NOTE: Turns out one of the guys I thought was doing this today really wasn't. It was a case of bad communication on one or both parts. So, it is important to ask questions if it's only vaguely insulting .. it might just be vague!
Once again, here I am checking my emails, minding my own business, and I get some email that insults me.
This is not from any man who knows me, even online, or who is arguing over an opinion or insulting me over something I stated on my blogs.
This is not a man whom I was pursuing or even knew existed.
He just dropped by to make fun of me because I don't suit his tastes. What he said, in volume, wasn't much: he didn't curse, tirade, or even use derogatory terms. But what he did say was obviously an attack, all the same, and out of the blue, and because he doesn't like my looks.
That's definitely beyond having a preference: that is a deliberate and malicious act of hatred towards another human being based on prejudices.
Now, mind you, I don't like women who treat men that way, either. So as I see it, it's not totally a thing that men do to women; but it is a thing more often done to overweight women by insecure men and women, than it is a thing done to or by any other "group" of persons from my observations.
Here's something such people may not be aware of, so if you are one, please pay attention: I am what I am and that's all that I am. I do not look for your approval or mold myself to your whims. I live by choice and by circumstances.
If it's choice, then I have done it or become it, knowing that it does not suit everyone but that it does suit me and those I wish to attract.
If it is by circumstance, then it is not a defect of character; but your picking on it is!
There's a giant rafter in your eye, blocking your vision, or you'd be able to see that I'm just another person after all .. and beautiful because of that fact: just like you, despite your scum-baggish ways!
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WestcoastMilo
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May 16 @ 1:42PM
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Man, that really stinks to know people like him ever exist ! I am sorry that it happened to you ! I know I wouldn't do that to you, or anyone for that matter. Talk about being arrogant and ignorant, as well !
M. 
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missalex
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May 16 @ 1:47PM
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what an arsehole, you're beautiful
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hart_of_gold64
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May 16 @ 2:05PM
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I get those emails all the time.Just because I don't look like a Barbie doll or supermodel men judge me before they ever know the "real" me.
NOTE TO ALL MEN!
Just remember that we all get old and wrinkly and maybe not so attractive in time! You will too! Just pray a woman will see you for your heart and not that old body you see in the mirror!
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LGTEYES
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May 16 @ 2:09PM
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you go girl!! absolutely wonderful and kudos to you!!
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KAOS2007
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May 16 @ 2:14PM
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Sorry that happened to you ... although unfortunately, the more time I spend here, the more it does not surprise me. What men "like" and what they "want" and the women they "respond" to are hardly the the real women here, such as yourself. Quite honestly makes me rather sick.
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honesty2laughter
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May 16 @ 2:18PM
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Get your Remote and change the channel.Just like we do with movies.We can do with the click of a mouse <  did i say Mouse well if the insults fits Wear it  Your lovely all the best in friendship and esp Love 
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SpecialKny
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May 16 @ 2:19PM
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Well that just BLOWS!!!!.......I never had that happen to me and hope I never do.....what nerve!!!!........I must admit, though, ONE time and ONE time only I Did send an email to a guy on a different dating site who had sent me a *wink*......on his profile he had put that he was Extremely Attractive......he wasn't.....I mean he wasn't butt ugly but Extremely Attractive????......nooooooooo way.....so I sent him a email and asked him where he bought HIS mirrors........he never replied...... .....but it wasn't my proudest moment......  ........(-:
K~
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HopelesslyHopeful
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May 16 @ 2:44PM
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Thank you all for your comments and compliments, those who gave them; hopefully understandably, this was my favorite!:
what an arsehole, you're beautiful
 Succinct and sweet, both! 
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BrainsandBeauty
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May 16 @ 2:48PM
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I get those e-mails all the time too. You are beautiful and he is an ass. The best thing I ever heard in response to a comment about someone being overweight was "Yes I may be fat but you are an a$$h*le and I can lose weight"
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bmwer
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May 16 @ 2:55PM
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......and because he doesn't like my looks. That moron needs to visit an optometrist because there is nothing wrong with your looks!
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HopelesslyHopeful
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May 16 @ 3:10PM
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lol BandB
My sister got in an argument of sorts where some chick just came up and called her a fat bitch and no matter what all my sister said in reply to her that's all the chick could come up with "fat bitch" or "fat lazy bitch" and so finally she says something like "At least I'm not a stupid bitch with a lousy vocabulary." and walked away.
The best thing I ever saw in a show for dealing with people of that attitude, where they need to come by and be rude and pass judgement for no good reason, was on W.K.R.P. where Les Nessman says to the new D.J. (Venus Flytrap) "You're black!" and Venus' knees buckle, he almost falls to the floor, clutching his face and going "OH MY GOD ! I NEVER KNEW! Excuse me: I gotta go call Mom and tell her! " .. that may not be an exact quote, as it's been a while, but you get the gist.
If someone is a size 12 rather than a size 10, maybe they don't know and maybe you need to inform them. If someone is a size 20 rather than a size 10, they already got the message! Duh!
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HopelesslyHopeful
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May 16 @ 3:13PM
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That moron needs to visit an optometrist because there is nothing wrong with your looks!
Awww .. thank you!
Only, well, everyone has their preferences and that is understandable. People who are exceptionally turned on by model thin 6'3" thin lipped black women (yes, they do exist!) are obviously not going to find me to be just their cup of tea, for instance, and that's alright. But they shouldn't insult me or anyone else who doesn't look like that just because of that reason.
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onoudn
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May 16 @ 3:22PM
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sorry that happened
some people have to put others down just so they can feel good
the problem is that kind of high doesn last
we are all deep down inside decent people who don't really care to harm others
but some of us don't realize or care about that sometimes
i like what you said in response
its a lot more articulate and rational than what i might have written
you seem like you have a lot of self-esteem and you know who you are and what you stand for
that unfortunately is frightening to some guys in a woman
strange as it may sound this could be a the opposite end of the best that's out there for you
so look and remember
and keep that head up high
you rock girl
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HopelesslyHopeful
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May 16 @ 3:37PM
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you seem like you have a lot of self-esteem and you know who you are and what you stand for that unfortunately is frightening to some guys in a woman
Aye! That can also be frightening for some people to encounter in anyone, sometimes even more so if they feel they otherwise have things in common.
I got a lot of shite in business class because I was good at the work and could admit when I was wrong. Then it really played hell when the teacher told the other women that they really didn't like me because I was confident and that's something unusual in a woman, but it's what they should be aiming for.
Many people take confidence as anger, bullying, lying, nagging, etc. because it's what they're used to. That's so sad! I mean, that they'd be used to that. Well, so am I .. but I try not to let it cloud all my judgement lol
Once a manager where I worked said to me, laughing "Well .. well .. you are always you, aren't you?" People took that as an insult. Some of them reacted in derisive laughter, joining in with what they perceived as bullying, and some of them reacted in shock or pity at her insulting me. None of them assumed it was a good thing to be yourself!
As to the rest of what you said : Thank you muchly!
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AvalancheBlonde
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May 16 @ 4:12PM
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Honey,
It seems this type of abuse happens all too much here at MD...and it makes me sad, then it infuriates me.
It wasn't like you got up the courage to reach out to "PIG BOY" and then have him crush your spirit....
I know last week, this loser from Australia ((I think))) did the same thing to another one of our MD Sistas, and then after we all had our fun AT HIS EXPENSE he was stupid enough to hit on me....
Like, Oh, I am so desperate, I want a man that is a PIG around me.....
I have been big and I have been small, and those type of men are always rude, horrible, mean men, and after years of researching them, I have determined it is due to their self hatred of having a tiny little penis.
They have to strike out to women, because if they picked on children, they might go to jail and be some big man's new girlfriend....
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HopelesslyHopeful
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May 16 @ 4:34PM
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I have been big and I have been small, and those type of men are always rude, horrible, mean men, and after years of researching them, I have determined it is due to their self hatred of having a tiny little penis.
They have to strike out to women, because if they picked on children, they might go to jail and be some big man's new girlfriend....
uhm .. because they would rather have the slender built men??
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