To what are we entitled on a dating site? And what do we deserve.
entitle - to furnish with proper grounds for seeking or claiming something
deserve - to be worthy, fit, or suitable for some reward or requital
I like reading the fora on this site. So many opinions, by such a wide range of posters each one having a unique set of experiences. There is a saying I like. Experience is the best school and fools will learn in no other. When I think of the sayng, I like to try practicing the wisdom of learning from the the experiences of others. The fora give me plenty to assimilate and ponder. The thread that has me thinking this morning is hypothetical.
There is some discussion in the thread (some of it mine) about whether a relationship with a large age difference works. My contention is that a relationship does not work, people work to make a relationship, and that an exceptional relationship requires exceptional people who have found one another and choose to work creatively. Others feel that a relationship should come naturally and that if you have to work at a relationship or be creative, that the relationship is not worth pursuing.
In taking NLP classes many years ago, I learned to separate who I am from what I do and what I get. Who I am will generally determine what I do and what I do wil generally determine what I get. In some rare circumstances, I get for who I am, without doing, but that is rare. If I am the queen of England, by virtue of who I am, I get to wear the crown jewels. That's entitlement.
Most of us in this life have to do to get. If I want to wear jewels, there are many ways I might go about getting them. I might work for wages, put aside funds and save and purchase them for myself. I could perhaps perform services for which I am jeweled. I might promise marriage and have a diamond on the third finger of my left hand. I can be sweet, loving and kind to some elderly person who leaves me jewelry in her will or I might give my friend jewelry on her birthday and hint about what I would like for my birthday. In any case, I am either contracting with someone for what I want to get, or I am ingratiating myself in hopes of receiving. A contract would generally confer entitlement; giving of myself may make me deserving, but does not mean I am entitled.
So, limiting my thoughts to what is exchanged between members on this site, to what are we entitiled, what do we deserve, and what should we just receive in gratitude?
more in a bit
Copy & paste to friend: (Click inside box; Ctrl + C to copy; Ctrl + V to paste)
|
|
read more blogs!
Blogs by lacyvsq:
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
| I am entitled; I deserve; I am grateful. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|