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“Give up what appears to be doubtful for what is certain. Truth brings peace of mind, and deception doubt.”
Muhammad Ali
How often has the dating site user found someone they were attracted to a phoney piece of yard waste? It happens all the time, to men and women alike, doesn't it? As many have said, the anonymity of the keyboard allows everyone the opportunity to be something other than what they really are. It’s my opinion that most people who use sites like this are honest in their self-portrayal, but every once in awhile someone will pop up on my Finger Radar™ that just chafes my hide. I’m certainly not one to hide my opinion of anything; which should be painfully clear from what I’ve written in the past. I’m not afraid of controversy, I’m not afraid to speak my mind, and I certainly don’t care if you disagree with my point of view. If I don’t agree with YOUR point of view, I’ll make that painfully obvious; but that’s because I’m a dick and telling me I’m a dick will never force an argument from me. So with that said....
Does it piss you off when someone posts a photograph of themselves that ISN’T them? Or maybe they post a photograph of themselves from years gone by, never mentioning that, indeed, yes, that photograph was taken in, like, 1916? It’s like a bait and switch scheme from your local car dealership that stinks of black shirts and white ties. I know this stuff pisses you off, I’ve seen the blogs and the forum posts. The person responsible for the faux pas is called a scammer, immediately lifted upon the cyber stocks and virtual tomatoes are tossed his or her way, pummeled upon the head by angry villagers. I have to admit, I giggle like a little schoolgirl when I see that shit. But photos are NOT the point of this blog.
So get to the fkn point Finger....
I have a bad habit. I Google shit that I see posted on the blogs, particularly really good stuff. I look at the blogger's profile, I research their former blogs and if they don’t fit, off I go, Googling like a horny bloodhound. Before you proclaim me some sort of Cyber Cop and start ripping into my balls, 80% of the time I come away empty-handed. Sometimes even the most daft of bloggers can come up with a pretty good piece. I use myself as a measuring stick, I’m about the most fkd up blogger on this site and sometimes I even surprise myself….it’s like I got too close to a microwave tower or something, maybe drank from a polluted nuclear waste dump…fkn surprises the shit outta me.
Now, my point: isn’t using someone else’s words and failing to point out that it is, in all actuality, someone else’s writing the very same thing as posting a fake photograph? You’re deceiving me and everyone else!
Look, I came to this site one day out of boredom. Ten minutes into my first visit I came upon someone’s profile. That profile, which included blogs, comments and forum posts, belonged to none other than Sciurusniger, my betrothed. Obviously, the first indication that something was amiss was the chubby I popped after viewing her picture, but the rest of my attraction blossomed after reading her blogs and posts. Why? Because I was reading HER words, her thoughts, her dreams and her personality. When she did reference someone else’s words through a quote or passage, she credited the original writer by either posting a link to the site where the information was originally posted or she gave credit by including a name. Simple shit really, even the inclusion of a quote screams intelligence because you have to understand the quote in the first place…being the dumbass I am, sometimes they flew right over my head…the big one, the small one never missed a beat, but I digress.
Ok, so if you post a blog and it isn’t your words but someone else’s and you don’t reference the original writer by including something that points his or her way, you’re a lying sack of monkey shit. IMNSHO. You’re deceiving me and everyone else. This is a dating site. People are searching for someone to date, marry, and form a bond with. They’re looking for friends, someone they can trust. They rely on what you present yourself as. Oh sure, sometimes we’ll write something and it’s impossible to reference the original writer, like jokes and stuff….fkng everyone knows that, but for pieces that incite, teach or inspire…that just doesn’t cut it. People will plagiarize works of others and reply with comments on the blog like it actually belongs to them. Does this not bother anyone else? If you’re here to find an honest person to begin a relationship, it should, shouldn’t it?
I recently responded to a blog that made me laugh. I found an existing link pointing somewhere else where the same writing, word for word, was posted. I felt dirty for responding. I still feel dirty. I felt like yakking shit up…but I got over it, sorta.
I love good writers, they’re like an ice cream cone on a fkng hot day. Words mean something to me. I love them. I can’t tell you the pleasure I get by reading works from Sciurusniger, Luvshorses, Tunes, Redtigr, Jen, LGQ, Roger, and others like that new guy, RhodeRhunner. They and a number of others have pure talent that entertains and makes me think…and none of them have to show me their boobs to do it. 'Cept of course Sci, but that’s another blog that DOESN’T belong on this site.
As always, if you don’t agree with my point of view...blow me.
Yer Pal,
PMF
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katydid438
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May 22 @ 5:22PM
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To me what you have written boils down to plain honesty. It's very easy to deceive on a dating/friendship site. Anyone who plagerizes in a blog will eventually be caught by someone like yourself, a person who I believe will research and seek out the truth. I'm hoping that some of the people who do this just don't realize that they should supply the source of their information or quotes. Maybe this blog will help them.
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RickyRayRobertson
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May 22 @ 5:36PM
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Great Blog....and Great points..
I was just sitting here on my Yacht in the South of Spain, working on my new Movie with George Clooney and Johnny Depp...and we all decided to give you Kudos....
Why cant people just be themselves without acting like someone they are not??
I dont get it...
neither do Johnny and George...
again...Great Blog.. 
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luvshorses644
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May 22 @ 6:08PM
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 <----- that's the closest I could find to use an emoty to BLOW you....Will it do?????
Ah, shuckeroonies...  .. you *choke, cough, sniff* mentioned this ole gal????? Pssshhhhawwww.. The only reason my schhhtttufffff is mine is because most of the time what I write could come from no other mind than one that truly ain't taped together right.
Cybercop man.. dude.... I understand the frustration level.. just think of how much the square triangle and the medic dudes have when they keep posting blog rules and they keep being ignored... Here is no different from the real world.. people need to impress others. Having had an imposter in my life once (yeah, I am guilty of being gullible ONCE) is why I keep trying to let others know they exist and they prey on others.. they CAN NOT SURVIVE any other way. They have fake lives, fake jobs, fake homes and by the time the person they hook finds out, they have still have a chance because the other is so involved and if they are asked to leave, you can be sure they have another victim already lined up. DECEIVERS always are the Piranha of Life. They can survive no other way.
Thanks for trying again.. I hope those that need to know and those that are deceivers know they are not always safe.. there are people that can spot them.
Now, get back to your regularly-scheduled grab session..... I mean.. ah.. skip it you know I know....
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painter007
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May 22 @ 6:20PM
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Right on the mark as usual and I am amazed not only the ones who copy words and dont give credit......but the ones who proclaim to be someone when in reality they are just hidding under a " good name" to scam people....and reel in women who are trusting them to be honest..
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scorpiogirl36
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May 22 @ 6:49PM
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You talking about me again PMF!  Too bad your taken..did I say that out loud! Sorry Sciurusniger. I think you got the last intelligent one on here 
If any one can find the originator of all the jokes that have been around for the last 100 years (maybe more) lead me to them. I'll glady post their name. In the meantime the best I can do is put these little gems of laughter in quotes and throw them out there for all to chuckle over. 
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PsychoMagnet
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May 22 @ 8:28PM
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Bob, you continue to raise the bar. I must confess that I Google too, but I Google parts of my own blog just to see how high up it is. Yes, I am a narcissistic dick.
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ForumMod
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May 22 @ 8:53PM
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 it's apparently more prevalant that i thought. i can't tell you how disappointed i was today with a "discovery", or actually several.
i often google and add the original author when things are quiet, as a courtesy, and send a note about giving credit where it's due. but there isn't enough time in the day or night to be able to do that with every single posting. and there shouldn't be the need to do so.
i hope no one thinks "outting" someone is fun. all of us, members, mods and staff get to know each other through blogs and forum posts. that's supposed to be an enhancement for getting to know one anothers personalities. unfortunately, there are a few who feel the need to toy with other people's minds and emotions. personally, to me (as a person and as a mod) that's about as low as you can go. 
i can't say any more right now because i'm pretty po'd, but "Pilfering Yellow-Bellied Bushwankers" is a very polite way of putting what i'm thinking at the moment.
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travelnfrog
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May 22 @ 8:54PM
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Blogs like this are the reason I keep you on my favorites list....so I never lose track.
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TallBlonde1
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May 22 @ 9:39PM
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Well, I totally agree with you, but maybe sometimes people just forget to post the credit? Jus' sayin' I think that's the case, sometimes.
Personally I don't like dirty blogging. The well-written blogs that aren't really blogs, but insults aimed directly at other blogger's or groups of people. It's well done, so anyone not knowing the whole story wouldn't know it's really a cheap shot, and they might make a comment that would be perceived as taking a side. I did that once, commented on a well-written blog, turned out it the blog was about another blogger here and I was seen as taking a side. After I found out, I felt dirty for commenting, I also felt tricked and deceived. But I guess since it's not in the rules you can't do that, it's okay.
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ForumMod
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May 22 @ 10:00PM
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But I guess since it's not in the rules you can't do that, it's okay.
no, it's not ok if it's about a specific person (a "target"). that's specifically in the rules. but sometimes it isn't obvious that it's a "target" unless you've picked up more of the story (which isn't always easy). and it is definitely unfair to the unsuspecting.
even mods are deceived and tricked. we can't know what's in every persons head when they post or all the things that go on behind the scenes. but we do at least try to stay within the "loop" to some degree, just by reading. and we try very hard not to be intrusive. so sometimes if you see that a mod has made a deletion or comment, there may be a number of non-obvious reasons behind the decision. but every decision is weighed, not arbitrary.
and i'd like to thank those who we've notified to ask to please put the original authors name who do so graciously, often with a "whoops". if the "inspirational" piece was from a random email, just say so. it's easy. and it's easy to google, too, for those great people who have the integrity to give credit where credit is due.
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PullMyFinger
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May 22 @ 10:02PM
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Tall...
You're absolutely correct on the "sometimes", it's when it becomes a habit and the intent is to deceive that I take issue with. Everyone boinks things up on occasion, we're all human. My issue is with the people who deliberately post works of others, passing themselves off as the author and lying to you as the reader. You read it and automatically assume that the poster is the author, that's deception and lying. I'd hate to think that anyone would get caught up with someone that has no sense of propriety....that could end badly. Good and honest people shouldn't have to deal with such nonsense.
That would be like someone posting a fake profile...disgusting and although no laws will support it, criminal.
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Skydognc
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May 22 @ 10:19PM
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The last time you took issue about this, I am not sure whether it was my being new here, ignorance, or just being stubborn, But I totally missed the point in your blog.
This time it is definately kudo writing, and making a very real and valid point. Not that you didn't last time, I just missed it I guess.
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misschoos
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May 23 @ 2:28PM
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That is one of the best blogs I have read
You make some very valid points
Kudos 
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kattsmeow
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May 24 @ 11:53AM
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Now I am pariniod. See what you did??
Sci, he needs to be taken to the wood shed.
People really do this huh? Try to pass off other peoples work as their own?
Now, I need to go see if I have did this.
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EternalFlame
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May 13 @ 9:06PM
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See that? Here's another....completely absent of...
~*~
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