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  Alana595

The thing women need to understand is that man's desire for a relationship with a woman is primarily visual and sexual. When he is young, it doesn't take much visual to stimulate the sexual. But when he gets old and past his sexual peak, it takes more and better visuals to stimulate the sexual. Therefore, he looks at more and younger women in his desire to stimulate his waning sexuality. It doesn't matter that these young women are not interested in him. He is probably not interested in them either except for sexual stimulation.

He does not have the same desire for companionship in his old age that women have, nor does he have the same well balanced view of companionship. Mature women enjoy a wide variety of activities they would like to share with a mate including homemaking, travel, physical fitness activities, entertainment, intellectual pursuits, and family gatherings.

Older single men are not interested in a female companion for these things. They had rather play golf with other men or have hobbies with other men. They get all the intellectual companionship they want there. Certainly if a man is still with his wife and family into old age, he will still cooperate in doing things with his wife and family. But if a man finds himself old and single, he is not looking to form a close relationship with a female, unless it is a young fabulous super model. But of course the young fabulous super models are not interested in an old man - unless he is worth a billion dollars, and some not even then. I do not see this trend changing, so mature women would do well not to agonize over their failure to attract these old men or form relationships with them. They would do well to find other meaningful relationships and activities. There may be some extremely rare exceptions to this, but the majority of women are going to have to deal with the averages. There are not enough exceptions to go around.

It is not possible to understand a man's desires by comparing them with our own desires under similar circumstances. Men have a completely different brain structure. Man is best understood by a comprehensive study of recent advances in brain science that show the striking differences in male and female brains and how this affects behavior.

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Comments:
artman_kp

Apr 3 @ 9:35AM  
Your assessments are so general ....I totally disagree. there are exceptions to everyrule just as in spelling! there are very few absolutes. I am highly attracted to women my age , but I started having my kids at 28 and have a 3 year old now at 41. I have 3 wonderful kids and yes They live with me more than 1/2 the time. Most women my age have kids out of the nest and I have read profile after profile of looking forward to travel and ......(ie: no kids) I will be in the fathering business for sometime to come not new ones but raising the ones I have, I am not looking for a mother for children they have one of those, but I do have to have a spouse who will love my children for who they are ...my children. So I am placed in a quandry...very few women are looking for kids past 40! They have reached the age thye want to have a life again explore and have fun again. So I am open to the age of a woman that can relate to my children that may have children the same age ...its just the same stage in life we share and it has nothing to do with attraction at this point....so what is "attractive" is by far not the woman's body , but her stage in life which is mnore compatible to my own.
edthepoet

Apr 3 @ 10:27AM  
Of course both men and women are attracted to younger people, because they are usually more attractive. Now, if you think, that sex is the only requirement men want your so far wrong. Remember, 95 % of the time, people aren't having sex, so you better truly enjoy that 95% a lot. If it was just about sex and visual, strip clubs and hookers would fulfilled that need.

I can tell from experience on here and in real life, women are afraid of being sexual and telling what they would want to do with me,lol So don't think it's only men thinking this way. Could, I play on women feeling, yes if I wanted to be an asshole, but I don't because it simply wrong to do so.

To me, it all about how we connect on so many awesome levels, not just sexually.

One of the problem women on dating sites and some men, they look way to far in the future, they go on a date and they all in love and dare to bring up marriage talk, sometimes long before they ever met the guy, that's insane. Any woman who go there with me, I say, don't you think you worry about if there's gonna be a second date first.

I treat women like gold,on here and in real life and I am a die hard romantic. However, common sense has to come into play.

I never think I am anything special, For I am just Ed 24/7

Nothing is real, until you meet someone and that is now the true beinging point.



sarina543

Apr 3 @ 10:27AM  
I have to agree with the original blog. My father is 65, he wants a 20 something girlfriend to have around to be his companion, when he wants a companion. And it is my experience that most men my own age don't want a woman around with a 6 year old kid. I waited to have kids until I thought I could handle them, they are 16 and 6 now. Yes, both by the same man. Most men my age don't look at what I have to offer as a woman, as a person. They see an aging single mother, that will not walk away from her kids for the attention of a man. Also, the fact that my younger son is so young also is a turn off for most men because he requires so much of my time that he is actually a bother to them.

Well, I don't know what to tell these older men, I guess it is just too bad for them that they have damneed themselves to a future of lonliness and sexlessness, because they are shallow. And in addition, if they happen to come up on a young woman, that seems interested, take my word for it, it has nothing to do with attraction. It is the bottom line, what can you give her, what can you offer her. This much I know I was once one of those girls. I know there are exceptions to this, don't anybody get offended, not every 20 something woman is a gold digger, I know this. I am just generalizing.

Artman, you are the exception. And I am sure there are many more like you out there, I just have not found them yet.

LoveNature924

Apr 3 @ 10:29AM  
Would explain A L O T. Thank God there are still exceptions.
DiamondRain

Apr 3 @ 10:55AM  
Very good and fascinating post.

I think there is a little bit of bias born from bitterness in it, but not as much as one usually hears when an older woman writes on this subject. I commend you for trying to see past that. (One indication of that bitterness is your choice of the word "old" man rather than "oldER" man.)

In spite of that, I think there is a lot of correct insight in much of what you say.

Most importantly, you recognize that, although this may be the human nature "rule," there are exceptions and ranges. That makes your insights ring especially true.

The one area that I think you went a little too far in though is in making the case that older men are only interested in younger women for sexual pleasure and that younger women are only interested in older men for money. Although you indicate that there may be some relatively rare exceptions, you state it as a rule that, in my experience, is not nearly that clear.

I have had fulfilling and loving relationships with women 20 to 30 years younger than me that were not based purely on sexual or monetary considerations in any way.

Nor do I find a shortage of younger women who are interested in me for reasons other than money.

Because these have been my experiences, I do not believe that the things you say about money and sex being the overwhelming reason for attraction between older men and younger women to be quite as universal as you suggest.

Nonetheless, I think you have some accurate insights and good suggestions for older women.
RomanticLibra106

Apr 3 @ 11:02AM  
I don't agree with you either.

Sure there are older men out there who only want eye candy, but there are older women out there who also only want eye candy. Both want to feel young again.

I was just hit on very hard by a 78 year old man and I am 56. He is of NO interest to me because I wouldn't date a man 22 years older than myself. (He's almost my mother's age!) I don't need a father and I don't want one. He even told me over and over that at his age I didn't have to worry about him wanting sex - at least he said not more than once or twice a YEAR! He said he just wants a woman so he can take her to Bar Harbor and hold her hand. (Bar Harbor is a 3 hour drive one way from here and is a VERY romantic, quaint, gorgeous area known for its bed and breakfasts as well as Arcadia National Park - not a place ANY man would take a woman if he weren't romantically interested in her so what's up with that?!)

Once again I agree with Ed. It seems I agree with him most more than most men who answer these blogs. Why oh WHY aren't you in my area, Ed?!



I prefer men who are 45 to 56 and I find enough of them who want to date me and women my age, but most of them are creeps. Which brings up a more interesting question. Are all the good ones taken by the age of 45 for the most part and is that why most of us middle aged women on here complain about finding a good guy? God I hope not!

Alana595

Apr 3 @ 11:15AM  
Your assessments are so general ....I totally disagree. there are exceptions to everyrule just as in spelling! there are very few absolutes

I said in the third paragraph there are exceptions. However, the majority of people have to deal with the averages. There are not enough exceptions to go around.
Martin666

Apr 3 @ 11:23AM  
Do you have some kind of statistics or a study to support your observations?
Alana595

Apr 3 @ 11:26AM  
Well, I don't know what to tell these older men, I guess it is just too bad for them that they have damneed themselves to a future of lonliness and sexlessness, because they are shallow

Actually the male brain structure that precipitates this behavior was created before birth. I don't feel these old men are lonely. Shallow yes, due to their brain structure, but not lonely enough to seek out women their own age.
Alana595

Apr 3 @ 11:37AM  
Do you have some kind of statistics or a study to support your observations?

Yes, there are several sources of information on this. I happened upon this information accidently in the science library of a university in the form of a book called Brain Sex by Dr. Anne Moir and David Jessel. Despite its catchy title it is a scholarly work compiling findings from medical doctors who are brain specialists around the world.

You can also do your own research to confirm this by doing your own observation of men over 55. How many of them are dating women of any age? Note I said observation, not conversation with them. I think you will agree that men lie a lot when it comes to sex. So you have to look at their behavior, not their words.
DiamondRain

Apr 3 @ 11:45AM  
Unfortunately, your further comments are are revealing more bias than I initially thought Alana. My perception is that you are now suggesting that men's brain structures make them "shallow." That is an unnecessary qualitative judgment that reveals your bias. Up until you suggested that I was impressed.

If you say men's brains are wired to think in visual and sexual terms more than womens', then that, to me shows no bias (and I also agree). But to call that "shallow," does.

PS: If it is being suggested that you cannot have an opinion on this subject without there being some kind of studies to back it up, I think that is silly. A lifetime of observations entitles you to an opinion. Sometimes it has more validity than a thousand "studies."
Alana595

Apr 3 @ 12:03PM  
Unfortunately, your further comments are are revealing more bias than I initially thought Alana. My perception is that you are now suggesting that men's brain structures make them "shallow." That is an unnecessary qualitative judgment that reveals your bias

Think whatever you like about me. That is not important. The facts stand for themselves. Old men (or seniors if you prefer) are not out dating and forming relationships with women their age. Women in general perceive this as shallow.
I did not create either the behavior of senior men or women's perception of it.
WifeWanted

Apr 3 @ 12:06PM  
Wow I hope you dont really believe all of that "stuff" (being tactful). I would hate to think anyone man or woman would have such pain or be so jaded to actually believe that. Honestly i am not saying this is true in your case but it sounds like so many of the ridiculous things that the militant women's libbers used to say back in the 70's and 80's. While many of the studies that you are able to read these days are very interesting most of them are created with preconceived notions and the data adjusted to fit the authors desires....just look at the "stuff" out there on global warming these days.
keyaa

Apr 3 @ 12:17PM  
I like your blog. As as older woman I find older men (much older than me 60 +) email me more than younger men my age. While that is flattering I am thinking what is wrong here? When I check their profiles they are always looking for a women with a young bottom number and the cut off more near theirs...like 25 to 55. Or they do the 18-99 trick. Most women do not pick 18-99. Like woman their age are not their preference at all. It seems they don't want to take any chances that someone young might respond so they go as young as possible to keep open the possibility.

Woman do it too only they are more realistic with the younger age number. Whereas I know I would not look for a future with anyone younger than 38 and I doubt that I will marry that young of a man, I have interest to find out. IT is complete turn off to see a profile where a man or woman but mostly men won't even consider someone their age at all only younger. I think you are mostly right and I agree based on my experiences.
Alana595

Apr 3 @ 12:21PM  
many of the studies that you are able to read these days are very interesting most of them are created with preconceived notions and the data adjusted to fit the authors desires

You don't have to believe anybody's studies. Just look around you at the senior men in your own community.
keyaa

Apr 3 @ 12:31PM  
Do a search. I did both for a man and a woman. Looked at 65 year old men and womens age preferences. Women that age are looking for men nearer their age than men that age. What does that say? Older men prefer younger women.
WifeWanted

Apr 3 @ 12:31PM  
Actually that is where my judgment is coming from. My parents have been married 47 years and are still very loving and passionate and inseparable. The woman in my picture is my 85 year old grandmother who was inseparable from my grandfather until he died at 75. Since then she has gone on with her life and has many male suiters and all are very devoted to her....she is living large in her later years :) Yes some women are having problems attracting men, but often I think its more important to be introspective and find out why men are not attracted to you rather then read a study by a woman who spouts her own opinion as if it is science and founded in anything other then her own difficulties finding love and happiness. We have become a society that spends way to much time looking for someone or something to blame all of our problems on instead of taking responsibility for our own issues and dealing with them.
tommyboycsu

Apr 3 @ 12:35PM  
I think you overlook old single men that are desperate to pass on their name too. Passing on one's name to the next generation is a HUGE part of manhood so I don't think older men are not interested in relationships like you said...in fact I would say they are more into them than say someone my age.
Alana595

Apr 3 @ 12:49PM  
a study by a woman who spouts her own opinion as if it is science and founded in anything other then her own difficulties finding love and happiness.

The woman and her male co-author who wrote the book are both married, the book is a compilation of findings by mostly male professional physicians, and I myself am in a long term relationship. You seem to be the only one having difficulties finding love (or sex, if that is your definition of love)

As far as elderly married people, I mention in my blog that senior men who are still married do things together with their families.
WifeWanted

Apr 3 @ 12:58PM  
Taking things just a bit personal aren't you Alana? I know its hard to have someone disagree with your position but come on. You are the one that said we should make our own observations, I have seen many, many, many more elderly couples then I have old men with young women. Truth be told I have seen more older women with younger men....i.e my grandmother for one. If you you just want to judge on people profiles here, well yes some men are looking for younger women but I also see a lot of women's profiles that say they are looking for younger men. If thats the persons preference great more power to them, but so what? Does that mean the woman is shallow and needs a younger man to stimulate her waining sexuality?
WouldntItBeGr8To

Apr 3 @ 1:21PM  
holy cow?!?!?!?!
are you kidding me?
there are me like that, no doubt.
but i am not sure if there is even one thing in there that applies to ME.
i don't really have the time to go throught the entire thing but i am pretty sure you can me down as 'does not apply' to maybe everything in there. there are all kinds of men out here.
what you have written down in there is just what is wrong with womens perspective on where men are coming from. those are all the things that are wrong with most men in a womans eyes but but don't include us all.
let me review what you said and how it applies to me...
NOT
NOT
NOT
NOT
NOT...and on and on. ty for not including me in your list of men like that
WouldntItBeGr8To

Apr 3 @ 1:23PM  
there are me like that, no doubt.
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there are MEN like that, no doubt.
WifeWanted

Apr 3 @ 1:24PM  
By the way what you said was "he will still cooperate", implying that he will do it but only because its easier then not doing it or because his golf buddies are busy.

Doesn't the fact that you and the authors of the study are in committed relationships just go further to prove the fallacy? You did after all find the right person for you.
Alana595

Apr 3 @ 1:31PM  
Taking things just a bit personal aren't you Alana? I know its hard to have someone disagree with your position but come on. You are the one that said we should make our own observations, I have seen many, many, many more elderly couples then I have old men with young women

It is you who got all bent out of shape and very personal. You are apparently too dense to understand that I said men who have grown old in a marriage will be participating in activities with their families, so naturally you will see more senior couples out than senior men with young women; because, like I also said, most young women are not interested in senior men.

Why don't you go argue with the polar ice caps that are melting and let them know there is no such thing as global warming.
Alana595

Apr 3 @ 1:39PM  
Doesn't the fact that you and the authors of the study are in committed relationships just go further to prove the fallacy? You did after all find the right person for you.

Are you too dense to understand anything?? Are you totally out of touch with realilty?? This blog is about old men!! It is not about relationships in general. The fact that younger people enter into committed relationships does not mean old men do!!!

WifeWanted

Apr 3 @ 1:44PM  
lol....I didnt get personal....well unless you are the author of the study in question which I am assuming you are not. I didnt say anything about you personally did I? Take a deep breath it will be okay. It's been wonderful having a conversation with you, but now its degenerating into insults and you trying to redefine what you said when its right there at the top for everyone to read so I will just wish you a wonderful day.
happygolucky53

Apr 3 @ 3:23PM  
YES and YES again. Older men do like younger women since most of the younger women are not overweight and do not complain so much. Much better to get fresh milk than sour milk. I have NOT met one man that wants an older woman, they just say that to make them look good.
Alana595

Apr 3 @ 3:43PM  
you trying to redefine what you said when its right there at the top for everyone to read

You are the one trying to redefine what I said because you can't comprehend what I wrote in the first place.
Alana595

Apr 3 @ 3:48PM  
YES and YES again. Older men do like younger women since most of the younger women are not overweight and do not complain so much. Much better to get fresh milk than sour milk. I have NOT met one man that wants an older woman, they just say that to make them look good.

Thank you sir. You have just confirmed what I said.
luneib

Apr 3 @ 3:55PM  
What about these guys who are 56 but look 66 and still expect to get a 35 year old woman. Don't think so lol. A woman in her 20s and early 30s is very sexual, a man in his 60s is not as able to keep up. I dated men in their 60s, believe me, I know what I'm talking about lol.

Why in the world would an older man feel the need to have a 20 year old? That just blows my mind. I'm 55 and even I wouldn't want a 20 year old. Hey, they are nice to look at, but I think older men should just learn to appreciate the beauty of younger women without trying to date them or get sex from them, that's just perverted. On the other hand, older women and younger guys, not so perverted. I guess I feel that way 'cause the younger guys usually pursue the older women, not the other way around, whereas an older guy who pursues a much younger woman is considered a pervert.

Also, what in the world would a man of say 65 have in common with a 20 year old? I mean, is she going to take him to a club to listen and dance to techno music? I really can't picture this lol. Or maybe go to a keg party with her? Please, I want explanations, what does an older man have in common with a woman in her 20s??? Also, if an older man decides to marry a much younger woman, will he be able to make babies with her, it's another thing to consider.
happygolucky53

Apr 3 @ 4:05PM  
luneib: You needed to have found the older man that could have at least afforded VIAGRA. Maybe this would have kept up with your desires. Many other ways to please a younger woman. Just need to experiement and have experience.
glidingspirit

Apr 3 @ 6:38PM  
HI there,
I date young and old. I feel you have to look alittle farther then the visual. I love all men and in return they adore me. I have no problem with someone even in there 70's. We are all here to have fun and be real. I think your heart and kindness shine over anything. I do find that older men are secure and not afraid to share there wisdom and tend to be giving and attentive. I also know they are more likely to wine and dine you. Spoil you if you will. Sex I think is overrated and if your not pushing it it is not required as well. I also know men that look 40 that are 65 hmmmmmmmm. You should look alittle farther. I get lots of hits on my profile from old and young. Thank you for your time. my advise is to have fun and enjoy all people. What is a age requirement anyway. I read a comment. on here if it is a problem for someone to have sex with someone older there is things to help.
beach4u

Apr 3 @ 7:55PM  
Somebody doesn't have an opend mind. I am an older man and can speak for a lot of my older male friends. The reason we like younger women is because they don't complain so much, always talk about thier grandchilderen, bitch about how they can't do anything anymore, always talking about how good they were in nthe old days. There sre some older women out there that I would give anything to be with because they get off thier asses and do something. There are a lot of older women that are a pleasure to know, but not many. You say the older man is out with his buddies, sure he is, he is OUT doing something and would love for his woman to be there, but no, shes at home complaining about him. Isn't it wonderful to see two old people looking into each others eyes with the love they had back in the day and still do.That's what we older men want and older women don't give that to us.Older men can make love better then younger men, maybe not as fast but in defferent ways that women seem to enjoy. I have never lost a woman because I couldn't make great love to her I could go on and onm but it wouldn't make any difference to you, you want to see your grandchilderen more.
Alana595

Apr 3 @ 8:18PM  
The above comment is from an old overweight guy who doesn't work and likes to bitch and complain about older women and who doesn't get up off his ass to date women of any age.
beach4u

Apr 3 @ 8:22PM  
LADY.......you haven't a clue. You may think you know me, but we haven't met and I wouldn't want to meet someone like you anyway. You don't want to fight with me, youwould lose
Alana595

Apr 3 @ 8:23PM  
I date young and old. I feel you have to look alittle farther then the visual. I love all men and in return they adore me.

And how many dates have you had with men your own age this week, this month or this year?
Alana595

Apr 3 @ 8:26PM  
LADY.......you haven't a clue. You may think you know me, but we haven't met and I wouldn't want to meet someone like you anyway. You don't want to fight with me, youwould lose

Sir, you are already a loser.
beach4u

Apr 3 @ 8:34PM  
you had a nice blog going here and now LADY???? you have made it personal and I don't think you are worth my time or thoughts. You are what I was talking about, a mean old woman. Men like nice women of all ages
glidingspirit

Apr 3 @ 8:43PM  
I just wanted to say that at this time I date about 3 men my age and 2 alittle older then me,15 years senior. I also date from time to time a few younger men. I don't have to have sex to have a terrific date and so many good times. Im fit,attractive a princess a Muse to some and very happy. When one presents themselves as witty and well rounded I think you are respected as such. I don't think its a age thing. Im just saying I think older men have much more to offer. Im independent and live a great rounded life no need to bitch. I did want to make another pt. Women my age are filled with all the gifts of life. The women I know don't need men for support rather for good fun at best. im always looking for my prince arent you ? I believe older men want to find there princess as well. Have a super day
Alana595

Apr 3 @ 9:03PM  
You are what I was talking about, a mean old woman. Men like nice women of all ages

The lady posted directly above sounds like a nice woman. Have you asked her for a date?
beach4u

Apr 3 @ 9:03PM  
THANK YOU Spirit.....you didn't want to make a pt., but you made a very good pt. Age is just a number and we all have known old people that werer in thier 20s and young people in thier 60s. Young and old want to find a mate, someone to GIVE all the love they have in them to.
Alana595

Apr 3 @ 9:17PM  
You are what I was talking about, a mean old woman

Hey mean old man, do you know what people on here call men who post blogs and then don't allow anyone to reply to them without their approval? They call them twits. It looks like you are on the twit list. I let everyone reply to my blogs. Even twits.
Kenn159

Apr 4 @ 11:15AM  
Interesting hypothisis but Im sorry to say it is very wrong speaking personally as a man


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The thing women need to understand is that man's desire for a relationship with a woman is primarily visual and sexual. When he is young, it doesn't take much visual to stimulate the sexual. But when he gets old and past his sexual peak, it takes more and better visuals to stimulate the sexual. Therefore, he looks at more and younger women in his desire to stimulate his waining sexuality.

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Im 48 and have a very strong sex drive ,nothing waining what so ever ,and don't need a young women to kick start anything.
Just my luck ,since I wrote this ,my drive will drop like a stone tommorrow


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He does not have the same desire for companionship in his old age that women have, nor does he have the same well balanced view of companionship. Mature women enjoy a wide variety of activities they would like to share with a mate including homemaking, travel, physical fitness activities, entertainment, intellectual pursuits, and family gatherings.

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Wrong again ,I hang out with my buddies once in a while but I really do prefer the company a women,I find them much more interesting and enjoy doing many of those things you listed with them like travel, physical fitness activities, entertainment, intellectual pursuits, and family gatherings.


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But if a man finds himself old and single, he is not looking to form a close relationship with a female, unless it is a young fabulous super model. But of course the young fabulous super models are not interested in an old man - unless he is worth a billion dollars, and some not even then

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This is not me because I would prefer a close relationship ,but I have seen this behavior in some men.


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It is not possible to understand a man's desires by comparing them with our own desires under similar circumstances. Men have a completely different brain structure. Man is best understood by a comprehensive study of recent advances in brain science that show the striking differences in male and female brains and how this affects behavior.

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There is some merit to this statement .
beach4u

Apr 4 @ 3:02PM  
YOU can't let it go can you? I have not blocked anyone from posting anything they wish on my blog, not even YOU. I tried to be nice when I I said to you, I was sorry for the way I talked to a lady, you, now to hell with it,YOU ARE NOT A LADY, just a mean ol PERSON. That is not a misstype, I didn't say old
Alana595

Apr 4 @ 3:53PM  
YOU can't let it go can you?

You're the one who can't let go. You're glued onto my blog every single day with your knickers in a knot. And yes, you have your blog set to where all comments have to have your approval before posting. You're an old twit. To hell with you.
Alana595

Apr 4 @ 4:04PM  
Interesting hypothisis but Im sorry to say it is very wrong

Kenn, the blog was about senior citizens. Not about 48 year old men.
It is not a hypothisis, it is a fact. You can do a survey of single men over 55 in your area and you will find the majority do not date women. You will also find that they all claim their sex drive has not diminished, even though it has. This is a medical fact.
vbtudor

Apr 4 @ 8:02PM  
What an interesting thread.

When I was 16 I wanted to date women between 21 and 30.
Then when I was 21 I married a 21 year old.
Then when I hit my thirties I wanted to date women between 21 and 30.
Now at 42 - I want to date women between 21 and 30
And when I get to 65 probably still the same

Why?

No idea - guess I am just stuck in a moment that I cant get out of.

What I do know is that I have dated women a lot older than me and a lot younger than me and the same age. And the one overriding factor is

How they are mentally -

ie did they act like an old goat and moan all the time

or did they act like a woman on fire and wanting to get out and about, do things, enjoy life.

I have met teenage girls (when I was younger obviously) who acted like they were middle aged, and met older ladies who acted like they were in their teens.

Give me someone with spirit anytime - whatever their age. As a lover of life I appreciate those who want to live it - not wait for God. Regardless of the age of a woman its her inner spirit that matters.

And if they happen to be between 21 and 30 = how fantastic would that be

Said tongue in cheek of course.

Vince
luneib

Apr 4 @ 8:18PM  
Sex isn't everything in a relationship, but....it is an important part of it besides the sharing of thoughts, dreams, enjoying each others company. It's human nature to want it, some need it more than others. When I was dating, if a guy was older, I'd have no problem dating him, but....if the relationship got going and he couldn't perform sex, and refused to take Viagra 'cause he thought he didn't need it, then we couldn't continue dating, even if he was the greatest guy in the world. Some of us just need more sex than others lol.
Alana595

Apr 4 @ 8:59PM  
Give me someone with spirit anytime - whatever their age

You are only 42. This blog is about senior citizens. However, you have said something above that is the same thing senior men with class say - and that is that age doesn't matter, other things do. Yet their behavior is that they don't want to date anyone unless they are 20 years younger than them. What men say and what men do are 2 entirely different things.

Senior men without class, like the Happpy guy with the elephant above, just come right out and say it - old men want young women, they don't want women their own age under any circumstances. These old men can't get young women so they just keep company with their elephant.
selectiveman

Apr 4 @ 11:24PM  
Alana, the seniors you speak of can WANT a younger woman until hell freezes over.... it doens't mean they will ever get one.

Let's face it.... the only thing "old" that a young woman wants, is money. Ha!
Alana595

Apr 5 @ 12:07AM  
Alana, the seniors you speak of can WANT a younger woman until hell freezes over.... it doens't mean they will ever get one.

Let's face it.... the only thing "old" that a young woman wants, is money. Ha!

Yes, you are exactly right. I agree with you. And I'm not saying there is any right or wrong here. I am just saying that's the way it is.
RichardBruce

Apr 7 @ 2:48PM  
While I don't deny the attraction of a younger, sexier, and more fertile woman, my reasons for wanting a younger mate are much more practical. I've never been married, and I still think about having children. Most women in their 40s have either had children already or can't/don't want them.
Wanderer_from_Hell

Apr 8 @ 10:27PM  
I am sure that you are right in that you speaking of the majority, but as you say, "there are exception", and possibly you could do a little more to emphasize that rather then the shallowness, and more coarse aspects of your opinion. Personally, I prefer a woman that is no more then 10 years younger then myself. The younger they are the more they think only about theirselves and do not have the compassion or capacity for love and understanding that a woman does that has lived life and expreienced life.
mmselle

Apr 9 @ 2:12PM  
Here's a little commentary from my Daddy, who has always been a favorite with ladies and had a different one at every truck stop. If a man has a choice between a beautiful 40 year old woman and 19 year old, who's a real "dawg," guess which one wins?

Some older guys will do anything to catch a young girl. They know this generation of girls are materialistic.They like stuff. They let them know, they have the money to buy anything they want. That's how some guys do it. That's kind of what happened with my last marriage. The girl ended up cleaning out my ex-husbands bank account, then dumping him.

When I was 19, I used to get hit on all the time from the over 40, "turtleneck and tweed jacket" crowd. "Hi there, wanna have a drink?" They'd ask like they were the coolest thing going. They'd suggest I meet them at country clubs and invite me to all kinds of events that 40 year olds like. I wanted to date guys my own age, and was not interested in them or anything they had or could buy.
karin_7

Apr 12 @ 3:00AM  
I am in my twenty-something's, but very attracted to older men for many reasons and I guarantee you it's not strictly MONEY.

Younger guys are just coming into their own, unsure and uncertain about life, despite how much they swear they’re not. They can be inexperienced in the bedroom and hungry to put notches in their belt, some with little regard to any relationships they’re currently entertaining.

So dating an older man comes with benefits. Maturity is certainly one of the biggest and more obvious factors. Older mature men tend to know themselves a little better than younger boys. I'm not going to say this is true across the board for all men, but in my experience they typically aren’t as sexually motivated, either. They can be mature between the sheets, too, knowing more and taking a different approach to pleasure. Older men are more established and treat younger women with more tolerance and understanding than her counterpart.

But again, which relationship doesn’t have it’s share of problems and obstacles. While some are of the view that an age difference only exacerbates some of the typical problems inherent in a relationship, that doesn't necessarily hold true in all cases. As in any relationship, age only becomes a matter of numbers if ultimately the older man and younger woman, are both adult enough to enter into a consensual union, you have mutual respect for each other, the age difference doesn’t matter – at least to both of you... and you’ve found something in this relationship that satisfies you like no other has! Each 'age bracket' brings unique qualities....Youth brings enthusiasm and freshness and a perspective based on hopes, dreams and wonder...Maturity brings knowledge, experience and a perspective based on having lived and dealt with life (hopefully). If I were to generalize I would say that I have met some very 'mature' young people and some very 'immature' older people....So who cares if an older man wants to date a younger woman and vice versa.
oldermaninmissippi

Apr 12 @ 1:18PM  
Helloooo Karen 7,

Where have you been all of my older than you life?

Women that have your thoughts are rare but not really that rare.
A man just has to shake the bushes a little harder when he gets older.

Thank God there are still women like you. You are what I consider a REAL woman.

Alana595

Apr 12 @ 2:26PM  
Helloooo Karen 7,

Where have you been all of my older than you life?

Well Karen and Olderman, it looks like we have a match here!!! Let us know how it turns out.
al92101

Apr 11 @ 4:16PM  
I put in the search engine older men going out with younger women is that in? and I got this blog which I read and glad I did. Thier are other reasons older men may be single they could be vets or disable vets. My last relationship she was my soulmate I took care of her until she passed away from a long illness that was in 2002 and what motivates me is to go out do artwork I play classical guitar go to the beach fun stuff but I agree after 35 your old I'm 44 attractive I've been told. I believe going back 8 or 10 years is okay or 10 years ahead hey I'm glad this is here and want to thank everyone for thier input since I started reading this and have finnished I am now older and wiser (he he:)
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