Got a few select and lovely bits of hate mail today regarding a certain man on here who shall remain nameless.
Seems, according to what this man is telling people that me, and the other 8 or 10 women he was having an in person relationship with or trying to talk into moving over to his country and marrying him (those are the ones I know of, mind you!) are victimizing him!
Relationships don't always work out the way we'd like or at all, you know, so we shouldn't blame him. Well, that was just said to me, in a less hateful email. I can't lie about that: the woman who wrote that was not in the least hateful to me.
It was a hateful statement to me, though, all the same. Because, as I told her:
lol No, we can't always blame the other person and if you'll kindly remember I didn't blame him the first time I was concerned about him... the first time.
Yet, I'm pretty sure when he's a man who has singled out several women from a certain kind of background (abusive marriages) and has purposely lied to them, tried to isolate them, and is leading them on to believe that he's interested in a sincere and monogamous relationship with them .. that is a man who can be blamed. Yep, pretty sure!
If he didn't do that to you, then I'm very glad, for you. But he proposed to me, again, a few days ago, and then totally had a freak out on me for allegedly cheating on him .. at which point I posted something and got a huge response from other women who knew exactly who I was talking about because they did the same shite to him. So .. you be all the friend you want to be with him, but don't play the game of blaming the victims!
*ahem* I was a bit upset when typing. I meant "he did the same shite to them". lol
For anyone else who cares to weigh in with their opinion: Don't! Because, no, I am not some desperate woman who was posting poems and trying to gain his interest. I am some woman he pursued, he befriended (allegedly), he flirted with, he called, he professed his undying love to repeatedly and in varied ways, and he cheated on with several other women.
By the time I found out the extent of his deception, we were no longer in a relationship in any way based on romance or hope of getting together in the future. Yet, he was trying to get me to agree to "get back what we had" and marry him, spend the rest of our lives together.
I wonder if he would have then told me that the old man (aka:his father) that visits him is crazy, a desperate being that wants a son so bad he pretends that he has one?
I guess anything is possible.
So, look here, I am in no way interested in slagging him, being slagged by him, or having some other deluded women defending him to me. My blinders are off and I'm okay with that. If you want to keep them on, by all means do! Just don't write and tell me it's my fault that he acts the way he does!
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