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  SimplyImp

One thing for sure on MD, no matter what you write about, someone is going to get their knickers in a twist over it. It doesn't matter whether it's an innocuous blog that doesn't have anything to do with anyone else here, someone will find something to attack the author.

Years ago, I used to write about my spiritual journey and how I found my own belief system. A religious person who would preach her religion on this site took exception to it, and did everything in her power to force me to stop writing. She didn't get that it was my journey, and that my writing was my way of working through things. Notes to self, in essence. She just couldn't see that my journey was no different than hers, it was just a different belief system. She got booted for her behaviour. She isn't/wasn't a bad person, she was fervent in her beliefs and couldn't accept that other's were as committed to their own.

I have no problem with what people choose to believe spiritually. If religion brings them comfort and happiness, and makes them want to be a better person, that's great. Spirituality isn't a contest of who's belief system is better or who's more advanced on a spirituality scale. We're all here trying to make the most of our lives in the best way we can.

One quote I particularly like is the following: 'Your beliefs don't make you a better person, your behaviour does'. In other words, what you believe doesn't make you a better person, how you behave shows who you are, regardless of your 'beliefs'.

Life goes on, and comfortable in my belief system, my writing changed and became about whatever was going on in my life. Sometimes it was the drama du jour, sometimes it was moving. In fact, the past four years, probably a lot of it has been about moving. lol.

And yes, occasionally I'd write about an observation of the behaviour that goes on here. Of course, the drama that ensued was laughable in a bizarre kind of way.

As time has gone on, I'm comfortable and happy in my life and pursuits and that's what I write about. My life. My experiences. My perspective. Little did I know, that my opinions held so much power here. I have to admit to being blind-sided by a personal attack of an opinion that I held about truckers and my daughter's trucking career.

I had no idea that my opinions were so important that a trucker would take offence at it to the point of attacking me. My mistake was in trying to defend myself. That's exactly what they wanted, to put me on the defensive because they didn't like my opinions. Lesson learned. Now, I don't care who writes what about me - I'm entitled to my opinions, and I'll write about them if and when I choose. Someone else's opinion is totally irrelevant in my life and how I conduct it.

Was the attack unwarranted? You bet. Did they apologize? Of course not! Their entire purpose was achieved. Why did they feel a need to do this over blogs about MY life? Because of that green-eyed monster called jealousy. I'd moved into my new home and was happier than a clam about it.

Because I'd reacted once, the snide drive-by remarks and attacks continued until I wrote my own attack blog. They didn't like that so much. Gee, I wonder why not? Now, they are on the 'don't bother reading' list. As soon as I see their name, I don't open the blog, or read any of their comments because I simply don't care.

So I continue to write about my life. My solo sojourns into nature with my camera, trying to improve my skill with it. The wonderful things that nature has revealed to me, things I've never seen before in their natural habitat. It absolutely delights me to watch animals in nature . And to capture it in a photo is even better!

Despite minding my own business, and not caring who's on the hate du jour list, apparently my blogs are still on the controversial list, proving that no matter what, someone will find something to find fault with, if that's their agenda.

Why? I can only presume that they have absolutely nothing else in their lives to write about, or their own experiences, so they attack others. Why? Because they either need to create drama in order to feel some kind of power in their lives, or they need the drama to give them some form of excitement.

Either way, it's the drama and a reaction they want. Do I care? Nope. If my life and what I write about is the highlight and only interest of their day, then go for it. As I mentioned previously in this blog, I had no idea my opinions and my life held so much power in someone else's life that they had to try to drag me into their sh*tty perspective.

MD blogland - where it's absolutely 100% certain that regardless of what you write about, someone will take offence to it and decide that you're the victim of the day. Not only will they write about you, they will endeavour to make people take sides and draw them into their drama. Human nature being what it is, most people oblige and are more than willing to gang up and throw stones, despite their own glass houses.

I guess no one told MD members that they didn't have to read blogs of people they don't like. Or that they could read a blog, dislike it and/or the author and simply move on without making any comment. Ah, but then, where would the drama be? The entire purpose is to get attention and a reaction, because without that, they have no power at all.

I'll continue to hold my own beliefs, continue to post what they are, regardless of the childish behaviour that abounds in MD Nurseryland. And I'll continue not to care what other's problems are with what I write.

Seeing other's happy and content is a real bitch, isn't it?




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Comments:
a_simple_man

Mar 11 @ 11:51AM  
your blog.....your rules....~kudos~....

starzatnight

Mar 11 @ 11:58AM  
Thanks so much for adding a bit of normalcy to this place!
Always a delight to read what happy people do.

Please continue to share your adventures, it may be the
only time the sick ones get a bit of refreshing image while waiting
for the doctor.

NOW, WOULD SOMEONE PLEASE SEND IN THE DOCTOR!

a_simple_man

Mar 11 @ 12:20PM  
I will say I missed the part in your blog...where others ( like northern) are still telling you who to shun.. only because they feel threatened by people like little old me....


( and moistly because they want you all for themselves..)


SimplyImp

Mar 11 @ 12:23PM  
^^I'm not being dragged into anyone's vendettas. I like Northern, and I like you. Whatever is between the two of you has nothing to do with me.

a_simple_man

Mar 11 @ 12:26PM  
~kudos~....well said....

a_simple_man

Mar 11 @ 12:27PM  
northern233

29 mins ago

Thanks Imp, let us enjoy writing what we want and let us merely laugh at the Lawmen, Crowshits and Melvins on this site.
SimplyImp

Mar 11 @ 12:33PM  
^^And? Did I respond? And aren't you doing the same thing by posting that, trying to make me choose sides?

There are no sides. I like both of you in different ways and for different reasons. Whatever goes on between the two of you is between the two of you. I'm not the referee, nor will I be put in a position of choosing one or the other.

You both have some great qualities. I can't make either of you see them in each other, but I can, and that's what I focus on.

northern233

Mar 11 @ 12:35PM  
Imp I am trying to turn a page as it were. But to your topic. It does seem that every time I try to write an innocent blog there are at least 3 critics who will mock and disparage everything I write. It's as if they examine every little word/fact like an attorney. Do you know how irritating that is?

How am I supposed to rise above the stench when it is so all powerful? They say that I am an aggressive troll, but when I try to write about anything other than them they attack. So damned if I do, damned if I don't.

Oh, they won't control me....nope. Ya nursery........kudo.
a_simple_man

Mar 11 @ 12:40PM  
nope we have been around this block before....and like before... I just

and poke away at the other guy's stupidity.....

he is dumb in thinking that if he keeps his garbage off your blogs you will exonerate his trying to control you....

it's in black and white.... he wants to control you..( and after all is said and done..... all I have written here is germane to your blog.... I just took it to a non nurseryland personal level... )


northern233

Mar 11 @ 12:43PM  
Imp you will end up having to block this troll as everyone else has. He will take over your blogs and turn them into..... I suggest deletion of both our posts...up to you of course.
ttomtarr

Mar 11 @ 12:43PM  
At one point I made a list of the people to whom I wrote my blogs, the people who leave polite comments and who appear to think of the ideas I pit forth. The list had become so short that was easier to call those people on the phone, and just talk to them.

Originally, I came to MD to get feedback on my writing, back when over 1,000 people online was the norm. As my critical audience shrunk, my blogs slowed down. When I made the list, they stopped, other than to stir the pot a bit. I now post writing on other sites.

At my age, my thoughts are pretty well advanced on most subjects, so I don't have the need for self analysis. There is not much motivation left for me to post on MD.
SimplyImp

Mar 11 @ 12:50PM  
Northern - Yup, I certainly do. That's why I don't bother reading what they write. They don't have anything else to write about, and they know they'll get a reaction from you. It gives them a sense of control and power to see you retaliate, knowing that you will.

That's why I don't read certain people. I know they'll have nothing of importance to say to or about me, so why would I give them any satisfaction? My name isn't Rosie Palm and if they need someone to harass and react in order to get their jollies, they'll find a limp response from me.

You can't start a new chapter, when you keep re-reading the old one. And why do you care what anyone else thinks about what you write about? You know what your life is. Why does their opinion make any difference?

Personally, I love your blogs about your life. If others don't, that's their problem.
SimplyImp

Mar 11 @ 12:55PM  
asm -
it's in black and white.... he wants to control you.

I don't see it that way and I'm sorry you do. I still like both of you, regardless of what you think of each other. No one controls what I do or who I like or dislike.

SimplyImp

Mar 11 @ 12:56PM  
When I made the list, they stopped, other than to stir the pot a bit.

And they say women are drama queens! At least you admit your motivations.



a_simple_man

Mar 11 @ 1:03PM  
IMP STATED:

No one controls what I do or who I like or dislike.
~kudos~


just look back on the comments.....how many times has northern suggested that you block me?? (Or delete my comments)

and have I EVER asked you to block him?? ( or delete his comments??)





SimplyImp

Mar 11 @ 1:17PM  
asm - *sigh* - does it matter? Like I said, I'm not the referee, I'm not controlled by anyone, and I still like both of you. I feel like I'm the Mom right now, and you're both tattling on each other, pointing fingers. See? See what he did?

You're both entitled to your opinions of each other and I'm entitled to my opinion of each of you. I'm sure northern was just trying to 'protect' me, as is his nature, but in a different way than your nature is to protect.

Nothing either of you says about the other is going to make me change my mind about you two. You both have great qualities that I really like. I know you don't see them in each other, and you don't have to. I see them, and that's all that matters to me.

a_simple_man

Mar 11 @ 1:30PM  
~kudos~.......again.....


Fayvorite

Mar 11 @ 3:01PM  
Well said Imp to both Northern and ASM. That's how I feel exact with them and the rest of the crowd.

Your beliefs don't make you a better person, your behaviour does'
I had not heard it put that way in a long time but this is what I am a firm believer in.

When I see the titles, or even in the posts, it sounds just like kids tattling. You can't help but chuckle.

SimplyImp

Mar 11 @ 3:23PM  
Thanks, Fay.

When I see the titles, or even in the posts, it sounds just like kids tattling. You can't help but chuckle.

I know!

When I see the petty comments I always think of Eleanor Roosevelt's quote:

Great minds discuss ideas;
Average minds discuss events;
Small minds discuss people.

jimnastics1

Mar 11 @ 4:36PM  

How dare you !! Really, how dare you......speak the truth.


Now, they are on the 'don't bother reading' list. As soon as I see their name, I don't open the blog, or read any of their comments because I simply don't care.



That is exactly the way idiot trolls should be dealt with.
If only everyone realized that the fighting back & forth only feeds their egos.
Let them wither & die from lack of attention from everyone, but their sock puppets.
They can then move on to infect some other site, where other fools will fight with them.

They are not worth my attention, nor time.
Both a valuable to me.
People who lie about others have lost every bit of respect that other people deserve.



SimplyImp

Mar 11 @ 4:42PM  
How dare you !! Really, how dare you......speak the truth.

I dunno, unbelievable isn't it? But I dared, so there!

They are not worth my attention, nor time.
Both a valuable to me.
People who lie about others have lost every bit of respect that other people deserve.

I completely concur! Lie and/or make fun of someone else (bully) - both I find despicable and have no respect nor time for it or them.



jimnastics1

Mar 11 @ 5:06PM  
Whoops I meant ....both are valuable........ not ....both a valuable...
Fayvorite

Mar 12 @ 8:22AM  
I thought your blog would make an impact on some.

I can almost understand a very young person getting sucked into the behavior of name or blog calling but the old farts? A young person doesn't have the wisdom to ignore. A matured person should but not on MD.

Especially the one who has to name names on other people's blogs (like yours) and it has nothing to do with your blog but they have to take the opportunity to knock another blogger just because they have issues with EACH other. They are both so emotionally immature. What they don't realize is that the rest of us don't want to see their stinky negative opinions of who they hate.
SimplyImp

Mar 12 @ 12:14PM  
I thought your blog would make an impact on some.

I didn't.

What they don't realize is that the rest of us don't want to see their stinky negative opinions of who they hate.

Yup.

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