You meet someone, you hit it off straight away. It becomes clear to you both that this is, potentially, a very good thing and you want to pursue a relationship. Plans are laid on how to go about it, because you don't live in the same area.
They become withdrawn, start acting jealous, start acting as if you are ignoring them when, in fact, you keep sending emails that they don't answer.
Later on, you find out they were partially pushing you away for health reasons. But some of it was that there was another person who lived nearby that they were interested in.
You still keep in touch and they keep telling you they want to try again, how wrong they were, how much they care for you, etc.
Only then they become withdrawn, start acting jealous, start acting as if you are ignoring them, when, in fact, you keep sending emails that they don't answer.
You look at their profile: all the comments you made that intimate any sort of relationship are gone but an inocuous one you made once is left. There are new persons of the sex they are attracted to on their friends list that werent there when you looked last (back before the suddenly got withdrawn). No members of the other sex are on their friends list at all.
That's the situation:
Q: Now, would it be crazy to assume that they are not interested in you or that they are, again, pursuing another person?
Q: Would it make sense for them to say they hadn't read your emails because they wanted to give you space as they thought you were dating someone else?
Q: Since they did say they thought you were dating someone else, and considering they had before, would they have any leg to stand on with regards to feeling insulted that you thought they might be seeing someone else?
Discuss! ... whoops .. don't discuss. But do think it over in your mind!
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WestcoastMilo
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May 14 @ 4:10PM
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Wow, what a great blog !
To answer your question below in your blog :
This question could simply go anywhere. You mean online as in meeting people ? Or in real life ?
If online ... I think it would have to strongly depend on the two people. And, how much they can trust and willing to accept things are.
If in real life. Even the people do the same, probably its more obvious than to do it online, I guessed.
I think they read your emails. Some may not respond. Others may respond, but forget what the email was contexted about.
Everyone here pretty much knows my situation. So, I don't think I need to answer the last part.
M.
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starchild888
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May 14 @ 5:09PM
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you know, sometimes men will just answer to be polite or to be considered a "gentleman". My personal bent is this: as long as you're conversing via email and have not gravitated to calling and speaking to each other, there really is no relationship other than "pen pal" "email buddy" or whatever you'd like to call it. There is just too much innuendo and preconceived notions that comes from it. You each hold on to your own idea from the impressions you're getting from the words that the other person is sending. And you could be very wrong -- 'cuz the person sending the email isn't there with you to defend or to explain what they're talking about. We often read into the words what is simply not there. Emails are a stepping stone or a first contact --to the ultimate final step of meeting and THEN getting to know each other. 
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WestcoastMilo
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May 14 @ 5:11PM
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Hmmm ... I was being quite honest and blunt. Be only nice ? lol
I don't know Starchild ... you're too nice to even make an awkward comment ! lol
M.
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Purplemix1
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May 14 @ 5:23PM
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If you had posted comments on the pics or shout outs that basically will let people know there is something going on with you two, then all but the plain comment it gone,,,,,,,,,,,,It's probably cause the person does not want others to see it and think he is INVOLVED,,,,, and if he isn't answering mail,,,,pfft he is avoiding you,,,,,,,then if what he's working on local falls threw, he's coming back to you, ,,,he's trying to con you into thinking he did it for you, HE DID IT FOR HIMSELF,,,,,if he really was a true friend, he'd say, I'm dating a local,,, not one on one, and I am interested in you, but i'm checking out all possiblilites,,,,,,,,,,,,,and he'd let you decide to continue or not,,,,,but he's basically not being open and honest,,,,,,,  FLUSH HIM
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HopelesslyHopeful
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May 14 @ 5:36PM
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you know, sometimes men will just answer to be polite or to be considered a "gentleman". My personal bent is this: as long as you're conversing via email and have not gravitated to calling and speaking to each other, there really is no relationship other than "pen pal" "email buddy" or whatever you'd like to call it.
Good points! In fact your whole comment was good points, in general. Only thing is, in the situation re: this blog you and the other person are definitely interested in each other and have made plans to find a way to live closer together; love, how to fit into each other's life is already under discussion.
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WestcoastMilo
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May 14 @ 5:37PM
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 PM is gonna flush me ! Ouchhhhh ! lol
M.
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The_Boy_Next_Door
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May 14 @ 5:37PM
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they hadn't read your emails because they wanted to give you space as they thought you were dating someone else? What a bunch of Crap! that's all, thank you! 
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krutsup
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May 14 @ 6:34PM
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1) they may or may not still be interested. but they aren't intending to go through with this thing. they have always been pursuing other people. 2) they didn't respond to or read your e-mails, because they were pursuing other interests, and because by leaving them unread, they are elongating the stall. 3) they shouldn't have any standing at all. leg, stepstool, nothing. they are accusing you of what they are actually themselves doing. 
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misschoos
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May 14 @ 6:45PM
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I am not supposed to be here, but I landed on your blog
I hope that didn't happen to you gf. 
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HopelesslyHopeful
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May 14 @ 11:14PM
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lol Misschoos .. why aren't you supposed to be here? And welcome you are, as always!
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tbirdgirl12345
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May 17 @ 10:03AM
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bottom line is this:
all that stuff is smoke and mirrors.. if this guy wanted to be there with you, he would.
run fast and run hard, girlfriend! consider this God's gift to you today that He allowed you to dodge this bullet.
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tbirdgirl12345
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May 17 @ 10:04AM
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...and incidentally, this is not reality. this is the internet.
yes. exactly. 
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HopelesslyHopeful
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May 17 @ 10:19AM
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lol The internet is just as real as any night club, at least.
I've often wondered about people who think it's not. Because, after all, they know they are human, with feelings, etc. and they often have family and friends online.
The internet and Vegas: passports to the Matrix?
No. This is still reality with just as much chance of being told the truth or being told lies. The internet does not change what sort of person you are. If you are truthful and considerate, at the heart of you, you still will be. And if you aren't, you'll still be .. well, a lying, cheating, back-stabbing, shite talking, overly conceited man who goes about verbally (or same as) attacking women who realize what a lying prick he is .. for instance.
And the people who want to find out what you are.. they are treated with respect or lied to or whatever just the same : con artists are still con artists, lovers are still lovers, stalkers are still stalkers, and the ways of deciphering which they are remain about the same.
See, if this wasn't reality, then you wouldn't have posted the first things you said! Who interacts with people they don't believe exist? 
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tbirdgirl12345
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May 17 @ 12:38PM
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LOL you got me... !!! lol
wow. now i'm confused.  
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HopelesslyHopeful
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May 17 @ 1:44PM
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It's alright, Alice: take the blue pill! It'll all be better shortly!
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