I will admit, right off the bat, that I am a lonely 51 year woman who would love to find someone special.
But I don't believe what I read in here. I think everyone takes a fantasy pill before they come into one of these sites. Least ways those that take these sites seriously do.
I mean all the guys want is young, slender, fit, nice figured women (whatever the man's age) instead of real women, who might have gained some weight (or even a lot of weight) over the years, with some good seasoning included.
Then, every guy I read about in here wants a woman who has no history or hangups or issues.
Sheesh! guys, why don't you take a reality pill. Be you male or female, if you are divorced or have had any experience with the opposite sex, and you are in here looking, you have a history, probably several hangups and definitely have issues.
People are people not puppets. Everyone, and I mean everyone has history, hangups and issues of one sort or another. No one is going to be perfect and no one shuts down their feelings about past hurts or disappointments just so they can meet someone new. You may hide for a while, but sooner or later the real you will come out and that someone you think loves you will either reject you cause you are not what they expected and hoped...... or they will be real and accept you just the way you are and expect the same of you.
Why don't you just be honest and say you just want someone to love you and who gives a d%!!#!@ what they look like or what hangups they have. Part of getting to know someone and falling in love (i think) is learning and accepting no matter what.
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warmc
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Mar 3 @ 10:50AM
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WELL WRITEN   
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IrisRain
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Mar 3 @ 11:04AM
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Well, some people have evidently lost their own mirrors and are mistaken that they are perfect. I'm glad to see that up front and not wait til they take off their nice, get- to- know- you suit!
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JATC
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Mar 3 @ 11:07AM
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Amen! Well Said! And that goes for both gender! I am female, not perfect, and never will be! But I am honest, kind, sweet, along with all the other falling assets that come with wisdom. I have earned every one of them...I may be taking antibotics, and just got my prescription for Chantrix. But I am full of reality pills, filled to the brim...that will last me for some time to come. 
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edthepoet
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Mar 3 @ 11:18AM
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Hi, now to be fair, look at most women profile and you see they want a tall, attractive intelligent man with a great sense of humor who loves to walk the beaches and who is very romantic, plus live within 50 miles of them,lol
Now if you look at what I wrote about my idea person, I wrote no preset idea, I want life to surprise me.
This doesn't make any man or woman wrong for posting what they desire, its just thier way of narrowing down the field tp reduce the amount of men e-mails them that are exactly thier types, yet it still doesn't work,lol They still get insane e-mails.
If you carry this neg energy, you will only receive neg back.
I wish you the best of luck.
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aFriendlyBlogger
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Mar 3 @ 11:30AM
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If you read my profile ... I am as REAL as I can ever be ! 
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misschoos
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Mar 3 @ 11:43AM
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I haven't got any hang ups 
Someone wrote to me the other day to tell me that
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new2ma
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Mar 3 @ 12:06PM
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In all fairness,men are far more peticular about looks than women. If they would only understand that those women in victoria secret ads ,the Paris Hiltons and the porn stars, would NEVER in a million years give them the time of day. This is the number one reason why there are alot of middle aged single men. They are alone now and always will be as long as they seek perfection. Most people male and female loose any perfection they may have had by the age of 25.
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sharlott
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Mar 3 @ 12:41PM
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I am looking for a partner that can offer me the same as what I have to offer, spiritually, mentally, and physically.
I have had alot of men try to contact me that really need to take the
reality pill that you have mentioned.
Let's use this scenerio, using me as an example. . . .
IF I had been married and had a child or children, I am not going to be looking at guys that are 10 or more years younger than I, that haven't ever been married and/or never had children. Generally speaking, guys aren't going to be looking for a woman that has already had that experience, they will more likely be looking for a girl they can experience that together for the 1st time.
IF I hadn't taken care of myself healthwise and physically throughout my life, I'm not going to be looking at guys that are health conscience and physically fit. That is absurd. A guy that works out and has a good body and takes care of his health isn't going to be interested in a woman that isn't healthy.
It irks me that men that obviously don't take care of themselves and/or don't work a steady job  and/or have some serious problems and hangups try to write me, and when I don't respond I get emails telling me that there is something wrong with me because I don't want to let them into my life.They can't figure out why  I won't give them a chance.
I am not conceeded, I don't think that I am better than anybody. I have made mistakes, and I have some of my own situations that I have had to work through.
But it would be ridiculous for me to try to contact a guy that is 10 or more years younger than I, and not lived and experienced adult situations simular to mine or equally as experienced and expect him to understand me and be able to make a life together. In general, it isn't feasible.
I know there are exceptions, but that is the way I feel as it pertains to my life.
Your blog.
Good blog.
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IndigoRose
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Mar 3 @ 12:45PM
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I agree with all except most of it
I gotta have a good looking man...good looking to ME...I might wake up with them someday!
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StarDrifter
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Mar 3 @ 12:59PM
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if all you are looking for is good looks, then you are never going to really be happy good looks fade
what are you going to do 40 years from now when you turn over in bed to look at the same 'good looking' guy you married and suddenly you realize he's wrinklely and gray/white hair or bald now, he's got an old age ponch and his legs are bony and thin and he's got an age wart on his cheek? Do you still love him? What about if you age and get wrinkled also, hair gray and dry and a bit stringy and your eye color has faded with age and you have that old age ponch and skinny thin legs or you've gained several lbs. Is he supposed to still love you? As I said, good looks fade, love last forever, whether you married a good looking man or a average looking man or just a nice man with no good looks. love, true love, overlooks these things. again, take a reality pill.
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IndigoRose
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Mar 3 @ 1:09PM
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Good looking men just fade a little slower 
I know what your saying I'm just teasing you!..Nice guys have the same complaints plus add gold diggers and she wants a bad guy that beats her to the list. It would be interesting if people could choose mates by their inner beauty but I don't see it happening to me until I get past this menopause thing I'm tying to get going.
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JeansToTight
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Mar 3 @ 1:38PM
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I haven't got any hang ups
you sure ,,,your two eggs today?????? 
only joking here ,,,,,,some on here are game players and some are really looking for love ,,,,,,,its just like life ,,,some days you feel like a nut,,,other days you are the nut ......just me talking here
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Alana595
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Mar 5 @ 9:15AM
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You are discovering what sociological studies have already shown. The majority of single men over 55 don't want a loving normal relationship with a woman their own age, or any age for that matter. They want a fantasy relationship with a fantasy young girl. They post on these websites hoping to find phone sex with a sweet young thing or hoping a young perfect 10 will drop out of the sky onto their couch and service them with no strings attached. But of course young good looking women don't want anything to do with these old men. A lot of these men are missing the brain cells to even know what love is.
I would advise mature women to look for fullfillment elsewhere, in physical development, spiritual development, educational development, financial development, and younger men if one can be found. Statistics show there are not enough good young men to go around.
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