties benefit, others to their detriment. A penis does not equal destruction and a vagina does not promise perfection.
Wow.......Wisconsin.....  That last sentence especially tells it all...
There is no question that men have for the most part been in charge of the world we live in, and have been since the begining of time. I don't believe all men are bad, nor do I believe all men cheat or neglect their families or obligations, Sadly the bad men make more of a impact on society, then the good ones do. Atleast the ones that we hear about, but many women here, have posted great things about their fathers, brothers, husbands, (ex) boyfriends and men in their life. Which proves not all men are bad. 
I don't think that women bashing men or men bashing women solves anything, we know their are good and bad in all walks of life, but ripping each other apart is not becoming from either side. Looks what's going on here, intelligent people throwing rocks at each other from something neither one did, I can't defend or even explain all men or women, I can only be responsible for what I do and what I have done with my own children, shit I can't even explain the actions of people I know 
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cbond35
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Oct 29 @ 9:33AM
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I don't think that women bashing men or men bashing women solves anything,
TRUE.......and neither does arguing, finger-pointing, name calling, hypocrisy, bigotry, judging or generalizing.
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Tiramisu4u
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Oct 29 @ 10:00AM
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I will refer just to the problem of *male-bashing*....which seems to be more prevelant than the *female-bashing* on this site.
I, personally could not bash anyone except my second ex..and he is passed. There are so many good men out there, and more showing up everyday.
People of both sexes have been found to be abusive and terrible people not only to children, but in life over-all...it's sad but true, and it will not go away.
In my family structure, men are the head of the household, but only because a smart woman allows them to think so....  If she keeps a calm, smoothrunning household, it makes a big circle of everyone being content in their roles.
Unfortunately, there are more and more single parent homes, and the fault is not gender-specific. The important thing is the protection of the children by everyone, not just men or women!
When my job consisted of being an advocate for the children dealing with trauma, There were 8 of us putting our heart and soul into the job. 6 were men..2 women...
Just sayin'......
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Blaiserboy
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Oct 29 @ 10:07AM
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There must be a way to turn all of this to the positive, some method to embrace the good and enhance constructive changes in our own lives and in society.
I suggest that each of us do whatever we can do improve things for ourselves and others.... that we ignore the wrongs and focus our energies to the creation of a good life for all.
We can not change others. we can only change ourselves.... we can only change what our perception of our world will be.
By constant focus on what we feel to be right for humanity we will effect changes, however large or small they may be.
We can make great strides....thought by thought, minute by minute, as long as we guard what we allow ourselves to dwell on.
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bluewind37
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Oct 29 @ 10:18AM
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We can not change others. we can only change ourselves.... we can only change what our perception of our world will be.
He nailed with that statement.
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RightWingRepublican
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Oct 29 @ 10:48AM
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Unfortunately, there are more and more single parent homes, and the fault is not gender-specific. One of the best quotes ive ever seen here.
Like i said to Ed. We are all in some way guilty of enabling abuse, whether we realize it or not. We have basically forgotten the people of Darfur. Somalia was one of the biggest headlines when i was a child. Seeing other children laying in the dirt not able to swat a fly off their own face. What happened to the people and place? Nothing, they are still suffering. Darfur is a melting pot of abuse.
I keep saying that i'll make sure to help in some way. I really haven't done much as of yet. It's shameful. Donating a bit of money isn't solving the problem.
Not doing anything is just as bad and being the abuser. Sitting back and watching something bad happen and ignoring it is just as bad. (think of the recent high school rape where everyone stood around, laughed and took photos).
I would love to think that the American people will help the kids here and everywhere, but i don't think it's a priority. How can people who support killing unborn children be expected to stand up for the born ones. Doesn't say much for us as a whole.
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Tiramisu4u
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Oct 29 @ 10:59AM
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That specific issue of the rape of the 15 year old...I wanted to throw up...more so because CHILDREN of both sexes were not raised to do anything but stand around and watch...NOONE called authorities!
We need to raise our children to have empathy and more of a sense of what is right and wrong! And to NOT be afraid of standing up to it! After all, these children are going to be our future leaders, and if they are raised to be candy-asses, then thats how our country will continue to be run.
Yes...it IS about the children...and OUR job to make them a productive member of society...BOTH male and female!!!
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LJRite
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Oct 29 @ 11:24AM
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Some men suck, some dont
Some women suck, some dont
As far as brothers, uncles, male family members if they SUCK they SUCK and I would be the first to tell them to get their act together. My baby brother is a DOG and I tell him all the time I would never put up with his shit and then he retorts "No, you put up with worse from your ex" and then I have to really give it to his and let him know that is why I am no longer with his sorry ass......
My brother shuts up and he is a still dog, but he has also experienced his own heartache 3 fold so I guess it evens it self out and every dog, man or woman gets their day.
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lovestobake
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Oct 29 @ 11:28AM
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I have heard it said music & movies reflect the times. In the fifties men & women declared love & belief in the goodness of the other in songs. Television & movies for the most part had the good guys & gals doing the right thing. To honestly discuss how & why we arrived at the present state would be one hell of a blog.
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LJRite
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Oct 29 @ 11:49AM
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Hey Lovesto....I WOULD agreeeeeeee.......and maybe it would take both a man and a women to write it........ 
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kjac
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Oct 29 @ 12:07PM
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You wrote this, and 6 blogs later...
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RightWingRepublican
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Oct 29 @ 12:18PM
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Damn, Tiramisu. Never thought i'd say this but, you go girl. I give props where props is due.
She's right. This issue is not male or female, it's everyone.
..and maybe it would take both a man and a women to write it. It sure seems that way. If Ed and Dizzy had come together on this, it could be one hell of a blog. Maybe something we all can agree on.
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edthepoet
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Oct 29 @ 12:33PM
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My blog does say it that both genders are at fault, but, for whatever reason male bashing blog seem more acceptable then if there was a female bashing blog.
I always look at a person as an individual not a a group, hence why I don't judge people by who they have on their friends list.
I am majorly against any form of child abuse, I live it and promise to God to to end the cycle with me before I had a child.
I think highly of women and have always thought of them as equal, if you ask any women on here if I have never once sent a nasty e-mail,including Dizzy, it's not my style. Actually, I am forever giving out hugs in them.
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tentfire
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Oct 29 @ 1:26PM
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I haven't read all the comments here, but will be, they look interesting... but I read the blog and had to post my two cents worth....
Remember, a dating site is actually a marketing site, where your revealing who and what you are through,e-mails,blogs,threads,pic's and comments.
Couldn't be better said!
Are women perfect? Have they cheated on their spouses, have they filed for divorce,done drugs, In a BAD situation, filing for divorce is NOT a bad thing! There are MANY reasons a woman has every right (and obligation) to file for divorce. Being physically/mentally abused herself or her kids being abused, are just one example.
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SpiritOrnery
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Oct 29 @ 2:10PM
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Hm, I see nothing wrong with people posting how they feel. It gives everyone the opportunity to see inside the person and choose whether or not they agree or disagree with them. Better to let people know our thoughts and beliefs instead of be surprised or disappointed later, eh?
I see people bashing both genders and all sexual preferences as well as all political positions and religious preferences as well. This is a GOOD thing. Because we get to CHOOSE to align ourselves with them afterwards. Let the truth be known! That is one of my favorite phrases!
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tentfire
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Oct 29 @ 2:30PM
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Okay, I see where the "divorce thing" came from, but I imagine you can see how I read it.
Two of my kids (before I got them) were seriously molested by a woman. They both have a strong hate for women. Many times, a person's STRONG opinion of one sex or the other is due to what a person has unfortunately experienced with/through them. But it is not healthy and with a lot of work it can be smoothed out so that they can hold good opinions of both men and women while, at the same time, you use the bad experiences to help others that may now be in the same situation.
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tentfire
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Oct 29 @ 2:36PM
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Oh, yes, just for the record... it was a MALE MD member that saw to it that I have firewood for the winter... God love him!!!   
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Tanikogirl
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Oct 29 @ 3:25PM
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Why does anyone have to bash either sex!!! There is good and bad in all, both my family and I have had bad experiences from both male and females, but to carry hatred in your heart destroys you and everyone around you. That is what I always taught my children. You cannot change yesterday but you can tomorrow if you let go of the past. To me that is a very valuable lesson to teach all children.
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cbond35
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Oct 29 @ 5:19PM
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but to carry hatred in your heart destroys you and everyone around you.
True
No one is born with hatred, its something that you learn..........
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ragtopcookie
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Oct 29 @ 5:26PM
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well well well......see what happens when you go off to work?...all the good arguements happen.....so what can be said here that has not been said......not a damned thing........cookie
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WSOR
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Oct 29 @ 6:28PM
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yea right oct cat... men are running the show perfectly. You are one of those who are more interested in being known as the "nice gal".
 Oh Christ, if the World only knew!!!!
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MrPaul
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Oct 29 @ 8:12PM
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Ed my  s off to you for stepping up and speaking the truth. This is a dating site and just as in the real world there is all types on here with all kinds of life experiences. Good and bad some have learned from past mistakes and moved on. But some still carry the bitterness of what they have gone through and will strike out at any and everyone. I admire you for allowing anyone to post on your blog even when they are being nasty and striking out at you for know reason. The example we set as adults will be what our children will follow. Learning to disagree without anger will teach our children how to reason and solve problems. Standing up for truth and holding people accountable for their actions that hurt others will teach children the way and show there is justice People of both sexes have been found to be abusive and terrible people not only to children, but in life over-all...it's sad but true, and it will not go away.
When my job consisted of being an advocate for the children dealing with trauma, There were 8 of us putting our heart and soul into the job. 6 were men..2 women Tira, Well said you are a true lady Not doing anything is just as bad and being the abuser. Sitting back and watching something bad happen and ignoring it is just as bad. RWR A lady that speaks the truth and hods nothing back I am majorly against any form of child abuse, I live it and promise to God to to end the cycle with me before I had a child. Yet, I don't let their actions run my life or how I parent as a father. Ed , A real man and his children are truly blessed to have him as a father see what happens when you go off to work?... Cookie, Wasnt it your day to babysit on MD  A great man a great cook  I can only be responsible for what I do and what I have done with my own children, Popo, What can I say one of the most honest and caring man on MD  It takes two to make things horrible and it takes two to make things good. Cold, A straight shooter and wonderful mother, blessed is her daughter
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edthepoet
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Oct 29 @ 11:34PM
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At times, especially on serious and or so-called off limit topic people truly needs speak their mind truthfully, even if an anger tone is spoken.
Too often people passionate views or thoughts are kept within, then something within gets so pissed off enough to unleash normally quieted demeanor to kick and scream.
Keeping our thoughts locked up or silent on serious subjects only perpetuate the problem,whereas an open honest dialogue allows a real understanding of how the problem got out of hand in the first place.
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MrPaul
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Oct 29 @ 11:43PM
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Keeping our thoughts locked up or silent on serious subjects only perpetuate the problem,whereas an open honest dialogue allows a real understanding of how the problem got out of hand in the first place .
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RightWingRepublican
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Oct 30 @ 12:25AM
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I am majorly against any form of child abuse, I live it and promise to God to to end the cycle with me before I had a child. Yet, I don't let their actions run my life or how I parent as a father.
Paul i didn't say all of that.
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dizzydoll
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Oct 30 @ 3:55AM
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Carry on talking $hit paul. Both you and i know you are a fake Just shows how gullible people are.. and i am queen Elizabeth
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dizzydoll
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Oct 30 @ 5:12AM
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Also i have principals and life is not a popularity contest even tho many of you keep reminding me that this is a dating site like i must pull myself together. MD is also an excellent medium to reach the world and i have no regrets for putting the focus on the worlds children instead of my needs. My blog was intended to shock, i warned some people people about it before i posted it. I achieved my goal.
The world (USA incl) needs strong women leaders like Maggie. Its the womens turn to make a mark. The sooner the better. 
As a woman i honestly do want women leaders to step up and take the reigns. I understand that many men might feel threatened this. For me, living in denial is finished and i am not going to stick my head in the sand any longer. Just remember if you choose to miss the point, preferring to believe i am a wounded soul, let me make it perfectly clear... that is only your delusion, or guilt, or shame.
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edthepoet
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Oct 30 @ 5:27AM
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Dizzy, this where you seem to take a wrong turn, there's nothing wrong with women being in position of power because they are capable.
But, you think you have to destroy men on the path to becoming a responsible leader, this isn't true.
Your hatred of men is vile and makes people say to themselves why would I listen to her, worse yet, people think you need to lay on a couch to help resolve this deep seated anger.
I don't like supreme, but I did wish him a safe and fun trip,where you basically accused him of molesting kids. This what I am talking abou
It's awesome to stand up for what you believe, however you need not to set a fire an entire gender to make your point.
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dizzydoll
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Oct 30 @ 5:44AM
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It's awesome to stand up for what you believe, however you need not to set a fire an entire gender to make your point.
I believe you must set fire to whomever is fckn it up. Throughout my life i have been told that Eve was to blame for the worlds woes. I should have screamed the house down like you are doing now every time i have heard that and other equally ridiculous things about women.
And now you are supremes body guard, it was a joke. Call it a distasteful joke if you like, i am more than sure he can look after himself and i doubt he takes me as seriously as you are. Take a closer look at your anger directed at me while you have lashed out at me on your own blog. Mirror Mirror Ed.
btw. I believe you must set fire to whomever is fckn it up
I did the same here when we had an apartheid government. I didnt regret standing up the suppressed then as i am doing now. 
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dizzydoll
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Oct 30 @ 5:51AM
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and i am damn sure you are on your way back with something else in order to take the focus off the real problem. "Talking in circles" men are geniuses at this. Now slam me for saying that... i care not Ed. I leave here now.
I wont wish you a good weekend, i prefer you think about the next child who is getting rapped and perhaps you can get the MEN who rule to do something about it
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edthepoet
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Oct 30 @ 6:17AM
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Dizzy, there's no anger towards you, there's enough angry fire within you to set ablaze entire city, what your missing, is that I feel sorry for you for living such a neg life because of it.
I truly want you to get the help you need, but, your too busy setting more fires to see you need help with your issues with men.
Your in attack mode and self-destructing before our eyes, which is sad.
Again, I agree it's good to stand up for thing with a passion mindset, however killing an entire gender is genocide.
Men have accomplished many wonderful things and been great roles models, not to mention being awesome fathers.
Look what happen to the family unit where the father is no longer in it,doesn't that prove that men can bring good qualities to the spouse and their kids.
I don't expect both genders to be perfect, nor do I blame entire gender for all the world problems like you do.
Some women have done very terrible things, this is a fact, however, I refuse to hold every woman accountable for those women horrible deeds.
I choose to see the good that both genders have provided in the overall scheme of things, dwelt and swim in the neg muddy water of those who do harms to others.
Remember, neg crap come natural, whereas, pos things are generally self-made.
Please take the time to see all the wonderful things both genders have accomplished over time, I promise you,if you do that, then your personal hatred will slowly over time resolve itself.
Neg thinking and hate aren't good role models for kids.
If you did any research at all on the subject of who is fighting the war on children being molested,raped or being sold sex slaves, you would find that there's many men involved in helping these poor children, please take the time too look at things fairly without setting ablaze all men.
I will wish you a happy and joyful weekend because I refuse to feed into your anger.
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Borty
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Oct 30 @ 7:04AM
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Men are beating up women as we speak all over the world. It's only very recently that law enforcement is taking a proactive stance against wife beaters in North America. In several countries women are considered property and if they step out of line ...which could mean anything...the husband is allowed to beat them without fear of being prosecuted.
Many men in North America still believe that women should subservient...the king of the castle syndrome. Since the sixties womens rights have progressed but the glass ceiling still exists in the workforce..women still get paid less for the same amount of work. There is still a long way to go for equal rights for women. That could all change if the right woman were to become President. I believe in equal rights for all people..no matter what their gender but at this time and place women are still getting the shitty end of the stick.
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ttomtarr
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Oct 30 @ 7:20AM
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Yachata, yachata, yachata. equality....not gender specific,,,all the same...The words flow like water.
But we all really know who divorces who for a younger playmate,
And I damn sure know it was men trying to molest me when I was a kid, not women.
And we all know who takes up the burden and raises the kids after divorce in MOST cases.
Anyone who has worked in bars can tell you that it is almost all men who engage in volent brawls.
And any emergency room nurse can tell you she sees way more than ten battered women for every battered man.
Bashing all men is wrong, but we men, as a group, don't have a very good track record, and women and children have often been our victims.
I myself can't change all that, but I don't expect the victims to stand there and be abused in silence.
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edthepoet
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Oct 30 @ 7:36AM
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Hi Borty, what you say is true, but should we condemn all men for what a few men do?
Do you honestly believe that if there was a woman President, that suddenly men would stop beating their wives?
When M. Thatcher was Pm of England, men didn't suddenly stop abusing their wives did they?
I wrote this poem a few years back to help women see the early signs of a wife beater and for those already in it to take a good hard look at what is actually happen to them.
I am proud to say this poem did help at least 15 young girls and women get out of this kind of horrible relationship.
The Making of a Wife Beater
First, I will wine and dine her
Then I fill her head with fairytale dreams
All the while, telling her how gorgeous she is
Just a few more moves
and I will be all set
Now it time,
to build her confidence skyscraper high, with lies
Mmm, this is a major key;
To make them fall below their foundation
Not quite finished
How can one forget these fun tools
Get her pregnant
and make her totally reliant on my money
Wooohoo, the fun begin
First a few curse words,
kneaded with some demeaning gestures
Next tighten her wallet a little more,
then start blaming her for everything
and slow down the intimacy
She’s almost ready for her first slap
I need to yell louder
and tear apart her core viciously
Its time to push her over
She’s all primed
Smack, crackle and punch
Wow, what a cool way to start off my day
Now, its time to say I am so sorry over and over and hold her tight, while I beg for forgiveness
Hey, I can’t have friends and family know
She needs to lie for me
After all, it all her fault
Once she does this, I win
Here’s my favorite part:
It’s so easy to beat on someone that loves you unconditionally
Because they have nothing left and no place to stay
And the fatherly bonus is;
my little son Tommy will know how to keep his woman in her place
Now you know why, I always wear a shit-eaten grin
Now, most poems dealing with this subject are generally written from the victim point of view, I purposely choose to write it from the asshole point of view to get women to hate him so bad, to wake them up to what is happening in their lives.
This is a learn behavior by both the asshole and the victim, sadly for the poor women.
It's always about tearing down the woman self-esteem until she is no longer in control of her normal mindset.
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dizzydoll
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Oct 30 @ 8:16AM
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And you say i need help
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edthepoet
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Oct 30 @ 9:01AM
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Dizzy, are you saying that your against men helping women from being abused?
How can you view that poem in a neg way, when it's sole purpose was awaken women who are being abused or have women to see what the signs are before entering one.
I am very proud of that poem because it has help women from being abused further and others from continuing to date men who show these signs.
I wrote it in such an evil voice to ensure it had a sledge hammer effect.
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ColdinWisconsin
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Oct 30 @ 10:59AM
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Now, most poems dealing with this subject are generally written from the victim point of view, I purposely choose to write it from the asshole point of view to get women to hate him so bad, to wake them up to what is happening in their lives.
That took balls toots, and I'll tell you something else, women DO need to see inside a man's head (a man who thinks like that) in order to protect themselves.
Good on you for having the guts to write that.
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dizzydoll
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Oct 30 @ 12:20PM
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"talking in circles"... i never excluded men. There you go again, shifting the focus onto you.
Throughout your blog you have concluded BS, my blog clearly said judges, lawyers and professionals. It never said all men as you continue to claim. It never said i hate men as you claim. Bur dont expect me to praise men either toots. I couldnt resist.
20 year old Shane read my blog and he said every word was true. Perhaps you should read it again. By the way he read your poem too and he said he was disturbed by the man who would write that. 
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dizzydoll
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Oct 30 @ 12:32PM
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Tom and Borty have said the exact same thing, different words. I will praise them
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bluewind37
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Oct 30 @ 12:44PM
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I'm going to go out on a limb here and say this:
BOTH genders are capable of abuse, violence, and horrific crime.
2 Examples of women committing horrific crimes:
Susan Smith. We all remember her, right? Let her car roll into a lake with her 2 sons in it just so she wouldn't lose her boyfriend. I still say she should get the same sentence she gave her sons.
Andrea Yates. She said Satan made her drown her children. Psychotic? Or just smart enough to fool others into believing she's a mental case?
2 Examples of men committing horrific crimes:
O.J. Simpson. Not talking about the murders of Ron Goldman and Nicole, although I believe he did indeed do it. I'm referring to his abuse of her while they were married, and divorced. No person should be put through the hell she was put through.
Scott Peterson. Remember him? Wife Laci 9 months pregnant, he kills her, disfigures her corpse, then tried to anchor her body down in the Bay?
My opinion is the majority of men and women are good people and sometimes judgement will be clouded by personal life experiences. My niece, a victim of a pedophile. Yet, I will not hold the entire male population responsible for the acts of one creep. What I do hold responsible is the legislatures who will not change the laws to better protect children from pedophiles. I do not remember the exact statistic (if someone wants to look it up..great) but a majority of pedophiles when released will victimize another child. I still say a pedophile either gets life in prison with no parole, put in the general population, or, the death penalty. I'm sorry, but there is no excuse good enough in my opinion to give a pedophile "special treatment" as I have no tolerance for those who willfully harm children.
With that said, I will again say that I believe the majority of men and women are good people. If one looks at it realistically....how much of the population is free compared to in prisons? Yes, there are crimes that need to be dealt with. I've studied law, I plan on going back to school to finish getting my degree, and believe me...some laws need fine tuning. We, as a society, need to start looking out for one another and help each other when we can. And we need to get our legislators to listen to us. One way is to write them. Don't be rude or nasty as they are human too, and are likely, and rightfully so, to not pay attention to abuse. If you don't like the work they do, hey...don't vote for them in elections.
We need to use common sense here and stop fighting amongst ourselves.
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BandTMom
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Oct 30 @ 4:07PM
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You know something, Ed, I've always wondered why a person would come on a dating site, state that they are seeking a relationship with the opposite sex, yet spew their hate for that sex all over the site and the internet itself.
Hate breeds hate. Anger breeds anger.
Love breeds love.
It's only when we let go of the h ate and anger that we have room for love in our lives. When we have room for love, only then can we experience true happiness and peace.
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edthepoet
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Oct 30 @ 5:13PM
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Dizzy, I took your one comment off my blog because it was a blog you wrote, why would want your male bashing blog on my blog which is about male bashing is wrong.
I have no clue who shane is, so his opinion means nothing to me, not I won't say anything bad about him because I know nothing about him.
It's amazing you can't understand why writing the poem in that tone was very important to make deep impact to those women who are suffering from abuse.
I do not worry what your thoughts are about the poem, I only care that it has help women get help and leave their spouses who were destroying them.
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southernlass
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Oct 31 @ 3:50AM
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While there is a lot wrong with many of our men, not all of them have become devoid of integrity and ethics. There are still some men out there who aren't viewing porn every night before they go to bed; unfortunately, the number of women who are joining them has increased! These days, men aren't even having to push the porn on women, women are apparently picking it up themselves, so we can't blame the porn problem solely on men anymore.
I think men and women are confused about their roles these days and both sexes have resentment over this matter. Traditional values aren't what they used to be; men are often threatened by strong women, while others are just relieved that they don't have to pay for everything.
I think both genders need to be sympathetic to one another and practice the golden rule when interacting.
I did vote for Hillary Clinton and might again; unfortunately, she's off playing Secretary and so it looks like she'll be quite aged before she has opportunity to run again, if she ever does.
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edthepoet
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Oct 31 @ 9:39AM
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I amazed how out rage women are about men watching porn,yet, they never say a word about the women in the porn.
This bring up a question, which is worst the men watching or the women performing in the vids.
Then add in the fact that women also watch porn, where's the outrage there.
Where the outcry about the women giving lap dances.
Am I to think that it ok's for women to be paid money providing sex and luring men to do so?
I believe that end the crap that everything is a man fault.
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edthepoet
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Nov 1 @ 12:09AM
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Hi bandtmom,
Your so right, why would anyone express themselves as an angry person if your trying to have people attracted to you.
Think about it, if this is a person trying to show their good side,one can only imagine what you haven't seen.
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Strata2007
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Nov 8 @ 6:57PM
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Heyyyyyyyyy what's up with all this????!!!!! 
I admit I got tired of reading after the first five posts
Hey Ed,
Here's one for ya 
Dizzy
This is for you
You both have great opinions and no doubt are great people.
Let the differences exist.
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edthepoet
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Nov 21 @ 5:54AM
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Ty dizzy for re-directing people back to my blog and especially for posting my blog once again about the signs women need to see to get out of a horrible and dangerous relationship.
This time your hatred of men is helping other women.
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ladyvampire
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Nov 25 @ 1:11PM
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I have to admit, I have been guilty of Male bashing. (By the way, men bash women as well) But have to say that Male bashing starts because usually, the woman has been hurt really bad either emotionally, mentally or even physically, by some thoughtless male, (Just as a thoughtless female could do the same to a male.) So what happens is to relieve the stress from that hurt, male bashing comes in. Later on, after all the feelings have been spent, the male basher usually feels bad about what she said, unless it was something really funny, like, I hope he falls face first in dog poop. Lets face it, the site of someone with a face full of dog poop after they had hurt someone is funny! Guys do the dumb blonde jokes, and one I heard a guy say is the perfect woman is beautiful, but can't speak, or hear and has a ton of money and has one foot in the grave... hence, female bashing. It works both ways babe!
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