I just read a blog recently, which unfortunately was deleted, apparently due to dissenting opinions expressed in the comments. I do not know that is why it was deleted but that is how it appeared to me.
It was a fairly reasonable blog, all told. It expressed some viewpoints, at least taking with the comments, that:
1) If you think someone is insulting you or otherwise being rude then you certainly have the right to ignore them
2) If you are insulting someone else, then you certainly should forgive them for doing the same in retaliation.
I am writing this to plant one little seed in the mind of the generally reasonable:
Someimes it isn't what the person actually wrote that is the cause of the trouble - sometimes it is the way what was written is percieved beause of what the reader has heard or seen from others.
Maybe what you see as "off topic" is really an answer to several hurtful comments that were off topic to begin with. Maybe the only thing that made it "off topic" was that no one should have been posting comments like that about another person behind their back in the first place.
Maybe we all get a little "off topic" every now and again and the best solution is either to address it in a positive manner or to ignore it.
Maybe instead of condemning others for what you think they mean, you should think to yourself "How would I like to be treated." and then act accordngly. Because I bet, more often than not, you'd like people to believe you had a sense of humor, you were a nice person, and to read your blogs and posts in a tone of voice that reflects that.
And if they still saw it as insulting or what have you? Then you'd probably want them to ignore it or to ask you what's wrong. or to point out where it seems like you were being insulting and ask you about it, maybe.
So treat others the same as you would like to be treated, is my suggestion.
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