Mish Mosh of Thoughts .. Open them thar peepers.. TGIF!!! posted 5/20/2007 11:06:59 AM | 7 kudos what's this?     report abuse tagged: honesty, love, joke

luvshorses644

I think this will be a mish mosh of all things that the recent blogs have floating around in my pea-picking brain.. a sea of flotsam, fudge nuggets, sea pickles... but things that make you go hmmmmm for sure.

Emotions... there in are the scariest things we as humans possess. Why am I saying scarey??? Think about this.. I have, in the last few days, read about relationships from hell, women and men who were used and abused by people that they met .. and here is the common thread... who promised them the world, who made them feel like the queen/king of the universe. PMF wrote an absolutely mavvvvelloousss blog on lotharios, I read Julia's blog on the guy that strung someone along (not into using names) and then egotistically let her go because she, somehow, overnight, became someone that was no longer good enough for him... truth be told... it isn't about that woman.. it is all about that man - he is the true user. And then Missy's blog about the man who left her...

Now, people, I need you to think with the gray matter inside that thick skull of yourn...what common denominator do all these blogs have? They are written forms of lessons you should all be reading and truly, if truth be told, let them become part of your everyday mantra.
I believe that all the flirting that goes on here may be part and parcel of those misleadings, those mixed signals that are given to people. Please, think about what you are doing to the other person if you truly have no interest in them for a long term relationship. Now, if both of you are just in this for a date every now and again, be my guest.. and if you are capable and ready to separate the emotional part of the relationship that might develop, then knock your socks off.. flirt, be the one with the most emails, the most whatever it is you seek. And if you have made it known that you are only seeking friendship and NOTHING more, every once in a while check to make sure you and whomever you are flirting with are on the same page.

It is damn hard to try to read others feelings via this mode of getting to know another.. but this is where the conversation on phone calls begins and then after you have talked about things important to you both and still want to meet, arrange for it. It is very easy for you sitting on one side of the screen to read words such as "I really like you" and think along the terms of like, when the other person is trying their damndest to say LOVE and you really don't feel that way. This goes on and on for a while and then when you do meet and it becomes clear that they meant other than "like" because of their readiness to take it a whole notch farther than just a good night kiss, you are GONNA hurt that person.

And, a word that pershaps if you put the fact that you are longing for a deep relationship in your profile, you also put some sort of caveat in listing things that will constitute factors you will not accept... for example, if you do not wish someone that drinks to excess, make that a HIGH priority on your list.. or if you have been burned before financially (to the point where you were sole provider and the other part of you never contributed) make it known that you cannot be the financial mule of the relationship and that each must pull their own weight. I know there has been a ton of criticism about people who have specifics put in their profile.. but, in the long run, don't you feel this would, indeed, lessen the chance of misunderstandings and perhaps a hurt on one side?

Our first relationships were the easiest.. we were so ready to become a part of a pair. Most of us had few years out on our own.. perhaps 5 or 8 and there was no family (other than our parental / sibling units, which we were so eager to get away from) that needed to be considered. Also, we had recently entered the job field and could relocate easier. Now, with so many years and families that each of us have, there are meshing of families to consider, financial responsibilities, jobs where each may have 20+ years and cannot walk away and lose that retirement they have worked so long to attain, etc. etc., etc.

My reasoning here is to try to open your eyes further .. don't let your hearts rule your relationships. And I am not saying do not let your heart have a say.. I am just trying to get your head out of the clouds where someone promises you such a wonderful life without really having sat down with you and gone over all these little issues. YES, we all want someone that we can love, that is a given. YES, we all want a relationship that is our last best one. YES we all want someone that will whisper great words of tenderness to us (but they have to only want to whisper them to us.. not for the day, the week, the year, but for the remainder of our time together).

I am a romantic.. but I am also a realist.. having had a bad relationship here and there, I know what I am no longer willing to accept and if this means that someone cannot understand me, then I guess it means it was not the relationship I desire. There are actual, living, breathing vermin that look and seek out those that sound lonely, desparate, isolated, longing for love. They sink their lines complete with bait (flattery, flirtaciousness, vows of undying love and the thoughts of how wonderful, blissful, meaningful your being with them will be.. but come on.. you have JUST exchanged words.. remember my blog on only words???) they sit patiently, knowing it is just a matter of time before you grab that hook and take it, they give you a lead and then reel you in.. you are totally lost, unable to free yourself without hurt...by then, it is too late for getting away without pain.

I feel badly for all those here that have had their innermost feelings of longing, love, desire, hopes and dreams shattered and also for those who blindly walked into a relationship which left them in financial straits for one reason or another. Don't you think it is time for us to enter into our last best relationship without the blinders???? WIDE EYED AND BUSHY TAILED????

I leave now to preach to the goats outside wailing their wittle cute butts off...

A short one for grandpa today:

Why did the blonde have TGIF stenciled on all her shoes? To remember that: Toes Go In First!!!

Goodnight Mrs. Calabash whereever you are!!!

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