I was never a great student myself. I was lazy and only applied myself in subjects that I had an interest in. I never finished college.....My income has suffered throughout the years for lack of higher education. On the other hand, I have worked consistently and successfully for a long time at my chosen trade so it all probably washes out.
Here's the problem. I keep getting involved with really intelligent women. Now I know what you're thinking....How intelligent could she be if she's interested in me? Right? But that's the thing....I seem to occupy a blind spot in their intelligence.
The conversation is good....they seem to enjoy dressing well....they constantly challenge your mental skills.....totally helpful when stuck on the New York Times Sunday Crossword.
Two more problems. They spent too much time thinking, letting little thoughts get wrapped around the inside of the brain until it explodes in an unseeming torrent of emotional sludge....and...Eventually the blind spot clears up.
I hearken back to less trying days when I had a girlfriend who was sweet, devoted, and dumb as a block of wood. I would begin to discuss politics, science, or economics and her eyes would just glaze over....She'd say "Aw honey, I'm glad you understand those things, now I'll know what to think". I'd get infuriated with her total lack of interest in current events or issues affecting her directly....
But now I see....She had qualities far beyond mere intelligence and savvy. She loved children and nature. She cooked and sewed. She could down more Vodka in one sitting than the whole Russian Army and still not stagger on the way to the ladies room. She loved me regardless of my obvious shortcomings.....and if she wasn't in jail today for sewing a small child to a tree while drunk, I'd go find her and do it all over again.
Bottom line? Give me a sweet girl of average intelligence, or a really beautiful ditz....desparately seeking....well...you know.
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Heart2Heart453
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Oct 31 @ 3:39PM
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You seem to have identified who you don't want to date but continue to date "her" anyway. Why do you think that is?
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Blaiserboy
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Oct 31 @ 5:17PM
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I dont think you have to worry about Ms Right's intelligence...... I think you have to evaluate the quality of the communication between the two of you.... if that is good, you can build the relationship you want..... whether she be brilliant or less than brilliant.
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malexand
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Oct 31 @ 5:29PM
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You are so right.
Why is it that book smart people lack common sense? I saw this all through school. They couldn't hold a screwdriver correctly and had no idea a franastrand was.
I'll take the farm girl with commom sense. At least she will hold the nail while I hit it with a hammer.
Here we go!
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1frantastic
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Oct 31 @ 7:19PM
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I for one, am an "intelligent girl" and have degrees that I spent many years pursuing...and paid my own way for them and material things I have accumulated over the years.
I married the first time to one who was intelligent...a true "Genius with no common sense"....and ughhh! I was miserable! I also made his life miserable...well maybe not cause he didn't know it...
Through my many years of learning about people ( and the "type" I do want as a mate) I have come to the conclusion I must have a Leonardo DeVinci or other "intelligent" thinking man who can actually DO everything too! My daddy never went to college...but he DID read the Encyclopaedia Briticanna and absorbed it....so I KNOW intelligence has NOTHING to do with formal education!He was a master craftsman in many fields...Had ability to DO SOMETHING...not JUST THEORY!!!
So...unless you want to be miserable with someone who can't "get you"...and fall into the trap of "my wife doesn't understand me" because you have ...er..."settled for" someone you don't really "click with"...then...give those "intelligent women" a chance to be themselves...if they have more than "book smarts" going for them...
You, my dear, are a rare find in yourself...so DON'T look for stupid...but even intelligent women can be stupid on things too!
Good hunting... 
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