I was reading a blog that Diamondrain wrote on June 26 about celebrating birthdays and it got me to thinking………
I will be turning the big 60 next month. I am not crazy about turning 60 for a number of reasons:
1. I work for a very large employer, when you turn 60 you might as well have died, no one respects your opinion any more, you don’t get invited to after work functions any more, you might as well forget posting for a new position; no one wants to bring a 60 year old into their department…. I could go on and on.
2. If I tell people I am not celebrating my birthday they say, “Well it is a lot better than the alternative, being dead!” Now why would anyone think that would make me feel better? I am so old I could be dead? Do they say this to someone turning 25?
3. Men in my age bracket can and do get younger women, a lot of men my age won’t even consider dating someone this age…….. Yes, it’s true. Okay some of you will say there are younger men out there that like older women; well I haven’t met one yet.
Unfortunately I can go on but I won’t.
I like turning 60 because I “hear” I don’t look it, but what is 60 supposed to look like anyway? I rarely see someone over 60 that look their age because in my mind 60 is a Senior Citizen who gets free this and that, discounts on coffee and movie tickets. One time to prove a point when I was 50, I asked the ticket person at the movie theater for a senior ticket; she sold me one. Okay did that mean I looked like I was 60 or didn’t she care?
Well even though I don’t want to be entering my 60’s that is the way it is, I do look fairly good for my age, I am healthy and full of energy, I am independent, make a decent living and have made many wonderful friends over these years that are still around and haven’t deserted me. It’s life and why not accept it and go with it…… after all, it is better than……………you know what they say ha ha
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RomanticLibra106
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Jul 7 @ 8:11AM
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As an animal lover, I had to say this first even though the topic is not about animals. ADORABLE DOG! Now for the blog.
No one likes growing older, but age is a # for a lot of us. I don't look MY age AT all or so I am told over and over and over again. People think I'm 35 to 45 even in person.
Yes younger guys chase me continually and if they're more than 9 years younger than me, I tell them bye bye. I do NOT want to date someone that much younger.
Nor do I want to date more than a few years older because I have too much energy and look too young for an older man - I'm just not attracted unless he really doesn't look his age and doesn't have a lot of health issues, but a lot of younger men have a lot of health issues - again it's how you take care of yourself. Just a preference for a bit younger men with me.
My mother is 86 years old and looks 60. She has more energy than the law should allow for a person her age (ha ha). She has an immaculate vegetable and flower garden she weeds herself; a carefully trimmed manicured lawn; you can eat off her floors and her house is immaculate. She had a hip replacement last year and it doesn't hold HER back or down.
All that said, people shouldn't judge us by our age - ANY age. Some people will be immature when they're 90 - some people are old and decrepite when they're 30.
It is all how you take care of yourself and how you view yourself. If you think you're old, you're OLD - you think old and your body follows suit. If you have always drank to excess; smoked; done drugs; are or was a tanning salon and/or sun worshipper; and never moisturized your skin, you will look old and wrinkled.
Live for today and tomorrow - not the past. Today is all we really have. Tomorrow is a gift. Enjoy and don't worry what other people think about aging. They'll get there soon enough.
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Johnny1951
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Jul 7 @ 8:49AM
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I can relate to your blog.....
I am now 56 not quite 60 but it is close...Do I look my age?.. I sure think so.....My picture does not show the weathered marks on my face from decades of being a real sun lover.....But I am happy to be alive...Sure it would be great to be 25 again...But that is not going to happen so, I either accept my age or live in denial... I choose to accept my age..I have had a tremendous amount of great moments in my life...And like everyone else I have had some moments I wish I didn't experience also...
Each age in our lives offers different opportunities...And each age also limits opportunities as well....
When I was in my 20's I would not even look at a woman in her 30's as far as dating her, let alone older than that...Now at my age, I would not even consider dating a woman below 45 because I have been there....I have no illusions of trying to relive my early days at all...When I was young I had all the fun and romance a guy could hope for being in rock bands and just being that young..They were terrific times, but that is in the past..
It's never easy looking at the idea of the fact you're not 25 anymore....But at the age us baby boomers are now, being who we really are & accepting it, is far more important that dreaming who we would like to be again.....That 25 year old.... 
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OceanTravler
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Jul 7 @ 9:08AM
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Turning 30 was my big trauma year. I thought once I reached that age, I was old. When I hit 40, things couldn't have been better, and they continue to get better all the time. This year I will make 64. I hurt a little more in the morning and I can't run the 4 minute mile, but I never could anyway, so what. I am still looking for that next year. Right now I have a couple of ladies in their 40's that I am courting. Ain't life great.
Age is in the mind. I think 25, therefore I am 25. Why think old? At the tender age of 16, I was killed in a car accident. They brought me back, but it left me with a damaged leg. Since then I have been living on borrowed time I believe, so I am trying to live it to the fullest. That's what you should do, live each day like it will be your last. Enjoy it, find the beauty in it, and have fun doing it. If you think old, you will be old. I'll bet that dog you have in your picture doesn't think about age. All he wants is that next pet and love from you. Then his life is made. That's what you should do, Find something that makes you happy and enjoy it. Enjoy that birthday and look towards getting the next one. You're healthy, have a good income and friends, what more could you ask for?
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shepanther
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Jul 7 @ 9:33AM
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I just checked out two books from library: Red Hot Mamas (written about being a woman over fifty) and Women Who Run With Wolves (a book I have known of for decades and not gotten around to reading, although I've known it would be important and likely affirming reading).
I think you are beautiful.
I think that ageism is a major malady in our culture and we get that to deal with.
A great aunt of mine at the age of 80 or so was probably the most sensual and sexy woman I ever met. She never married. She was softspoken, well read, and
had the huge breasts of a woman who is heavy. She was genteel and adventurous both. She was also incredibly beautiful in the true sense of the word beauty.
Did you ever see that "Love Boat" particular story about the guy who is totally infatuated with this blond bombshell in her early twenties and follows her everywhere. Finally, he is able to have a face to face and he asks her a question.
She replies. Her voice is a squeaky high "mouse" voice and instantly the man
turns away and makes a face. What's beauty? What's attractive? Our culture
is diseased about this.
Anyway, I think you are beautiful.
Happy Birthday. 
shepanther
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findme4u2
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Jul 7 @ 9:39AM
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Your not getting old, your just getting more mature and refined as time passes. When I turned 30 I thought my life was over, done, time to go off and be made into soilent green LOL! Well so far that hasn't happend and I guess if they want they can eat me someday if I am not too tough. As far as employment, I have 20 employees of which 13 are over the age of 55 and 9 are over 63, who else in this world nowdays does any work!!!! They are the best employees I have ever seen. I will have to retire when I am over 100 becouse the young people nowdays don't want to work, who's gonna work then!
No, life is definatly not over for you, and if any of the guys out there would prefer a younger woman over you, then obviously they are not mature enough to handle you, right?  Besides, most of the younger women are mostly after a free ride of some sort, let em have them and all the headaches LOL! Men that are really mature are looking for real love, does anyone know what that means out there? Hmmm, I wonder.....
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mommadooks
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Jul 7 @ 9:46AM
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I am over the 60 mark, and being single find the only draw back to my age is finding someone to go out with. The guys close to my age have no energy to do much of any thing. And I just cant see myself with someone that could be you sons age. There fore I spend a lot more time alone then I would like, but I love life anyway.
Iva
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redtigr
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Jul 7 @ 10:19AM
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ummmm....
...I know just how you feel...
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alivenwell351
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Jul 7 @ 10:49AM
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Turning 30 was my big trauma year
Same Here....something like...damn, like or not, I'm not a kid any more! turns out I didn't like it at all!!
40 just kind of came and went...
50 was kind of a milestone...someone could have made a lot of money betting years earlier that I WOULD make it that far...
60...much to my surprise, I didn't feel any different than I did the day before.
You'll be fine...you're fine now, and one day won't change that a bit.. 
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Duffy869
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Jul 7 @ 11:00AM
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In 10 days I'll be 62 and I am enjoying myself. I am all ready counting down till I am 65. I have never had a problem with any age I have been. Some people make a big fuss about being a certain age, I just live all years to the fullest. Yes there are some days the aches and pains kick in but I look at it as part of the "Golden Years" or "The RustyYears". When I was Younger I couldn't wait till I was 21 now it 65, at 21 I could do what I wanted to and now at 65 the gov. pays me to do what I want to do.
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cudahudson
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Jul 7 @ 11:33AM
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I am 55, don't feel it nor act it. I tried the grown up thing once and didn't like it too much. My grandfather lived to be 100, grandmother 98, father is still alive and doing well so is my mom. I want to be like my grandfather, he walked with a cane, not that he neded it but when someone in front of him was walking slow he would actually poke them in the butt. Old people get away with a lot. And as far as being listened too, people do listen to older people. I get invited to many functions. I am always told I am funny and fun to be around. So getting older to me is just that, a number. I refuse to grow up. 
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luneib
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Jul 7 @ 11:56AM
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First let me say, you look maaaarvelous for your age .
Age should be irrelevant whether it be in the workplace posting to a new job or in dating, but people just get so hung up on it. I have a friend, ex bf, we are best friends still. I asked him today what age woman he would consider settling down with, he said age did not matter to him, but....we dated almost a year, even went on vacations together, I am much much older than him, our personalities clicked, we were perfect together. He could not commit to me so I broke it off after 10 months of dating, so you can't tell me that age does not matter, grrrrrrrr. To some people they say one thing, but mean another.
I wish age didn't matter so much, probably why I can't find work, though it is illegal to ask a person's age at an interview, I have only encountered that as of recent on a job app where they asked my birthdate. I am honest about that, but probably why I didn't get the job, grrrrrrr.
I don't feel old either and I am mid 50s.
Some people are old at age 25, how can people judge like that?
That just was not cool what your coworkers said to you, that it is better than being dead, huh?  That was just rude.
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dalagae2
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Jul 10 @ 10:26AM
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Living proof,
In the Philippines, a majority of us get married at ages 18-21. It's not as common
now as then, but it still pretty much is the standard. So when I separated from
my husband at the age of 25 - I felt that life had ended. And that's what my
officemates and generally everyone around me said about me. The Philippines
is a young country.
When I would go to the bars/discoes together with some unmarried/divorced
gfs, we had a hard time meeting single men. I am not exaggerating when I say
it would be a measly ratio of 1 is to 8 girls - and the man was in most cases
full of himself.
I'm now 42 but I've never forgotten that lesson.
So I can relate to what you are feeling about your birthday.
They say age is just a number. But some days that can be an unpleasant reminder. I think instead : that the age I'm at is always the best age I'm supposed to be, to be the best I can be.
As for finding love, sometimes we just need to keep opening doors, and to be stay
on the path. You have to be willing to risk, and get out of your comfort zone.
Love like life is something you need to go out and meet. Each day. . . . I truly
believe this, so love scarred though I am, I still belive in love and that it will find me and you.
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