Making Love? Sex? Quckies? or is it all a Fraud? posted 12/9/2006 4:13:11 PM | 9 kudos what's this?     report abuse tagged: making love, sex, quickies, fraud, relationships

john4219

Making Love - Commitment, Marriage, etc. these words seem to have gone by the way side lately - in fact they may be naughty words now?

Personally - I am in this for for lifetime stands - not one night stands and - I perfer Making Love - over all the other - but before I get flamed - I agree that couples have sex as a form of adult play time, and that there is room for quickies too. But all three acts must be within a safe, secure, and healthy relationship where there is an understanding between each other so that there is no room for mis-understanding. Afterall- this is the most intimate of acts that a couple can have.

However to me - Making love I would hope is much more - It is a call to the other's voice mail just to say "I love you", sitting next to each other in church, riding down the road next to each other having supper together, snuggling on the couch without a word spoken, holding hands on a walk along the harbor's edge in the moonlight, or tucking the kids in bed at night together. Those things when later in the week are followed up with a nice quiet supper, just the two of us, and then a
nice a nice HOT shower together, and retire for the evening - and allowing what happens next to come naturally - and waking in the morning rested and in each others arms - to me that is Making Love.

However, I have come to learn that is nothing short of a dream - and for so many others too. The men seem to think that we can ask a woman out and spend a wad on her and she is suppose to put out at the end of the evening. Or the women, think that the guy is some Ken doll, that is suppose to be used and abused, and then if he was not good enough to cry rape and have his butt put in prison so some other poor girl don't get his poor performance. It is so messed up - then with HIV, STD's and the fact that everyone seems to sleep with everyone these days - you don't know! No one seems to stay with anyone a lifetime anymore - the divorce rate is so high, and the un-shack rate is very high (those not divorcing because they never married). Fathers are nothing but visitors and paychecks and wasted ken dolls, and woman DHR, Welfare dwelling, working mom's - that leave their children for the daycares and schools to raise, and sleep with anything that walks past them. Yes, in farness, men that do not pay their child support, skirt DNA tests, and take on other women while still married, and so on - both sexes are equally to blame - my point is we have things so messed up these days, the children are the ones that have and are so hurt by our screw ups.

I think we think that sex is sex and we do it to do it and that is it - I hope I am very - very wrong!

Personally - I would love to find a lifetime partner - that loved variety, after all if I wanted to be a missionary I'd go to Africa if you get my drift? No, I don't get into S&M and sharing each other with others, etc. I am not talking about those extremes either - just a safe, healthly and loving caring, relationship where in everything - I would hope we are Making Love to one another - and that when that wonderful time comes that it climax's.

Yes, - before I get flamed - I know when you enter this kind of relationship your body belongs to your partner - you may not always be in the mood but they are, and vice versus and at those times you are to submit - and hopefully realize that they love you - but they have their needs too. All of this can be worked out in a safe, healthy and mature, civil and loving, caring, growing manner if we let it - I just think we refuse to be Honest - open minded - and willing - just my two cents!

Last but not least - I have a higher power of my own understanding - I choose to call that power God, and I feel that this young lady is God's child and that in such an act that God is their too, and that this is a spiritual act. Afterall everything we do I believe is spiritual - including breathing, and that I need to respect this young lady as God's child - and that he gave us these God given talents to use responsibly and not to use wrongly - and that I have to factor that into this equation above - and do the next right thing - then I am being of maximum service to Him and my fellows, i.e. - this young lady - if I had one - and I am sure there is one out there - I just have to Let Go Let God and let my Higher Power put me on the right road - and she will join me on the Highway of Life at some point - after all aren't we all on a journey called - Life?

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