Or do others think that Married women/men that frequent a dating site is just a disaster waiting to happen?
It's fine to want to find friends and such, but there are thousands of other sites out there that cover pretty much any topic under the sun - that aren't dating sites!
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BrendaNoklahoma
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Mar 9 @ 4:34PM
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You are forgetting that MD is also a site for making friends. Check out the description. Besides, someone that will stray, doesnt need MD to do it. lol. 
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SunBabe
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Mar 9 @ 4:34PM
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All the married/"in relationship" men and women that I know who are here are QUITE secure in their relationships. What's the problem? Are married people supposed to curl up and crawl into a hole with others of "their kind"?
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bobbyngeorgia
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Mar 9 @ 4:36PM
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nope, it's not just you..i do think it just a disaster waiting to happen...also, I would drop a lady real quick that stayed on a dating sight...my 2 cents worth
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helen77
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Mar 9 @ 4:46PM
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my sis joined as a way to make friends ..........she just had twins and is stuck home alot.............. and thought that this would be a good way to get advice from some of the great people on here as well as the insightful and funny blogs they post since i have been a long time member she felt safe.................... and it is something else for us to talk about to each other as for other places i actually don't know any other than myspace ............and we thought this would be a great way to have more in common..........as for the idea that this is a site ONLY for dating you need to learn how to read at
the top of the page Matchdoctor free community for singles and friends   get over it
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blkfoot1954
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Mar 9 @ 4:59PM
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well since I met my man here and we have friends here..this is where we stay to chat and blog and stay in touch with who we have met..I happen to like MD and Have been on this site for 5 years..The title of match doctor is Friends and Singles. It is only a disaster if you allow it to be.If you don't have the trust in your partner,then maybe you should start looking again.Sorry just my little ol opinion.
have a good day
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missliss78
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Mar 9 @ 5:04PM
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LTR, i have a 2 part answer to this question.
i've been on this site quite a while & was on another singles site prior to this. over the years, i've made friends with lots of people who have gotten married or into otherwise committed relationships. many of these people have moved on & left the site. others of them remain on the site...they use the blogs, forums & many of them chat & personally i have no problem with that. i continue to enjoy sharing my friendship with these people..their relationship status has no bearing on our friendship. if you will note, matchdoctor's tag line is "free community for singles and friends." that encompasses a wide array of people.
the one's i do have a problem with are the ones who come on the site behind their significant others' backs...the ones looking to have the illicit affairs, etc. i have no respect for them here or in my "real" world.
please rethink your position on this issue & don't jump to conclusions with all people. it generally becomes quite evident which catagory a person falls in...
just my thought on the subject.........
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leggieflorida_blonde
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Mar 9 @ 5:07PM
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my ex boyfriend of 2 yrs(notice i said ex)was on date sites looking for "friends"ended up leaving me foe his new "friend" in another state and site unseen...so i dont believe it is appropiate for people in a commited rerlationship to be on date sites...there is a time to be here and a time to leave...there not here for friendship....
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SuzyQs
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Mar 9 @ 5:10PM
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I dont understand it either... If your not happy with your spouse then get divorced, Plain and simple. Its sooooo disrespectful to the other person. I would hate to think of the pain one would feel to find out that My husband has a profile on a dating site.... Gesh, thats pretty low. Its sad to think how many actually do it though. I could not, Nor would not... I think its discusting. No matter what the reasoning behind it is. 
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Monsterboy
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Mar 9 @ 5:34PM
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Well, I know a few, married or in a relationship -- in some cases, both partners on here -- that have been here quite awhile and don't seem to have had any issues.
My only question is how someone can be involved with this place and still have time for a relationship...
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maggiemae684
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Mar 9 @ 6:57PM
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what part of "matchdoctor free community for singles and friends" do you not quite comprehend....... .......or are married/in a relationship people not allowed to have or make new friends...... 
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LTRwantedinpa31
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Mar 9 @ 9:46PM
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First of all, thanks for all the feedback.
For those who mentioned "Can't married people have friends" or whatnot, of course I don't think that. Why are you so defensive about the issue?
Another point that was brought up was the fact that people could have no intentions of finding someone else to cheat with, but it does happen. A lot. Why stay on a site that is primarily for dating (note above figure) if you've already found the love of your life?
Sure, you can stay for the convenience, but why stay on a dating site? There's thousands of other sites that you can use to blog/chat for free.
And yes, I can read. You're the one that needs to "get over it". Why in the world does this issue bother you so much? RELAX! 
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LTRwantedinpa31
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Mar 9 @ 9:49PM
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One more thing. I'm sure the "and friends" doesn't mean "friends" in the literal sense. Notice where you click to see who's online. You'll see that it says "singles online". 
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Soulus
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Mar 9 @ 9:52PM
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You don't join or keep an account on a predominently "date" website to make 'friends' or just chat with 'friends'. You find a local group you join a yahoo meet up group you look for other couples in the area with simliar interests you network through work you take up a new hobby, but you do not use an internet dating site to make new friends.
This exact scenario happened to me this week. I found someone here I had a date with a few years back. His profile says "single" but he's looking for 'friends'. I asked him why he is here. I got a very long answer about thrill of the hunt and loves his wife dearly and thinks she's a gift from god yadda yadda .. and at the end of the day folks, he's still here.
He's handsome, well travelled, and has friends. But...he's here. I couldn't answer his email. I had nothing good to say [and if you're reading this dont send me hate mail lol I dont care what you do with your time J].
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RomanticLibra106
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Mar 9 @ 9:59PM
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I agree with you 100% - these married people do NOT belong on a dating service.
Anyone who says they're married and 'just looking for friends' is either deluding themselves or they're lying. They can make friends in the supermarket - at church - at their child's school - they don't need to be on here with single people.
I would say most married people on here are unhappily married and looking for some extramarital action. Some admit it and some do not. To the ones who admit it, at least us single people will know what we're getting into up front so then it's up to us. Personally I wouldn't go NEAR a married man, but that's just me. To each their own.
If you go out with a married person, you can expect many lonely nights when they aren't free; you can expect holidays alone and down the line you can expect heartbreak. Seldom do they leave their spouses for their fling. And if they do, you can never trust them - they cheated on their spouse with you, don't think they won't cheat on you.
Then of course there is always the chance they will get caught with you and if the spouse has a vicious temper in a fit of anger he or she could maim or kill you.
If you ask me it's a lose-lose situation and you're much better off avoiding it altogether.
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sciurusniger
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Mar 9 @ 10:51PM
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You don't join or keep an account on a predominently "date" website...you look for other couples in the area with simliar interests you network through work you take up a new hobby Oh. So once you have a partner, you are not allowed to have friends who are single?
What if you meet in a bar in which mostly singles hang out? You then shouldn't go to that bar any more because you have a partner? Even though your single friends all still go there?
Do you exclude your siblings from family gatherings once they get married? Or is it the single ones who aren't really welcome because they're single?
Sounds really stupid, doesn't it?
Those who meet here and have friends here and stay here for that reason aren't doing anything wrong. Honest ones have their profile marked as "in a relationship" so use your search filter to screen them out if the "FRIENDS" part of the site bothers you so much.
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gray_cat
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Mar 10 @ 12:17AM
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For crying out loud, hasn't there been enough bitching about people who are married/in relationships being on this site. Grow up everyone who doesn't think they should be! Why the hell not! They (in the main) are not here trolling for someone to meet on the side, they are here to meet up with other friends, to join in the Forums, entertain us with a Blog or even to chat. They are not doing any harm to anyone else, the only ones who feel harmed are those too bloody insecure in themselves to handle the competition (as they seem to see it)! If you're only interested in dating ,and don't want friends, then find a purely dating site where friends aren't welcome! Me, I'm single but I'll take this site over any other site because of the FRIENDS!
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