when being chased by guys become a nightmare....
My first such experience happened at the age of 14. He was Eurasian, 5-6 years older and working in the police force, a friend’s sister’s friend. After going out once, he wanted to go steady with me. I refused as I felt that I was too young then to enter into a relationship and he started threatening me and even call my home in the middle of the night. The calls, the sleepless nights and the constant worry that he will misuse his job authority to do something drastic against me were driving me up the wall.  I didn’t dare tell my parents and had to suffer alone. Once, he even sent me a teddy (not a bear) as a present. A teddy for a 14 year old??!! Is he psycho or what?! This continued on for a period of time until perhaps he sort of got tired of his own pestering or maybe he found another new victim for him to terrorized.
The second incident happened when I was 16 and had just entered high school. Met this guy in school. He had just graduated and was serving the army. I had a boyfriend then and our relationship was on the rocks and he came to know of it during the course of our conversation. So when he asked me out for a show, I agreed. I figured watching a show is just a normal/harmless activity that all teenagers indulge in. Once again, I was proven wrong. During the date, he tried to hand my hands and even kissed me when he sent me back. I managed to successfully avoid his advances but he started calling me and asking me to break off with my boyfriend. Is he freaking mad?! Do guys expect girls to fall in love with them over a date? What right does he have to command me on what I should do in a relationship? From then on, he would call on and off asking me to give him a chance, beg me at times, and when all else failed, scold and threatened me. Then few days later call and ask me again. Really crappy and my reaction started from politely explaining why we would not suit to cold replies and finally hanging up the stupid phone at the sound of his voice. There was once he even stalked me to school. At the end of the day, I told him that I would call the police if he continue with this shit  (and believe me when I say it). From then on, he disappeared physically from my sight but the calls continue until he likewise, got tired or found another victim to stalk.
The most recent was an ex-colleague who had for no reason sent me a bouquet of flowers on Valentine's Day. I did not reject the bouquet as I only know it's from him at the end of the day after I left work. I say no reason as I had not done/say anything to indicate any interest except for the normal work functions. I had initially hinted that we would not suit and finally had to tell him off as he would call me late at night and even sms me after the call to ask whether I am asleep. Duh! Stupid question! Not only that, he would call a few times during the weekends even when he knew I was attending classes then. Luckily I had intented to leave that place for another job and does not have to face him everyday else I would most probably go mad! 
And then there were a few other minor incidents on and off, but these people would not even get a chance to go on a date with me as I would cut them off even before that. You can't really get rid of them straight away as they will continue to call and sms even when you tell them very clearly that you are not interested, it will eventually die off.
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