I was reading some poetry on another site I am on last night and got the inspiration for this poem. Although I had a father growing up and he was home all the time, for the most of my life he was an alcoholic and was very mean with it. I only remember living in fear and never him holding me or telling me he loved me. Although he spent the last 10 years of his life (maybe) sober, he was a troubled and depressed man. This is to all those who never knew their father. This is not about the fathers who wanted to be a part their child's life, but never got the chance. It is not about my daughter's life either.
Daddy Look What You Missed
Daddy look what you missed
As you threw me aside
You never watched me grow
Taking life in stride
Daddy look what you missed
My very first day of school
Not only were you missing
You broke the golden rule
Daddy look what you missed
It's graduation day
I graduated with honors
But you had nothing to say
Daddy look what you missed
A grandchild to love you so
But you will never know this love
Or the chance to watch them grow
Daddy looked what you missed
But look what I have gained
For I have felt the love
That you never did attain.
Sherry
11/07/2009
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bardnsage
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Nov 8 @ 12:59AM
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You don't have to be deceased to have missed the moments in the life of a child.
Good blog.
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ladyvampire
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Nov 8 @ 3:35AM
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When I told my oldest daughter's father that I was pregnant, he told me to chose between him and the baby.
By the time I left, he was on the ground writhing in pain, holding himself in the baby maker department.
I tried to get his family to get to know her.. but they refused.
When she was only 10, she met his mother for the first time, she snubbed my daughter, even though she had invited us over there to visit.
After she graduated high school, they decided they wanted to be in her life. She got the chance to return the snub to the grandmother, but was funniest of all was the following:
He had invited us out to dinner, (My daughter and I) When he arrived, She yelled is that the sperm donor?
We went to the olive garden, and she literally let him have it. She asked what excuse could he possibly come up with for not even trying to see her as she was growing up.
And it went on from there.
Now he can't seem to do enough for her. Could it be that she is the only one that not only graduated High School, but also went to college to be an adolescent psychiatrist.? Go Figure!
But yeah, he did miss out on alot!
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gunn12fan
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Nov 8 @ 8:47AM
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 great poem
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justme836
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Nov 8 @ 9:38AM
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I wonder, if given the chance what all the aborted children would say to their mother's who murdered them even though they had a father who wanted them.
If mother's have a choice to murder shouldn't a father have a choice to walk away? Isn't walking away better than murder?
I wonder why you would place your daughter in harms way. Her father and his family never wanted her, you did. So let his family go and allow her to feel blessed by your love. To call him out in public was wrong. Better late than never and I doubt that academics has anything to do with it. You slept with a looser but place all the blame on him, encouraging your daughter to do the same.
Our shame is ours and it takes 2 to create a child. My ex is no walk in the park but if any of our 4 children did that to him I would be ashamed not proud. I chose to create them with him. What they say about him reflects on me as well. They are all on honor rolls but that is their doing, not mine or his. They are not bitter, they respect others and for that I take pride in. I did not teach them anger or bitterness for something I chose to do.
JMO.
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captainromance
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Nov 8 @ 10:04AM
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very good blog but you know sometimes it isn't that "daddy threw the child aside" it's as i sat down and told my own daughter who asked me "why were you not in my life for the last 10 years? why am i 10 years old and we are just now meeting" "i spent 10 years searching for you, princess i was not around but it was not because i didn't want to be it was because i was not ALLOWED to be" any guy can become a father but only a real man can ever hope to be a dad" i became a father on august 31 1999 but i've spent the past 4 days begging the child for the right to be a dad.... good blog though very touching for me...
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kywonder
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Nov 8 @ 10:17AM
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I wonder why you would place your daughter in harms way. Her father and his family never wanted her, you did. So let his family go and allow her to feel blessed by your love. To call him out in public was wrong. Better late than never and I doubt that academics has anything to do with it. You slept with a looser but place all the blame on him, encouraging your daughter to do the same.
Our shame is ours and it takes 2 to create a child. My ex is no walk in the park but if any of our 4 children did that to him I would be ashamed not proud. I chose to create them with him. What they say about him reflects on me as well. They are all on honor rolls but that is their doing, not mine or his. They are not bitter, they respect others and for that I take pride in. I did not teach them anger or bitterness for something I chose to do
Just so no one else misunderstands, this poem was not about my ex husband or the father of my daughter. He was, has always been, and will ever be there for my daughter should she need him. His family was always a part of her life and she has wonderful memories as do I of the lovely times we spent with them. I was married to him for almost 25 years. I don't appreciate the attack, even though I stated in the blog that I got the inspiration from a poem on another site. I guess the poem was read and the prelude to the poem was not. I am not throwing digs at fathers/mothers who wanted to be a part of their child's life, but never got the chance, for whatever reason. I was just responding to someone who had written a poem asking her daddy why he chose to not be a part of her life.
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leprichaun_magic
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Nov 8 @ 4:16PM
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that is such a touching Poem -sherry ,, thanks for Sharing ...He doesnt know ..What he missed:)!
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Tiramisu4u
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Nov 9 @ 10:07AM
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Well...I read the prelude! 
The poem hit close to home for me...my dad disappeared for over 40 some years...letting my mom think he was dead....found him in AZ. He STILL doesn't want to see or talk to us...
BTW..my mom is one PO'd 80 year old lady!!! 
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