June 5th DailyOm -- this is a wonderful site I found many years ago in my search for explanations of why things happen and a way of finding peace and my center -- this was so appropriate to me today since I had something happen to me like this yesterday. I responded to a blog yesterday that I felt was still promoting negative influences on MD -- the person chose not to post my comment which is their right but in their explanation back to me it struck me that this person delights in causing the negative pull that her postings effect that she might actually delight in the fact that she gets a rise out of people and has the opportunity to put people down and then controls her posted comments so that only the people who agree with her make the cut.
It is not only her but several others on this site that this is becoming more and more their modus operandi. It just amazes me how people love to dish the dirt on others and make negativity their motto, on a dating site -- what is up with that -- how in the world do you expect to attract a positive caring loving person into your life if you are always negative?? Just truly amazing -- like my momma always said if you have nothing nice to say don't say anything. I know people need to rant and rave and howl at the moon when they are wronged trust me I do the same thing -- but I rant and rave at myself as much as at the person or people who have wronged me for letting them affect my life that way.
Now for the DailyOm that warranted this blog **********   
Sometimes we start out with the best intentions to think and speak only positive thoughts, but the people around us throw us off course. Not everyone fully understands the power our thoughts and words have, or even if they do, they may be stuck in old patterns of negativity. Much of our habitual communication takes the form of complaining and criticizing, and it can be hard to find a way into certain conversations without lapsing into those old habits. However, we always have the option not to participate in negativity or to find a way to influence the situation in a positive direction. In the right company, you may even be able to directly acknowledge the fact that things have taken a negative turn, thus freeing yourself and others from the negative pull.
Not everyone will respond to your cues, and there’s no need to become overly attached to the idea of changing other people, because people have to choose for themselves how they will be in the world. Many people choose negativity because it is familiar to them and feels safe. It is important to give people the space to find their own way, but you can always set an example, subtly representing the power of being positive. At times you may interject an affirmative statement into the conversation, and at others you may simply change the subject. You may also simply withdraw your energy and presence, which also makes a subtle statement. If you feel comfortable enough with somebody that is always negative, perhaps you can have an honest conversation with them; after all, awareness is the first step to change.
A powerful way to free yourself from the negative pull is to enlist allies who are similarly minded. You and a friend, coworker, or family member may agree to work together to continually shift the energy in a situation in a positive direction. The power of two people working to promote the positive is exponentially greater than one person working on their own. As you and your allies work together to lift the energy around you, you will be amazed to see how quickly the positive pull begins to draw people into its orbit, freeing one mind after another from negativity into light.
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So my solution to all the negativity here on MD is to avoid it – if I see someone being negative from now on – ranting and raving – I will not participate in your attempt to influence others to be negative I will not allow you to disrupt my day and turn it into a circus, I will not be empowering you to influence others by commenting on your rants, it would be really nice if others would do this too. If we take the negative power away from these people, they will either cheer up start posting nice things or leave the site either way it will make this site a much nicer place to be.
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