Hi, Ya'll!
I've been actively not participating on this site because I've been dating! I wanted to share my experiences with you and let you all know that I haven't found the "one" yet. In fact, I'm getting very discouraged.
One man is either too needy or too fast, too clingy, or an ass! I did break down and subscribe to some of the sites where you have to pay.....specifically, Yahoo Personals--I'll start with this one.
After the first couple of days I did hook up with who I thought was a great guy....well, in his first email to me, he sent me his cell phone number. When I didn't call him within a few hours of sending me his phone number, he began hitting me with all of his emails saying what a loser I was! To make a long story short, I had to have him blocked and also had to report him to the site administrators, who immediately had him removed from the site. Really scary stuff! Afterward, I joined Match.com -- well, lotsa cuties there.....I spent a lot of time emailing who I thought was attractive to me.....I didn't get one answer back. What I did find is that the guy that was harassing me on Yahoo Personals had followed me over to Match.com.... 
Recently, I was contacted by who I thought was very handsome man on another free dating site....I met him for breakfast. He said he was 5'10". He turned out to be maybe, 5'5" -- he told me he hadn't been laid for 3 years as he was on a boat!?  Geez...exit stage right!!!
The biggest "downer" in my "dating" experience was that I hooked up with someone who lived over 1300 miles away. We emailed each other constantly, we spoke on the phone for hours and hours. He bought tickets to come see me in Vegas, I booked a hotel room at the MGM Grand. A week before he was supposed to come out to see me, he told me he had to visit his sick cousin on the east coast and that he would call me when he got back. Then he disappeared. I basically emailed him telling him what I thought.....and that I couldn't have a relationship with someone I couldn't trust. He has since apologized but things between us will never be the same. I've got the "three bear blues", ya'll --- when am I gonna find the guy that's "just right"? 
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azgirl701
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Jun 28 @ 1:35PM
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HANG IN THERE STARCHILD YOU WILL FIND SOMEONE MIGHT HAVE TO GO THROUGH SOME BAD APPLES
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etobin45
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Jun 28 @ 1:38PM
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There are so many frogs to be kissed before one turns out to be the real prince! After two years, I found my prince and had it taken much more time than that, it would certainly have been worth the wait. What good does giving up do? You would be no better off then..............
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fenderchick
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Jun 28 @ 1:38PM
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I agree with ^, your a great lady, just will have to keep on looking, after all there is a great guy out there for you he just has to fight his way through all the not great ones too...Nice to see you back in town!!!
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starchild888
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Jun 28 @ 1:39PM
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HMMMM....maybe the whole damn orchard has been harvested 
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starchild888
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Jun 28 @ 1:41PM
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Thanks for sweet words, Fenderchick, I don't think I'm giving up.....just kinda gettin' a bit "bruised" if you catch my drift...... 
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3BearMom
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Jun 28 @ 2:07PM
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Will I would let you borrow my Three Bears but they are kind of a one women pack of bears lol -- sorry your feeling so blue -- but there is someone out there for each of us and yours as will as mine are just taking the scenic route - darn them they need to get their little hineys in gear and get on over here and find us.
Keep your chin up and smile makes people wonder what you are up too 
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yashaenka
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Jun 28 @ 2:09PM
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There is between both men and women a lot of lower hanging fruit, but remember usually nothing worth having comes easy so look higher on the tree, a footstool or a ladder may come in handy!!!!! 
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starchild888
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Jun 28 @ 2:37PM
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Gee, Yashaenka, I'd grab a ladder, but I have this fear of heights, guess I'm just gonna have to tough it out to go for that "higher hangin' fruit"
And about the "three bear blues" I was gonna write a song about it, and then there's a really nice lady on this site by the name of "3BearMom", go figure! 
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Mel_37214
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Jun 28 @ 2:57PM
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I have come to the conclusion that all guys single in our range have major flaws.
Hmm, so that sounded harsh and probably too general. But I have yet to meet anyone in the last 3 years that wasnt too needy, an alcoholic, or a player. I am hoping to be proved wrong about my assumption one day, though.
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starchild888
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Jun 28 @ 3:01PM
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Yup, Mel, it can be a crap shoot at best -- so far I've not invited one man over to my house. He'd have to be pretty special for me to allow them into my home--it's my one safe sanctuary.
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illusion790
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Jun 28 @ 4:34PM
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My dating for the most part has been positive, with the exception of maybe 2? I won't post how many men or dates I've been on in the last 3 years...but for the time being, I'm on hiatus. I need a break, dating just seems to be so much work!! 
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callmemax
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Jun 28 @ 5:01PM
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we've all heard, "good things don't come easy." if they did, there wouldn't be a need for dating sites. we'd exit one relationship, and enter the next one, at will. we all say, we're baggage free. but all of us have deal-breakers, and the more relationships we've been in, the more deal-breakers we use. smokers, drinkers, gamblers, druggies, workaholics, whatever--- we automatically throw out. if, neither will relocate, distance is factored in. besides, we all KNOW, the good guys / gals are already in a relationship. or not...  good luck.
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sdkaligirl
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Jun 28 @ 5:18PM
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It'll happen when you least expect it. Sounds like you have had some bad experiences here in cyber land and meeting in the real world. I just recently got back on MD after my engagement of 4.5 years broke up. I don't know if my Mr. Right is out there but I'll keep an open mind and see what happens.
The good news for you is, for about 8 years I traveled for work so I would get online and meet guys from the places I would be traveling, this proved to be a very good experience for me, I built several long term friendships which I still enjoy today, they weren't my Mr. Right but they happily showed me their neck of the woods, recommended places to go, things to see, good eats and we had fun, they enjoyed hearing about Cali and I just never worried about them being the one because I know it's all in God's time not mine. Anyways, I hope this gives you some hope that even if they aren't the one you may make some treasured friendships along the way.
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starchild888
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Jun 28 @ 6:13PM
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well, I've only been doing this dating thing since about January--wow I can't even imagine how it would be to be looking for 3, 4, 5 years--hey I'm gettin' old, next thing you know I'll be doing the online datin' from the old folks home!
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misschoos
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Sep 1 @ 11:11AM
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