Have you ever wondered why you even bothered to come out from under the bed?
The sister in law from hell calls me today and asks me if hubby is home. I tell her no and she says" well, I called to see when your going to pay me my money?" I begin to try and tell her we don't have it and to try and explain why. She steps on my words and raises that voice and tone of hers and says that we know we owe her that money ect... then she says ," you take and take and take from mom and dad and never give back". I wanted to say to her that I didn't have my mom raise my three children for me, and that my mom and dad never moved out of their three bedroom house into a two bedroom trailer to be sure i had a nice place for my children because my hubby kicked me out. I also was not sold my brothers inheritance. Lets see ten acres ( five of it was supposed to be her brothers) five of it fenced, a three bedroom home, a shop full of equipment enough to go into the car repair or carpentry business, and a shed with a storage building in it that my hubby built with is own two loving hands for me. Everything sold to her for a fourth of it's value or maybe less than that, who is using who miss?
But I am nice and only said, " don't go there. I might say things I shouldn't say". There was silence on the line when I said that and I thought she had hung up on me. I said, did she hang up on me? The b*ch. Then I heard the phone go click. OOPS. The holidays are sure to suck this year.
The whole dang family is full of Drama Queens, I hate drama unless it is on TV.
I have a $348.28 electric bill looming over my head, does she really think paying her $41.00 for a party she decided to have then told us we had to pitch in for is on the top of my budget? I also hate being bullied on the phone by someone who has never called my house in 15 years to even say how are you doing?
She is a spoilt rotten brat , who has had everyone doing things her way for as long as I have been in the family.
I am not the one to start up with. I don't want to pay her a dime now. It is sad , but had she come to me when she thought the whole thing up and said, we will need to pay $41 dollars per person if we do this and gave me time to save up the money and if she had asked us not told us, I would have budgeted it in, even if i had to borrow money to do it. Nope, two days before the party you call and tell hubby, not the person that handles the budget, that we owe you money? Come on, for what? when did we borrow a dime? How crazy is it to plan something, spend your money for it, and then as an after thought call your older brother and say, oh by the way you owe me $41.00 and the party is Saturday and I want my money now. 
I am so sick of this Drama Queen stuff.
She acts like we are wrong for saying we don't have the money , won't have it any time soon, and don't owe her a dime. She is wacked if she thinks I will let my children go hungry to pay her back and if i had $41.00 to spend on anything other than our bills. I would go out with my children and take them to the zoo and buy food, not to a party of 85 people where I get a second degree sun burn, wash most of the dishes, and spill baked beans all over my self, then have to leave a house full of good food to go home to one so empty of food that the fridge is crying and the stove is looking for a new owner.
I do think a 50th anniversary party was a great idea. I just think it could have been done in a way so that it was not a burden on us.
Yes, I know it was for his mom and dad not her. That would be the only reason she might get a dime ever.
I will pay it back when we have it and when it won't hurt us to pay it back, until then let her act like a collection witch I don't care.
Even the law would tell her to stop her stuff and that no loan was made. Moral court would find her guilty also. I can't believe she loves that $41.00 more than her brother and his children. Oh well, as long as she keeps her hands to herself I will be fine.
I don't want to argue about it with his family any more. I am not a Drama Queen.
In my family it is your deeds that say I love you, not a party that costs $41.00 per person to throw. If his mom and dad think we don't love them because we are to broke to pitch in then so be it.
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RomanticLibra106
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May 19 @ 5:00PM
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You're right. Your sister-in-law is a piece of works alright. Ever heard the old adage, "You can pick your friends, you can pick your nose but you can't pick your family, you're stuck with them??!!"
She was wrong to do what she did and no, the $41 isn't worth starting a Family Feud over in my opinion.
If she THOUGHT, she would have asked everyone to bring something - planned it out well and no one would have been burdened with the cost nor owe her any $. Sure it takes planning so you don't wind up with 20 potato salads or 20 baked bean recipes, but it works out well. Everyone makes their specialty. The food is outstanding - the variety is wonderful - everyone has a great time and no one is burdened tremendously with the expense. The person arranging it gives people categories (you bring a salad - you bring a potato salad - you bring steaks, chicken or what have you - you bring buns - you bring 2 liters of soda - you bring dessert - whatever it takes depending on the amount of people invited who plan on attending.
Just remain civil for your husband's sake and show you are a better person than she is because you are. Let her rant and rave - let her show her true colors to your husband and whoever she wants to and you remain civil. She will look like a dumb ass and nasty. Your husband will love you even more for it and he will find fault with his sister for her behavior.
Good luck.
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mysticlisa
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May 19 @ 5:38PM
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And your not a drama queen? 
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blue130160
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May 19 @ 6:08PM
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I've been at both ends of that scenario.. Neither is good. But honesty is best. You don't have the money just tell her. "can't get water out of a stone." Now if you planed this and you are backing out then tell her so she can plan.
You should not have to explain. If she calls up asking just say no. She may get pissy. You just tell her to call back when she calms down and can talk civil. Stay honest and that way no one can come back on you.
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leefl
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May 19 @ 6:09PM
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I know someone like that, just read my blog do you think I'm mean. All I can say is I know how to make people mad. She made copies to send to everyone along with a letter calling me a coward, I just thought it was funny, all she did was show how childish she is.
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freeagent811
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May 19 @ 8:12PM
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I am sorry your sister in -law has to be so difficult. She sounds to me like she has issues.. I am not speaking of financial ones. I think it is tacky to host a party and ask the guests for money. If a guest wants to contribute, then this should be up to them. It should not be someone looking for a handout.   . If a family is going to have a dispute over $41 , then there must be more to it than meets the eye. A domineering control freak is more like it!!! I don't like drama queens, either. My ex- boyfriend's niece was one. Her pit bull attacked , and her beagle almost had to be put down because of it.. She is standing there , screaming and crying.
Mind you, she had been asked 50,000 times not to bring that dog around. She continued. She had to play Animal Rescue Mission.. Picks up strays off the street, and expects me to feed them and give them veterinary care. She was a little whiny pissant.
Anyway, I hope your issue is resolved. I am sorry to hear about people who let money control them. There are a lot more things in life to be happy about. 
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conny90045
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May 19 @ 9:31PM
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Sweetie, You sister-in-law needs to mind her own business. I am proud of you that you stayed calm and didn't stoop to her level. Don't let her get you down and don't worry about it. I would avoid her as much as possible. I owe my mother so much money but all she says is just get a better job than I have.
Hang in there and we are here to support you 
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