It's a little after 3 am here. I was asleep, but was woken up by my daughter Carlee lipping off at her sister about 1 am.
She was drunk. She'd asked me to watch the baby this afternoon, and I gladly took him. I had him from a little after noon, until about 5 pm. I wanted to take him out to watch his Uncle Matt spear fish, but it was a little too chillly around 5, so I took him home.
Carah and I went out for a little while, about 1/2 hr, then went to tanning, and then picked Matt's friend back up to go back out to the fishing hole, only to meet them coming back into town. So we turned around to come home.
I wasn't home 10 mins, and was called away to my x' b/f's Mom's with Chase, my adopted son, who is going with my x's niece. He was meeting her mom, so I went with for moral support. We weren't gone too long. I had to run my x's other niece to a friends house, and had the little 6 y/o great niece with me too.
Carlee called me to tell me that Jadyn got another tooth on the bottom. I was so excited. Emma, the 6 y/o wanted to go see the baby, so I called back to make sure it was ok with my daughter that we stopped by on our way through town. She said sure.
I wasn't in the door 3 mins and she asked me if I could take the baby, "she needed a break" Seems the other grandma got called back to work in Chicago, and wasn't there to help Carlee out. I didn't think this was going to be another one of their drunken partying nights. I thought they were going to spend a quiet night at home alone.
HAHA....Suprise, suprise!!!
She called to check on the baby, which she does when we have him, to see how he is. I do give her credit....SHE IS A GOOD MOM!!
I told her he was fine, he was down stairs w/ Carah and a couple of her friends. She then called back about 11:40, and again before 1 am. Carah asked her if she'd sent over baby oragel, or tylenol. (Usually I have it here, but she's taken my stock to her place), so apparently she said no, and that's why she came over after 1 am, to bring some over.
OMFG....she was drunk. She started in on Carah as to why he was still up, and Carah's like..."hey, he won't sleep, he never does when he's over here, so I take care of him, because YOU KNOW MOM'S MEDS MAKE HER TIRED" She said, "I do this even though I have school Carlee, and you have the nerve to rag on me when you're drunk"
Carlee is 18, will be 19 in Sept. Jadyn, my precious grandson is 7 1/2 months.
A yelling match ensued, and I was woke up and I was just a little pissed. I came down and told her that we are the ones that have him EVERY WEEKEND, or take him on her EVERY WHIM. Just like a couple weeks ago when they went to Florida and Alabama, and I was in TN with my oldest daughter with the baby and Matt. The baby cried and screamed ALL THE WHILE WE WERE DOWN THERE.
He kept looking at the picture of Cianna and Carlee on Cianna's living room wall, and saying..."mama, mama, mama, ". It broke my heart. I was still exhausted from the drive, with being on all the meds too, I slept alot down there. So, my sis and my daughter and Matt took care of Jadyn most of the time. By the end of the 4th day, Sunday, they were exhausted. I called Carlee to see if they could make the trip short by a couple days. You'd think I asked her to cut her friggin' arm off with a dull knife. OMG...was EVERYONE down there w/ her mad. Her boyfiiends family. I runined their vacation....boohooo!!! I was called every dirty name in the book by her boyfriend.
So Carlee went on to babble and scream tonight that she hadnt' brought him over here since then for me to watch "because I never want to watch him, and call for them to come and get him". No, I tell her when she calls, he's not settling down, I've tried EVERYTHING. So she volunteers to come and get him.
Tonight was the last straw., after her friend brought Jadyn back in the house, My house, and asked me why I'd threaten to take him away from Carlee.
I said because she needs to grow up, take responsiblity of him, or I WOULD!!
They were both drunk. I should have NEVER LET THEM TAKE HIM WITH THEM, but Carlee pulled him out of my arms, and was screaming at me. All I can see is his precious little face, and him looking so confused 
I did what any worried parent would do....probably in haste...I called the police, asking them to call and make sure they made it home safe. I knew she wouldn't answer my call, and if she did, it'd be a fight.
I was encouraged to be the proactive parent here. Especially after I told the officer about the pot being smoked, not around Jadyn, but around the other 2 baby's at their friends house. Once when Carlee and her bf were staying here, a pot pipe fell out of her bf's pants pocket, that i'd picked up off the floor to wash his pants.
The officer told me I should have called them right then, but I guess I was scared. What would happen to Jadyn? What would happen to my daughter?
So many questions ran through my mind. I just lost a child, I can't stand losing another one because she hates me!!
I was encouraged to contact Human Services tomorrow and file for custoday of the baby. Just for a couple months or so to see if things change over there.
I guess that's why I'm still up. Twisting things around in my mind, turning them to make sense.
What if I start this, and they dont' find me fit to raise Jadyn, because of the emotional state I'm in over losing my son a year ago. What if they think I can't physically take care of him because of my back problems, and they send him to a foster home???????????
I'd die if that happened...litterally die!!
I had a meeting today for Matt already at Human Services, it was about truancy, and how he was coping with his brothers accident. He's missed 7 days of school around the time of the anniversary. The social worker asked me how the other kids were coping with it. My oldest daughter won't talk to me about it, only if I mention his memorial plaque, and his scholarship. She's excited about that. Carah has her friends and Matt has his anger. Carlee has turned into a full blown alcoholic. She uses too. Pot, but still uses. How can she care for Jadyn when she's stoned and drunk.
I called my oldest daughter in TN after this happened tonight, and she said if they wouldn't let me have Jadyn, they would her. But to have 2 of my baby's 700 miles away. That'd kill me too!!
I guess I'm just asking for a prayer for things to work out. Just when the roller coaster ride has slowed down for me to get off...it now speeds up again, and I'm ready to fall again!!!
 
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poniepower
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Apr 24 @ 5:03AM
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I forgot to mention the 2 phone calls I got on my voice mail from her bf ( while I was on the other line to the police) about me being a c*nt and if I try taking his son away, I'll live to regret it....threats that he'll never have balls big enough to carry through, seenings how he's been busted so many times with drugs, paraphenilia, (sp) and underage drinking. This is the young man who wanted my daughter to have an abortion, and so did his Mom, who supplies the alcohol to many minor children in town, mostly her son and daughters friends.
I also falied to mention that instead of them going home with Jadyn and staying with him, they had her bf's cousin babysit him so that they could stay out partying. My oldest daughter called the cousin to make sure she had Jadyn.
I can't change Carlee. She has to want to change herself.
I know, I'm a recovering alcoholic, but I've been sober for over 2 yrs now.
Carlee also called back threatening me with some things, but she can threaten all she wants, she's grasping at straws. Unless she has proof ....which I have nothing to hide.
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outonbail
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Apr 24 @ 5:04AM
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Calling all these government agencies into you're family problems should be a last resort. I've known several people who have done this and they all regret it to this day. Once you open this can of worms, you'll never get the top back on.
Just my 2 cents, but you should give it some real thought before making these phone calls. Children being taken from their mothers and criminal records being stuck on someone for the rest of their life is nothing to take lightly!
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redhotzz
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Apr 24 @ 5:23AM
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How will you feel when those two kids take Jadyn to someone's house and leave him and he gets molested or abused? Better yet....how will you feel when they are driving with him in the car, drunk and high, and finally wreck and kill Jadyn and possibly themselves? Please do not sit idle. If YOU can't take care of him Social Services will try to keep him in a family member's home before they will hand him over to foster care~~esp IF there is someone who wants to take him! I promise you the alternatives are not something that you will ever forgive yourself for. Jadyn didn't ask to grow up like this.
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poniepower
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Apr 24 @ 5:23AM
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So, I just stand by and let my daugther ruin my grandson life??
Nope, I won't do that, he's better off with me....Period!
This is a last resort. She left the house tonight in such a drunken madness with my 7 mth old grandson in the car, all I could think of was them being in a car wreck and me LOSING ANOTHER CHILD!!
NOPE, won't bury another child. I just won't do it!
If she doesn't want to grow up on her own, and wants to choose drinking and drugs over raising her baby, then I'll raise him.
And as far as her having crap on her record....then maybe she should wake up, see the light of day, get some help, and she wouldn't have it on her permanent record....don't ya think?!?!?!
She needs help, and if she won't get it on her own, maybe she needs a little motivation!!!!
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poniepower
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Apr 24 @ 5:30AM
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I think i pretty much made it clear what MY INTENTIONS ARE.
I just lost my son in a tractor accident a year ago......I WILL NOT LOSE ANOTHER CHILD!
Of course I"m not going to sit on my hands and watch my grandson be abused or hurt by someone else. THAT would put me in jail, because I'd have to kill the sumbitches myself!!!
Thanks for your input.
I already had my mind made up as to what I was going to dotomorrow morning, before I typed this blog, but since my son's accident, I type alot of what I feel and what my family is going through, if it has to do with my son's accident.
The qestions that were running through my mind and that I typed, were questions that were hypothetical. OF COURSE I'LL FIGHT FOR MY PRECIOUS GRANDSON!!!
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Snappygoddess
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Apr 24 @ 6:33AM
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She left the house tonight in such a drunken madness with my 7 mth old grandson in the car, all I could think of was them being in a car wreck and me LOSING ANOTHER CHILD!!
She should not have been allowed to leave with that baby in her condition, even if it meant taking the baby back and putting your daughter out of your house by force.
.SHE IS A GOOD MOM!!
Sorry... a mother that puts partying before her child and then wants to drag him out at wee hours of morning while she is drunk and unsafe is NOT a good mom IMHO
She needs to grow up and become responsible for raising her own child!!
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sciurusniger
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Apr 24 @ 7:46AM
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Jadyn's safety and well-being must come first.
If that means going 700 miles away to stay with your other daughter, or even being placed in a foster home for a little while, then so be it. In either situation, he will be SAFE. I know you want to care for him, but if you involve the authorities and they decide otherwise, you must go along with their decision - calmly - by keeping in mind they are not judging you as much as they are judging what is best for Jadyn. In this moment. For it will do Jadyn no good if he is staying with you and Carlee and her boyfriend and his family are causing problems that create more stress in your home. You already have enough, my friend.
Whatever you decide to do, I will pray that all goes smoothly.
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RomanticLibra106
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Apr 24 @ 8:38AM
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You can't have your precious grandchildren raised by drug addicts, which is what they are at this point. The children must be safe from abuse, neglect or abandonment. You did what you thought was right.
Pray to God/a higher power/whatever you call him/her that everything will be fine because it will. Have faith in that.
Many Blessings to you.
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Looch
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Apr 24 @ 8:51AM
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solve the problems with the family, in the family
keep the police and DYFS out of it
commitment and love
stay strong, don't fail
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iceagehottie
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Apr 24 @ 9:23AM
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As a mom I can understand your pain. I will say a prayer for you that all goes right. Take care and God bless.
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Fender
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Apr 24 @ 9:42AM
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Do what you have to do to keep that precious baby safe...I have worked in the foster system for many years and let me tell you something, the world needs more grandparents that care like you...I have seen to many children get taken away from their young moms/dads, and their is no support coming from the granparents. I wish you and your family the best,and I am sorry for the loss of your son. Do not worry if you are on medication. There are alot of people who take medication for various reasons, as long as your no longerdrinking like you said, no drugs, no unsafe people in your home you have a great chance of taking the baby and raising him until your daughter is ready too...best of luck...
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poniepower
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Apr 25 @ 12:33AM
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She should not have been allowed to leave with that baby in her condition, even if it meant taking the baby back and putting your daughter out of your house by force.
I took the baby away from her friend, when she came back in the house, but he was snatched back out of my arms when his Mom came back in the house. I wasn't going to let things escalate any further, and the police be called to my home.
The main thing is that they made it home safe, and they are both safe tonight.
Sorry... a mother that puts partying before her child and then wants to drag him out at wee hours of morning while she is drunk and unsafe is NOT a good mom IMHO
She is a VERY GOOD Mom, when she's NOT drinking!! Alcohol has a tendency to make us ALL choose to NOT make some good choices. Me included, as I've had some problems with alcohol in the past.
I will come to her defense of her being a good Mom, Just not when she's drinking.
Hell, I wasn't a good Mom when I was drinking either!!
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poniepower
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Apr 25 @ 12:37AM
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I spoke to a social worker today, and they will investigate.
He's a friend of our family and has been for almost 10 yrs. He was shocked when I told him that I told the police that she left here with the baby intoxicated, and they didn't go find her and give her an underage. I told him the exact words of the police officer.."our main concern is for the safety of the baby", HIs exact words were, "bullshit".
I'm not "trying" to take Jadyn from his biological parents, I just want them to get some help now, before it's too late, and they end up like her bf's Mom!!
But I wil take Jadyn, if need be.
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poniepower
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Apr 25 @ 12:41AM
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In WI they try to place the children with relatives willing to take them, before turning to foster care.
I'd never let him go to TN or into foster care, if I could prevent it. And as of right now, they're going to be investigated, nothing more, nothing less.
Once that's done, then we'll see where he goes, if anywhere!
We must realize that some people that are having problems in their lives, turn to drugs and alcohol. These are kids, and one of these kids just lost her brother a year ago, and she "thinks" this is the way to cope.
We all know there are better ways to cope.
I just want her to get help!!.....Just help!
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sparechange64
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Apr 27 @ 2:21PM
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I have to admit that I did not read every single word ... but I get the idea ... perhaps you can have a sit-down and lay the laws down ... for one - she isn't even old enough to drink, and if she gets a DUI, she will lose out. Discuss options and consequences ...
The thing you pointed out about them letting you have her should be a topic of dicussion as well - then no one will have the baby, as I am sure no one wants ... but above all
CHILDREN ARE A PRECIOUS GIFT ... and do not have the ability to protect themselves ... you have a moral obligation to see that baby recieves the protection he needs, even if it causes anger
Good luck ... pray for guidance
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